Here is what our emotional guidance system means as the background to my question.
Emotional guidance system (Ask and It is Given book by Jerry and Esther Hicks):
My question is if we go along with the fact that children have their own guidance system (their emotions) since they are born, does that mean that our role as parents ends at birth? Will they have the necessary resources to make their own choices in life from a very early age to get all that they desire?
Or do we have an ongoing spiritual duty to raise and guide them up to a certain age before letting follow their own emotional guidance system? What exactly is our spiritual duty as parents?
I think we have to remember that our children are still being born into a world that is not fully awakened. I think this is why being a parent is one of the hardest jobs on the planet. We have to discern between giving our kids that space to trust their own emotional guidance systems and also letting them know that there are also beings out there who are still somewhat unconscious and might not always have their best interests at heart, but we want to be able to do this without frightening them or making them untrustworthy of other human beings. We have to remember that we are also growing and learning, I have to accept that I cannot teach my 18yr old what I can now impart to my 5 yr old but hopefully her own guidance system will steer her in the right direction. We don't always get the correct guidance as a child but I don't think that means as adults that we cannot discern where to put our attention. This does not take away from the fact that our parents guided us to the best of "their ability" or taught us all that "they know". Obviously as parents we guide our kids as best we can and naturally provide for all their physical needs until they can do so themselves.
answered 15 Nov '09, 23:07
Our role as parents is to provide a safe and nurturing environment for our children to learn, grow and mature in, to provide guidance about life matters as they mature, and to live our own lives in a way that teaches our children by providing a positive role-model for them to follow.
Parents provide a safe and nurturing environment by placing restrictions or boundaries on their childrens' behavior. A simple example is teaching your child how to cross the street safely by looking both ways, and how to observe and obey traffic signals, but there are many others as well. This gives children the freedom to learn and grow within those boundaries, without the peril of accidental death or serious injury.
During the child's formative years, the parent acts as the child's moral compass, teaching them generally accepted standards of behavior and appropriate ways of interacting with other people. This plays the social role of people collectively creating a stable society where they can interact in relative safety and security, within a framework of established convention.
How does this fit into the concept of an emotional compass? When a child is born, they don't know the difference from right and wrong (In this answer, I define right and wrong as the difference between behavior that is generally acceptable in society, and behavior that is not). It is your job as a parent to teach their child the difference between right and wrong so that, when the child matures, they have internalized this moral compass at an emotional level (ie. they now guide themselves with their own sense of right and wrong).
The best parents know how to do all this while still allowing the child to think for themselves so that, as an adult, the grown child has the tools they need to solve their own problems and become their own guide.
Now imagine what it would be like if all children had to learn all this stuff on their own, without any guidance whatsoever. Would the child ever mature emotionally? By giving children a basic mental framework, you have helped them progress much farther down the road of spiritual advancement than they would ever have achieved all on their own.
The question was what exactly is our spiritual duty as parents to our children? Our spiritual duty as parents is to love them and teach them about God and Jesus Christ and the kingdom of heaven and tell them about the things that God has done for us humans on this earth and pass it on down from one generation to another and don't let them forget that there is an God, that he has all power and that he loves them (us) and that we can do all things through the power of Jesus Christ our Lord an Savior who died on the cross for all of our sins for God so loved us he gave his only begotten us to died on the cross for all of our sins so that we would have an chance to making on into heaven an have life an life abundantly here on this earth.
Tell them about your spiritual experiences with God and Jesus Christ and the miracles he still does through our faith in him. God has not lost any of his powers and he is real and loving and his arms are open wide for us to come to him.
Don't let the thoughts of God die out please always teach them to remember and have faith for God is real. Some people wants to forget about God or create us another god or make themselves god; you know it is so good to have an loving an kind God who has all power and still loves and care about us as indiviual people that we are with all of our many faults.
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