My biggest challenge in deliberately creating my reality, is the very stubborn belief, that I can't just align with what I want and then allow it into my experience, instead I believe I'm not entitled to have the things I asked for, unless I offer some physical action for someone or for society.

My biggest fear in deliberate creation is, that I take advantage of other people and that my desires mean for some people who are co-creating with me, that they have to do something they don't want to do, that they are "forced" to co-create with me (because I launched that desire).

An example would be: I would like to have a cleaning lady for my apartment but I can't align with this desire because part of me beliefs that it is unfair if someone does something for me I don't want to do. I feel like if a deliberately create a reality that contains a cleaning lady e.g., I make someone do something they secretly don't want to do, that they would rather spend their time doing something else (and I currently believe that if they knew about deliberate creation, they certainly would not spend their time cleaning my apartment, because, like already mentioned, I feel like they would rather do something else).

I know these beliefs may sound strange to you, dear deliberate creators on IQ, and you will probably tell me, that I cannot create for someone else and I would actually have to agree with you :) but still, I continue to feel guilty about my desires that involve other people doing things for me, that I personally do not want to do myself.

I hope I can articulate my challenge here well, sometimes I have trouble putting my fears into words in a way that they make sense :)

I also would like to be wealthy, but I have huge resistance to this desire, because, again, I feel like the money would give me the power to "make other people work for me, although they probably wouldn't to this work, if they were wealthy as well". This belief may sound bizarre, I know but it feels like very hard to shift.

My beliefs about money and work and wealth are the ones that are the most challenges to shift and I already changed a lot of my other limiting beliefs in the last two years. But, despite being in the vortex ca. 70% of my time, these beliefs are standing in my way.

I also don't belief that I am worthy enough to just "take and take and not help other people, but to just focus on my own desires. I sure have to give back to other people who co-create with me?!" It seems selfish to me, to just think about my desires and what I want.

Also, it's hard for me to believe, that "I can have everything that I want without depriving anyone of anything", a quote that Abraham Hicks use frequently. Of course, I feel rotten as I buy into all these limiting beliefs, but I seem to go around in circles on this topic.

When I feel really desperate (because I know there is way out of this, I just haven't found it), I remind myself that all my desired realities are contained within me, and that these people who could be my cleaning lady, are already lined up for me to see, but I still feel guilty for these people.

So, how do I accept my worthiness in a way that my ego self can accept it? How is it no possible for me to deprive anyone of anything?

asked 22 Oct '16, 08:41

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Maybe your feelings about all of this are telling you that you would find fulfillment in some kind of helping profession, volunteer work with the poor and homeless, and the like. This page goes into the many benefits to us, emotionally and physically, from volunteer work.

Consider also that people helping you get the same benefits. As I shared with you before, I found a certain satisfaction doing cleaning work, especially when people were appreciative. You could be a cleaning person's "dream employer." Smiles, appreciation, a Christmas bonus etc.

I would suggest that you reflect on what Bashar says, that nothing has a built-in meaning, and this includes working for others. There's nothing negative about it, including cleaning work, unless we choose to perceive so.

One more thing, re your feelings about becoming wealthy. Think of all the good you could do, the happiness you could bring, the charitable contributions you could make, with all that money! :)

B: We remind you that a new habit is in order, a very important new habit in your behavior. We have discussed this several times, but it will not hurt to remind you again because it is so important for you to develop this new habit; so remind you again, we will. Until such time as you make this part of your day to day personality, until such time as this is second nature for you, we will always be willing to discuss this, to remind you, to implement and incorporate this notion in your behavior, because it will assist you in making the changes that you wish to make in your lives, on a day to day pragmatic level.

And so, we remind you that this new habit is simply the habit of not automatically, nor immediately, no matter how the situation looks, assigning or ascribing a negative connotation to it. To give yourself a moment to look at what is going on and to learn to see it as a neutral circumstance before you see it as negative or positive or anything in particular. But particularly in those circumstances where you may have been taught to, more often than not, automatically assign a negative connotation, a bad feeling, colloquially, if you wish to put it that way. Then, even more importantly, can you take the time to incorporate and instill this new habit of neutrality within you so that you can get more out of the situation. Learn how to change and transform the situation in a positive way, rather than simply, automatically assuming it must be negative because of how it looks, based on how you have been taught.

Now, of course, we are not talking about ignoring your feelings, glossing them over, covering them up, pushing them down, suppressing them. By all means, if feelings come up, you should pay attention to them; but the idea is to understand why you have them. They are not automatic, and certain situations do not necessarily need to automatically generate those feelings in you, but if they are there, then you must pay attention to the fact why they are there. And generally, as we have said, they are there because you have been taught definitions about the situation that make those feeling seem to be the only logical reaction to have, when in fact they are not.

Again, we remind you, all situations are neutral. And if you learn to balance yourself and look at them, first and foremost, in that way, then you can gain more information, more discernment, more enlightenment from the circumstance as it has unfolded, no matter what it may be, no matter what it may be. And in remaining neutral, at least for a few moments, you give yourself the opportunity to learn to assign new meanings to it that will be relevant for you, regardless of what anyone else's intention in the circumstance may have been, regardless of what you may have been taught in the past to think about such circumstances, as you see them. Remaining relatively neutral at first, will give you an opportunity to gain greater insight, more depth of understanding as to how the circumstances came together, what they are based on in terms of the definitions that are going on in you and in others, in your society; and give you an opportunity to learn to replace those definitions in such a manner, so that in doing so, and in assigning new perspective and new meaning to the circumstance, you can then glean from it new impact, new effect, new meaning, new feeling. And learn how any situation can serve you in a positive and constructive and creative and expansive way, rather than continuing to live your lives assuming that certain situations must only, and can only be capable of generating negativity in your reality.

You are, you are the one that is generating the reality you experience, and even though someone else may be involved, it is your perception and your definition of it that determines the effect you personally extract from it in your life. Learn the new habit of taking a moment to pause and not automatically assign a negative meaning to circumstances, but give yourself the opportunity to see it as simply a neutral set of props, a neutral set of equations, a neutral circumstance that has come together for a variety of reasons, and in looking at it as a nexus point, you can then begin to assign new meaning by exploring the definitions that are within you, that have given it the meaning it already seems to have. For remember that these meanings, these feelings, these reactions to circumstances do not come with the circumstance; no circumstance carries a built in meaning. The meaning, the feelings, the reactions you have are already built within your consciousness, based on the definitions of life you have been taught. Learn the new habit of letting them go, and not automatically assuming that those definitions are definitions of an absolute reality, for there is no reality except the definition you give it, and that's what reality is. So learn the new habit, it will serve you, day to day, in practical and pragmatic ways. And we will remind you of this as many times as is necessary for it to become a part of your daily behavior and personality, and when it is, I guarantee 100% you will see a difference in your lives. And you will see that you have more ability to determine exactly in what direction your lives ought to go and what it is you are capable of believing, that is possible for you. And also, simultaneously, in looking at circumstances neutrally, you will become more capable of understanding how it is you may be of assistance to others who may be caught up in their own definitions, and unable to see a way to break out of the situation and circumstance, and unable to understand that it is their own definitions that have made the circumstance seem so iron clad, when in fact it is made of nothing but tissue paper definitions.

Learn that reality is only the product of your strongest beliefs and that is the only thing that makes it seem so solid and so immutable in that sense. Transmute these things by changing your definitions, by changing your awareness. It does not necessarily mean that you have to see cosmic consequence in every thing that happens to you, though on one level, of course, there always is. But nevertheless, it will give you insight, like what you would call an x-ray vision, into the nature and structure of synchronicity and circumstance and will give more ability to understand how circumstance hinges upon the strongest definitions you have been taught to believe are true.

We thank you for allowing us to share this notion, this perspective with you this day. And in return for the gift that you are giving our civilization in allowing this communication to unfold, I ask now, in what way may I be of service to you? Sharing!


answered 22 Oct '16, 16:01

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edited 22 Oct '16, 16:09


@Delphine - thank you a lot for your answer, I love reading your quotes :) Actually, at the moment, I'm a single mother of a quite demanding and wonderful little son, so theoretically, I already work enough and hard as well - my beliefs just want to convince me, that this work is not enough, that I should give back more, that I have to provide value to more people. Your answer has given me a lot to think about and I can feel the change coming already, so thank you very much!

(25 Oct '16, 15:09) spacemetalfantasy

@spacemetalfantasy, glad you apppreciate quotes, here's another, from Seth: "There is nothing more stimulating, more worthy of actualization, than the desire to change the world for the better. That is indeed each person's mission. You begin by working in that area of activity that is your own unique one, with your own life and activities. You begin in the corner of an office, or on the assembly line, or in the advertising agency, or in the kitchen. You begin where you are."

(26 Oct '16, 16:25) Delphine

Enjoy your little boy. Kids grow up so soon! :)

(26 Oct '16, 16:25) Delphine
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answered 04 Nov '16, 21:28

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One way to develop a sense of worthiness is to develop the habit of declaring it. Get to know the body sensations, the thought patterns, the emotional experiences that arise from feeling unworthy, and when you notice them - stop - and remember to declare your worthiness. You may not believe it at first, but I do - and many of us here do, so someone in the world believes it.

Try Abraham's Think a Better Thought process.

Also, it has been important for me to stop telling the story of my unworthiness to myself and to others.

A sort of more advanced idea that might or might not be helpful at this point, is the idea that none of us is worthy of all the good that is available to us. Worthiness is a concept of the human, local mind. It is not a consideration of the spirit. There is no way - and no need - to be worthy of eternal joy, prosperity, love, etc. We can't earn it. There is no way to pay for it. There is nothing the human can do that could even begin to be equal consideration for all that good. If this thought fills you with awe and a sense of relief, a relaxation into joyous receiving, than indulge in it. If it fills you with fear, please don't think about it any more.


answered 07 Nov '16, 16:55

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