My sister is very ill and getting worse. In many ways, this illness and her absolute insistence on 'telling the story' of her illness all the time is a mirror for me and has been helpful in showing me how I still insist on telling my old stories. It has also been a great reminder for me that I am in charge of my reality and I can't heal her or make her see that she can make a different choice, I can only focus on making my own different choices. But then I started wondering about this. If I am creating 100% of my reality, am I 'creating' the sick version of her? And if so, I am clearly still missing something as my reality should shift if I have 'learnt the lesson' (I mean that in the sense of getting to a point where I no longer need to create that reality).

I also noticed today that I have heard about lots of people getting very ill in the past few weeks. People's moms and aunts and so on. People I have no connection with, so it is not personal in any way, but the stories of ill people is mounting up and I am starting to take heed. Just not sure what it means - that I should watch out for illness, that I am thinking thoughts that will take me towards illness, that I have still not totally released my helpless thinking? I can't work this out.

asked 24 Dec '14, 07:42

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If I am creating 100% of my reality, am I 'creating' the sick version of her?

Absolutely. Totally your creation.

And if so, I am clearly still missing something as my reality should shift if I have 'learnt the lesson' (I mean that in the sense of getting to a point where I no longer need to create that reality).

The ultimate lesson to learn is that there are no lessons to learn :)

The aim of the game is to let go of any Judgement that being sick or being well is right/wrong.

  • It's about being okay with whatever way you are choosing to create your experience of another person in your reality.

  • It's about being okay with whatever experiences you are choosing to explore in your own reality.

  • It's about being okay with whoever you are.

  • It's about self-acceptance at the deepest possible level.

  • It's about feeling good under any and all conditions

There is no right or wrong way for you or anyone else to be. There just Is.

When you are as emotionally unconcerned about how you are creating others in your reality to be as you would be when asking someone to pass the salt at the dinner table, you'll probably no longer create this reality that is currently getting your attention because there'll be no reason to do so.

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...but then again, when you reach that state of neutrality about this subject, you'll probably not even notice you're not creating that reality any more :)

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answered 24 Dec '14, 09:12

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@Stingray, wow, thank you so much.I have realised that I have become more an more unconcerned, but then had a moment of 'eeek, why is this showing up'. Is it not, though, still showing that I am holding onto beliefs around illness that I need to clean up?

(25 Dec '14, 05:54) Antheia
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@Antheia - If you are noticing that it's in your reality then some part of you must be resonating with it. And if what you are noticing is not making you feel good (i.e. your current Physical perspective on the subject is not harmonizing with your Broader perspective on the subject) then, yes, it's probably worth the relatively small time investment of cleaning it up :)

(25 Dec '14, 06:36) Stingray

"When you are as emotionally unconcerned about how you are creating others in your reality to be as you would be when asking someone to pass the salt at the dinner table" @Stingray, wouldn't that make life so bland as to be not worth living? If you never feel great love or great concern or great anything. Just "he is cute", "she is sick", but I am responding to that the same way as I would to asking for salt at dinner. This has been bugging me quite a bit today.

(25 Dec '14, 12:25) Antheia
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@Antheia - You've only quoted half the sentence :) The full sentence is a specific answer to your question about removing ideas of illness from your reality. Let me rephrase to make it clearer...When you give attention to something (good or bad feeling), you get more of it. When you become neutral about something, you get less of it. If you want more good-feeling stuff in your reality, make sure the attention you are giving to everything is good-feeling. If you can't, make your attention neutral

(26 Dec '14, 05:02) Stingray

@Stingray, thank you so much for clarifying that. I admit I didn't get that distinction. This really helps.

(26 Dec '14, 06:24) Antheia
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@Stingray does it mean that even though Antheia can create a version of her sister who is not sick in Antheia's presence, her sister can still be sick ? Because after all her sister is the one who chooses to be sick or not sick, not Antheia. Confused over this point

(31 Jan '15, 18:51) kakaboo

@kakaboo - "Because after all her sister is the one who chooses to be sick or not sick, not Antheia" - In your reality, you are the creator. There is no sister other than what some part of Antheia's consciousness has determined her to be in her physical reality. While there will be a consciousness playing on the physical gameboard that plays the role of Antheia's sister, she will only intersect that consciousness in her reality according to her own vibrational interpretation.

(03 Feb '15, 18:45) Stingray

@Stingray you mentioned before creating is more like rendezvous-ing rather than 'creating'. so I shall use that since it seems easier to understand it that way. Let's say I have a friend who got into an accident and became handicapped, and it's because I rendezvous-ed with him during that period of time that it got my attention. I could chose to forget about him and not focus on him afterwards, and his handicap may not get my attention anymore when in my presence but he's still handicapped?

(04 Feb '15, 03:43) kakaboo

@Stingray- Does a child in womb of his mother,arranged his food himself? Or The ALMIGHTY GOD arranges his food even prior to sending him to this world?

(18 Feb '15, 00:07) Zee

@Zee - It seems like you're making a statement, not asking a question :)

(22 Feb '15, 06:17) Stingray

@kakaboo - "his handicap may not get my attention anymore when in my presence but he's still handicapped?" - That's just another version of the old philosophical question: "Does a falling tree in a forest make a sound if there is no-one around to hear it?" :) http://www.inwardquest.com/questions/5596/ and http://www.inwardquest.com/questions/1744 ...and even a variation of the Schrödinger's cat thought experiment.

(22 Feb '15, 06:23) Stingray
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@kakaboo - If you need to influence a vibration in order to observe it, how can you ever know what the true nature of the vibration is? It will change as you observe. It becomes an academic debate without end of whether your friend (beyond your perceived attraction/rendezvous-ing) has a bodily condition that you term "handicapped" or not. In your own physical reality, you can never know the true nature of things using your physical senses because your senses are part of "The Game"

(22 Feb '15, 06:28) Stingray

@Stingray- haha. .no no..i am asking a question.Your insight and opinion
are very important for me.I analyse different theories in my mind.You know where i stand..:)

(24 Feb '15, 02:36) Zee

@Zee - If the mother is not consciously arranging "food" for an unborn child then that suggests that it is coordinated by a "Broader Perspective" that coordinates much else in physical reality. If it suits your belief system to call that "ALMIGHTY GOD" then use that term. For many people these days, a term like that would feel fear-based and disempowering, and that would be opposite to what I refer to as Broader Perspective

(24 Feb '15, 05:55) Stingray
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In the Infinite sense, YES because there is only Self and yet in the Infinite Self your sister is perfectly well because there is only Self. However, while fiddling through the illusion of separation and finite existence (: which itself is within the Self :) you still caused it due to your choice of focus. Basically, if you're vibration is perfect all the time, such things cannot be in your experience so either sis keeps the information from you, sis "dies" or you "die" or as is often the case, because every one fundamentally is well being one with Self and every one desires well-being, she will be well i.e. this issue would never have come up. This is why Jesus said "Be ye perfect as your Father in heaven (: your Self, the real YOU, the One, the All, the I, the I AM etc. :) is perfect" i.e. keep your focus on that which is good and pleasing to you. It is a process though and if you've practiced a lot negativity in the past it will, usually, take some practice to sustain a different focus.

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answered 25 Dec '14, 11:56

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Thank you @harsha, this is a very helpful viewpoint.

(26 Dec '14, 06:38) Antheia

it is not reasonable
to believe a sister is
creating her sisters illness,
neither needs the other

to exist, as the world does
go on when we pass on

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answered 25 Dec '14, 20:00

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I not going to get to long winded about this. You are in the same reality as your sister but not creating it. This especially true if you realize that there is little you can do about it, so don't participate in it. Only think about how much you love your sister. You would love for her to be well but must allow her to be however she is. I know this is pretty tough love but it reminds me of my wife so I know what I'm talking about.

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answered 13 Feb '15, 23:16

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Thank you Tom.

(14 Feb '15, 16:13) Antheia
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