This is something I have sometimes wondered about...The Bible is full of advice about how to be a good person. This I am trying to do. But how do you know when things are okay between God and yourself? One cannot judge this based on whether He answers your prayers, if you know what I mean. I thought this would be a good question to kick around.

Blessings and Much Love to All, Jaianniah

asked 05 Apr '11, 18:59

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your questions are always interesting Jai'

(06 Apr '11, 06:21) evelyn
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I am only guessing, Jaianniah, because we can't seem to know the thoughts of God, but if one is being a good person to the best of their ability and always striving to do even better, then I think they are having a good relationship with God and one in which he/she would be pleased.

I am basing this "guess" on the way we are with our children. We don't want their worship and don't need their praise, but instead we are happy when they are happy, and trying to do their best. (If they confide in us and tell us how they are doing we like that too!)


answered 05 Apr '11, 20:05

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I like that you refer to our relationship with our kids...God is "Our Father" so it really makes sense. Both you and Michaela have helped...Thanks and Love>>>>>>>>

(05 Apr '11, 20:43) Jaianniah

Much as I respect a lot of spiritual texts I don't think any of them can tell us how to be a good person... I think that comes from our own experiences in life and what we learn from them. When we begin to become aware of how we live and respond to those we interact with on a daily basis and consciously make an effort to come from a place of love in all our interactions we begin to feel differently.

This feeling is what tells us if we are having a good relationship with God. I don't think we can concurrently feel good and be out of alignment with our source. So my "guess" is pretty much in alignment with LeeAnn"s.... as long as we're working toward being the best version of ourself we can be the relationship is on the right track.

( Apologies again... my comma button is sticking )


answered 05 Apr '11, 20:25

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That's a good point, Michaela, that we don't even need texts.

(05 Apr '11, 20:41) LeeAnn 1

You are so right! We cannot "feel good" and do what is wrong at the same just doesn't work! Thanks and Love,>>>>>>>>

(05 Apr '11, 20:45) Jaianniah

this is how. if you have a great connection with yourself and with the world you do this is how i see god so this will make more sense. "God is more than the sum of all the probable systems of reality he has created ,and yet he is within each one of these, without exeption. He is therefore within each man and women , he is also within each spider, shadow and frog, and this is what man does not like to admit. God can only be experianced, and you experience him whether or not u reailize it through your own existance. In the most inexapable truth, he is not human in ur tems at all, nor in ur terms is he a personality. Your ideas of personality are too limited to contain the facitts of his multideminsonal existance,," ................Seth Speks, The Eternal Validity of The Soul by Jane Robberts. i hope this helps, love n light, rob


answered 05 Apr '11, 20:38

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Thanks, Treb- that is a great quote! Blessings and Love,>>>>>>>

(05 Apr '11, 20:46) Jaianniah

you are welcome my freind, keep it easily accesible for when people who i amtryng to teach want to understand the TRUE nature of god, i belive that the christian idea of god is good but a lil off, i think that if god is in heaven watching over us then he is not a part of us. he is not seperate. he is a part of us. i think the churces see this a little better, ty for your great comment! love n light

(06 Apr '11, 00:15) TReb Bor yit-NE

Galatians 5:22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.

You can tell a tree by it's fruit. If you have a close relationship with God, you will bear the fruit of the Spirit. That doesn't mean you are perfect, you are not, you are still human. God is everywhere, all around us. In order to have a relationship, there has to be communication. That communication can be through reading the Bible, prayer and seeking God, allowing His presence dominate our existance so that our thoughts and words and actions will bear the fruit of His Spirit. It is evident in the way we treat other people. That is what it really boils down to is how we treat one another. Jesus said the most important commandment was to love the Lord your God with everything you possess and love your neighbor as yourself.

Just before the fruit of the spirit is the contrast:

Galatians 5:19Now the works of the flesh are evident: sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality, 20idolatry, sorcery, enmity, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, rivalries, dissensions, divisions, 21envy,d drunkenness, orgies, and things like these. I warn you, as I warned you before, that those who do such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.

These things do not display love toward God, our neighbors or ourselves. They cause pain to others and display a lack of relationship with God. Even though God is everywhere, so are peope all around us. We don't have a relationship with everybody that is, or even everybody that is in our vicinity. It requires communication. There are some people that by their behavior, repell us, and we don't want to be around them, and talk with them and communicate with them. They are still there and we are still here. So it is with God. He is everywhere, but unless we communicate with Him, we will not bear the fruit of the spirit.


answered 06 Apr '11, 02:20

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A most excellent answer Juniper! I needn't answer this question you have done a great job on this. Yes by the fruit, this was a bible study I had a while back. We do need to get to be best friends with God, instead of the world way of waking up saying, "Good God Morning!" We waking up the believers way of saying, "Good Morning God!" :-)

(07 Apr '11, 18:36) Wade Casaldi

Thank you, Wade. :) I am glad I am not totally out there.

(07 Apr '11, 22:51) Fairy Princess

When I am answering a question, I usually don't read the other answers until after I have answered. I know it can lead to redundancy, but I want it to be a clean answer, unaffected by other answers. :) LOL

(12 Apr '11, 17:29) Fairy Princess
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Jesus life story is a good example of how we can have a good relationship with God just by being obedient, and being true to our self!

Also taking in consideration how we live our life each day, our values, beliefs, self worth, discipline, and the examples we set!

Judge none, for you shall be judged also!

What does it profits a man if he gains the whole world, and suffers the losses of his own soul!

Do unto others as you would like them to do unto you!

Love your neighbors, as your self!

Respect you’re self and others will respect you!

Give thanks to God for every new day that you wake up to, thank him for all that he will do for you and will provide for you today, and tomorrow, until the end of time!

But the true essence to have a good relationship with God is to know that you are not perfect and that you are on a journey of discovery to strive to be the best you can be in the sight of God during your life time, and that he is the only one that knows you best of all, and what is truly in your heart; therefore, it is not so much how can you tell etc, but more so, what is stopping you from building a good relationship with God?


answered 06 Apr '11, 04:08

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This is another great answer, thanks Vee I agree.

(07 Apr '11, 18:38) Wade Casaldi

@ Wade C: Glad you like it, thanks for the feedback!

(09 Apr '11, 04:12) Inactive User ♦♦

while here on earth it is the respect and attunement with nature,
with thoughts it is those composed with compassion,
and in spirit it is the recognition of our connection to the Christ-type.


answered 05 Apr '11, 22:52

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Just say thankyou for everything,it instantly makes you feel better ,so you will also act better, if that makes any sense.


answered 06 Apr '11, 06:27

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I think the term relationship with God is a wide and sometimes meaningless phrase as its taken out of context and mis understood.

We are all of us "ONE " with the deity we call God/Father ( my favourite) and Source.

Our relationship with the Father is perfect.Jesus prayed that we may be "one " with the Father "EVEN " as He was one.Jesus knew we were in actual fact one with God.

The problem doesnt come in Gods thoughts towards us,there constant and adoring. The problem lies in our misunderstanding of the Fathers love and purpose for us.

In thinking that our relationship with Source is faulted, we allow it to be.

Our relationship is perfect and there can never be any total,fundamental and eternal seperation from who we are ,that is part of the Father.

The Father is all and there simply isnt anything outside of Him,and that includes you! There can be nothing outside of God as He created all that there is.

Your own perception and realisation of this will ,in your own mind , affirm His love for you and His best intentions towards you.

But the loves already there.And has been there since before the dawn of time.



answered 07 Apr '11, 08:25

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he is the father you are the child! do good like he does! and you can talk with him! or go see him! then you will know!


answered 06 May '11, 01:39

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