I'm not really sure how to phrase this question, so I'll just jump in...

Suddenly (these past 2 weeks), three very special people in my life have, or are, experiencing either death or life-threatening circumstances.

Do you think I've attracted these things to learn something, or am I just a bystander?

I would really appreciate reading your thoughts.

asked 11 Feb '11, 08:24

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edited 11 Feb '11, 08:35

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Barry, how did you arrive at the edited version, there seems to be several alternatives

(12 Feb '11, 01:46) fred

Hi fred, I don't actually see any changes that Barry made to my question.

(15 Feb '11, 08:34) Flame
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each of us has our own journey though the end point is the same,
we may not be here solely by chance nor those around us
though strange it may be the corrections of past choices,
it is not attaching to but rather experiencing, expanding your wisdom


answered 12 Feb '11, 01:53

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Personally, I wouldn't claim "ownership" of any of these problems. These are the manifestations of others. You should be a supportive, loving person to anyone having troubles, especially those close to you. But don't take any of their dramas upon yourself, and don't feed it for them either.


answered 11 Feb '11, 16:42

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Thanks LeeAnn, I appreciate your input.

(15 Feb '11, 08:42) Flame

We tend to think we are always the students in life, then who is the teacher? We need to understand we are here to be the students of God through God as others but as well, we are the teachers, as God through us for others. It is a two sided thing, not just one side.

While you are learning from this you are as well teaching from this by whatever choice you make in this situation. Be it for better or worse it has something to be learned from that can make life better.

I wouldn't say that you created these deaths but that these are opportunities to be of service for friends and family that could really use the support and love right now. Be their life support what they are facing is death they need to see there is still life and love, and not to give in to depression and despair. Let God's love show through.


answered 11 Feb '11, 18:38

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Wade Casaldi

Thanks for sharing your thoughts Wade

(15 Feb '11, 08:41) Flame

I think it is a question that only you can answer. Only you know the extent of your involvement with these people. Hence you are in the best position to determine what meaning these incidents and persons have in your life. Ask yourself the question and see if you can come up with an answer.


answered 11 Feb '11, 21:53

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I didn't come up with any answers, hence the posting here Drham.

(15 Feb '11, 08:43) Flame

There are no bystanders. As long as we see ourselves as separate from others then this separateness in your mind will grow.

When you see the loss of another wether you know them or not as a loss of your own, your energy will be directed to the oneness of us all.

We are only separate by our beliefs and ideology.

Be wel



answered 11 Feb '11, 22:17

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Ok you lost me completely but thanks for your input Michael

(15 Feb '11, 08:41) Flame

Hi Flame

We cannot truly interact in this life if we dont have people around us. So I try not judge myself by the people around me but only by my reaction to their behaviour........that is where I believe the true lesson is to be found. When others are going through a crisis, i will be there for them and try to listen to them without judgement. However if my reaction to their drama is causing a re-action (emotional reaction) in me then I will look within and try to work out what it is I need to address in myself to further my awakening.

The people in our life are there for a reason and they are all true reflections of ourselves. The key here is that it our emotional reaction that will give us the clue in relation to what we have to acknowledge within ourselves. For example: You have a friend that is loving and compassionate........acknowledge these traits within yourself because you would'ent see it if you did'ent already have it within you. So the lesson here is to consciously acknowledge these wonderful aspects of yourself. The tougher side of this is when we see negative traits within our friendships and again depending on our reaction, this too is drawing our attention to something that needs acknowledging

Hope this has helped


answered 14 Feb '11, 14:21

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Hi Susan and thanks for sharing your thoughts on this odd subject!

(15 Feb '11, 08:36) Flame

Nobody really knows how and why and when we have to experience these things.

One thing I learned is that make sure you take care of yourself.

If it makes you too weak to help these people, then you will no longer be able to help them.


answered 11 Feb '11, 17:54

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Very important thought B2B - thanks for reminding us that we need to take care of ourselves!

(15 Feb '11, 08:44) Flame

yes every one as there own path and learning curve to have! onless you killed them your self! ha ha ha!


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