ok - I may seem a bit 'thick' with this question, but does anyone have any experience with reverse psychology in manifesting?
It just occurred to me today... I had been in fairly dire financial circumstances, and the one thing i was adamant about was that the money i needed would NOT COME TO ME THROUGH MY FAMILY OR FRIENDS. I didn't want to be a 'burden' on anyone. And i know we aren't supposed to 'worry' about the ways and means of receiving - but i didn't want it to BE this particular way.
Well, a couple days after i started 'worrying' about this particular 'thing' i got a call from a family member offering to pay ALL MY MOVING COSTS (i'm moving across country) - not a loan but a gift... A family member who has a reputation for not being very generous...
And then today, a friend met me for coffee and GAVE me the money i needed to pay my rent (in two days time.) Again, does not want me to even think about paying it back...
Ok - it seems obvious i know... as I was focusing on what I DIDN'T WANT - which of course is the easiest thing to manifest in my experience :( So my question is this; could this work if done deliberately? and should it? i mean the idea is to be peaceful and joyous, not irritated and worried....
Has ANYONE else experienced something like this?
I have been trying to convey this fact through so many answers but it is not getting through because people tend to associate "avoidance" with the idea, "therefore it will not happen to me".
The reality is that everyone can relate to experiencing things that they do not want to happen to them, but they do not associate their choice to "worry" as being the cause of their suffering.
As far as I know, it only works if your sincerity in not getting help from your family was real.
In other words, if one tries to adopt a desire for avoiding something, but secretly wished that it would happen, I highly doubt that it would work.
However, coming back to your situation, your success had mostly to do with "FOCUS" of intention rather than whether the intention had anything to do with something you want or did not want.
Ultimately, it all comes down to intensity of focus.
It does not matter what it is that you focus on, as long as the focus is STRONG, INTENSE, REPETITIVE combined with, an EMOTIONAL EXPERIENCE, you will constantly participate in the physical reflection of that experience.
The idea that you attract positive because positivity is an attractive energy is very misleading, because it leads people to avoid taking responsibility for their negativity as the cause of their negative experience.
Because in reality we attract whatever that, we participate constantly in consciousness.
If that participation is one of complaining about our current situation, then we constantly attract more and more of the same conditions of complaint because the physical is constantly reflective of the content of one's conscious attention.
However, the trick is that we have to be sincere in our condition of suffering.
WE have to be sincere in our desire to avoid a situation of suffering in order to experience that suffering. There has to be a total commitment in our desire to avoid it in order for us to experience it.
You were focusing clearly on the fact that you did not want this help and I am sure that you would have associated some emotional experience of discomfort with the help. If you did experience discomfort because of the help you received, then your attraction was very successful.
Therefore, the question you have to ask yourself is "IS THIS HOW I WANT TO ATTRACT WHAT I WANT?" Because you are attracting an emotional experience combined with a physical counterpart that represents that emotional experience.
You really can attract the same experience with an emotionally preferred response rather than an experience of avoidance.
Remember that "avoidance" IS an experience.
Likewise, "I don't want" IS an experience.
As long as you can experience it in your focus of conscious attention, it does not matter if it is something you want or do not want, because you will attract both as long as your focus is intense and, shall we say "obsessive?"
What you attracted was the physical counterpart of an emotional experience that you did not want. Your intensity of focus on what you did not want was so strong' that you managed to physically and experientially confirm it.
Perhaps, this may not be what you want as your constant physical reflection.
You may want your physical surrounding to reflect that which you want to experience.
The process is exactly the same, except you find comfort in the fact that your friends are helping you in your moment of need.
On the long run, you may not want to associate your friends and family as being responsible for your source of stability and joy. It is better to be less specific and allow the universe or the source of creation, to work out the details of who, when, where and how the physical reality begins to reflect the content of your obsession in consciousness.
Finally I am so glad that you had this experience and through your first had account, confirmed the mechanism of how the law of attraction actually works.
I know that you will use this experience as an important cornerstone in your mastery of the Law of attraction.
Thank you for sharing.
This question is exactly what I was talking about in my question How can the power of fear be used in positive ways?
It seems you have stumbled on what I did years ago. That all thought is influence and worry and fear are very powerful influence, why not find uses for instead of trying to damper worry and fear?
Worry and fear about what you do want, rather than what you don't want.
Worry and fear is expectation with emotion. The more you worry and fear the more emotion and expectation you have.
You are the first person to see what my original question was about.
One last thing, also see my answer to my own question.
The infamous Law of Attraction (LOA) has been heavily debunked here:
"If you are in fact claiming that thoughts are all powerful, then why can't you fly, walk through walls, move mountains, or materialize and dematerialize matter with your thoughts?"
Source: www (dot) debunkingskeptics (dot) com (slash) LawofAttraction (dot) htm
(I'm somehow unfortunately not allowed to post the link here, because my post is still 'new' ?...)
Your thoughts/response ?
Belief, whether negative or positive is formed in exactly the same way, you attract into your life whatever you give your energy, attention or focus to. The intensity of the belief is proportional to the intensity of the emotion, of the focus, of the attention.
What you describe is a clear example of putting a lot of energy and attention into what you don't want, something that you fear, in so doing you are creating a strong negative energy, you are polarizing the energy, activating it, putting it into motion. Polarized means having two poles. You are in effect creating and emitting a polarized waveform of thought energy in which is embedded the original intention (attract money into your life) as illustrated in the diagrammatic representation.
Whenever you create a strong negative energy vibration, such as in this case your fear of being a burden, a strong positive balancing energy is automatically created to maintain equilibrium.
There is always a double flow of energy between the poles, a flow of energy in both directions that happens so fast that in practice it seems simultaneous. It is simply a difference of direction, negative pulls inwards, positive pushes outwards, they both have the same effect. They can be represented graphically as being the start and the end of the color spectrum situated exactly opposite the visible green, that is, in the center of the "V-" negative green
The spectrum graph clearly indicates in symbolic form the double doorway, the passage linking the visible with the invisible, the physical with the non physical, the material with the non material. It is the point where the infinitely small meets the infinitely big, the central point "v-" in the negative green sector
which can easily shift between the states
It is the manifestation process in symbolic form;
Fire, the sun, the spirit in the sky, the cone of power ... wind and water, yin/yang that governs the four corners of the earth
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