My biggest challenge in deliberately creating my reality, is the very stubborn belief, that I can't just align with what I want and then allow it into my experience, instead I believe I'm not entitled to have the things I asked for, unless I offer some physical action for someone or for society.
My biggest fear in deliberate creation is, that I take advantage of other people and that my desires mean for some people who are co-creating with me, that they have to do something they don't want to do, that they are "forced" to co-create with me (because I launched that desire).
An example would be: I would like to have a cleaning lady for my apartment but I can't align with this desire because part of me beliefs that it is unfair if someone does something for me I don't want to do. I feel like if a deliberately create a reality that contains a cleaning lady e.g., I make someone do something they secretly don't want to do, that they would rather spend their time doing something else (and I currently believe that if they knew about deliberate creation, they certainly would not spend their time cleaning my apartment, because, like already mentioned, I feel like they would rather do something else).
I know these beliefs may sound strange to you, dear deliberate creators on IQ, and you will probably tell me, that I cannot create for someone else and I would actually have to agree with you :) but still, I continue to feel guilty about my desires that involve other people doing things for me, that I personally do not want to do myself.
I hope I can articulate my challenge here well, sometimes I have trouble putting my fears into words in a way that they make sense :)
I also would like to be wealthy, but I have huge resistance to this desire, because, again, I feel like the money would give me the power to "make other people work for me, although they probably wouldn't to this work, if they were wealthy as well". This belief may sound bizarre, I know but it feels like very hard to shift.
My beliefs about money and work and wealth are the ones that are the most challenges to shift and I already changed a lot of my other limiting beliefs in the last two years. But, despite being in the vortex ca. 70% of my time, these beliefs are standing in my way.
I also don't belief that I am worthy enough to just "take and take and not help other people, but to just focus on my own desires. I sure have to give back to other people who co-create with me?!" It seems selfish to me, to just think about my desires and what I want.
Also, it's hard for me to believe, that "I can have everything that I want without depriving anyone of anything", a quote that Abraham Hicks use frequently. Of course, I feel rotten as I buy into all these limiting beliefs, but I seem to go around in circles on this topic.
When I feel really desperate (because I know there is way out of this, I just haven't found it), I remind myself that all my desired realities are contained within me, and that these people who could be my cleaning lady, are already lined up for me to see, but I still feel guilty for these people.
So, how do I accept my worthiness in a way that my ego self can accept it? How is it no possible for me to deprive anyone of anything?
asked 22 Oct '16, 08:41
Maybe your feelings about all of this are telling you that you would find fulfillment in some kind of helping profession, volunteer work with the poor and homeless, and the like. This page goes into the many benefits to us, emotionally and physically, from volunteer work. http://www.helpguide.org/articles/work-career/volunteering-and-its-surprising-benefits.htm
Consider also that people helping you get the same benefits. As I shared with you before, I found a certain satisfaction doing cleaning work, especially when people were appreciative. You could be a cleaning person's "dream employer." Smiles, appreciation, a Christmas bonus etc.
I would suggest that you reflect on what Bashar says, that nothing has a built-in meaning, and this includes working for others. There's nothing negative about it, including cleaning work, unless we choose to perceive so.
One more thing, re your feelings about becoming wealthy. Think of all the good you could do, the happiness you could bring, the charitable contributions you could make, with all that money! :)
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answered 04 Nov '16, 21:28
One way to develop a sense of worthiness is to develop the habit of declaring it. Get to know the body sensations, the thought patterns, the emotional experiences that arise from feeling unworthy, and when you notice them - stop - and remember to declare your worthiness. You may not believe it at first, but I do - and many of us here do, so someone in the world believes it.
Try Abraham's Think a Better Thought process.
Also, it has been important for me to stop telling the story of my unworthiness to myself and to others.
A sort of more advanced idea that might or might not be helpful at this point, is the idea that none of us is worthy of all the good that is available to us. Worthiness is a concept of the human, local mind. It is not a consideration of the spirit. There is no way - and no need - to be worthy of eternal joy, prosperity, love, etc. We can't earn it. There is no way to pay for it. There is nothing the human can do that could even begin to be equal consideration for all that good. If this thought fills you with awe and a sense of relief, a relaxation into joyous receiving, than indulge in it. If it fills you with fear, please don't think about it any more.
answered 07 Nov '16, 16:55
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