I guess I am talking about psychosomatic illness when I speak of such situations. Our minds and bodies are connected, after all.
How does one overcome such fear or anger that it actually makes you ill? What steps do you take?
Finally, when you think that you are a failure because you let such a situation get you down, how do you pick yourself up by the bootstraps and overcome the bad feelings and get back on track?
Any advice would be most helpful!
For me, the key is keeping my composure and living in the moment. When I say living in the moment, this can apply to almost any situation.
Financial problems? Do the best you can and don't worry about the future. In this very moment, there is no reason to lose peace about it, and nothing more you can do than enjoy the here and now.
Someone at work has hurt your feelings? It is already in the past. Don't keep replaying it in your mind since the past is already behind you. And we all know that the anger of others often has nothing to do with us at all. Keep your composure and enjoy something in the here and now. Enjoy the view from your window, look at some flowers, or go get a treat to eat.
These are just a couple of examples!
answered 14 Jun '12, 09:01
The answer to our problems is not in the past nor in the future, it is Now. Pain and suffering come from the illusion of the past and future. When we go digging around in the past for the reasons we are in pain now, we find more and more reasons to be in pain now. So to heal the hurts from the past, simply be present. The past can't hurt you if you don't enter the illusion.
There are many tricks for being present. I have come up with one based on what I have learned from all my studies. I call it Two Hands Touching. Put the palms of your hands together and close your eyes. Ask yourself quietly in your head, "What do my hands feel like?" Don't name the feelings, just feel the answer in your hands. Don't try to think or not think, just feel your hands. Do this for at least 30 seconds and as long as you want/need. Do it as often as you think of it throughout your day. You can combine this with affirmations. State your possitive affirmation outloud, then do the THT. For example, "I am perfect and whole and free of pain." then do THT. See this question for more affirmations. Find one that resonates with you and change it to fit you and your needs.
answered 13 Jun '12, 11:12
This question made me catch my breath this morning. I had been feeling the need to ask the same thing recently. Just a few days ago, I had to leave work because I had made myself so ill by being upset. My whole body hurt and I just couldn't cope with the pain and the nausea it brought with it. The worst part is the fact that I knew I had done it to myself.
As far as I have been able to figure, the only thing, the only thing, I can do to start myself in a different direction is to begin to distance myself from the circumstances that are dragging me down, even if it's only for a short period of time. It seems impossible when the negatives are basically being shouted in your face, but this is just where I've got to go with this. I knew this already, and I know you do, too, but when you're in it up to your neck, sometimes you just can't see the forest for the trees, so here's where I start...
You cannot change what you don't want into what you do want by concentrating on what you don't want. The only way out is to focus all of the attention and energy you possibly can muster on the positive things in your life. I know I feel foolish and even hypocritical when I am ready to break under the pressure and frustration of it all, but you CAN do it - even just for a moment at the very least. Then... You do it again. It will build upon itself; it will snowball.
What does Stingray say? I'm pretty sure he's quoting Abraham - It will come through the crack of least resistance; the miserable feelings are your resistance to the provision and well-being that is always flowing to you. This is where the all the good things will come from. Open that up just a little bit, just for a short period of time, and it will begin to change things.
To make it a reasonable goal, I have sometimes even scheduled a set time for this practice; consciously decide do it for only say, from 7:00 p.m. to 7:30 p.m. tonight... No thoughts but the good thoughts. Loving relationships, comfortable home, the loveliness of the natural world around me... Anything, anything at all that you can appreciate, and just dwell on it, milk it as much and for as long as you can. Shut out all the other stuff. Just for this time.
You will start the ball rolling that will attract more of the circumstances you want, the ones that got you all of the good things you do have in your life in the first place, and less of the ones that are causing the frustration and illness. And then... You do it again. It gets less and less difficult to do.
I hope this helps. I'm sending you a ton of good wishes and positive energy.
Just one more thing... Remind me of this post when I'm in that bloody forest, will you please? :)
answered 13 Jun '12, 18:20
Jaianniah, fear melts in the light of understanding. Anger is a product of unfulfilled desire. Desire is ultimately cause of all suffering. But again, understanding or educated knowledge destroys suffering.
Lets assume you fear of staying on this planet and so you want to leave. You got a hammer and nails and desire to build yourself a spaceship. You will get angry very quickly as you realize that you can't build a spaceship with hammer and nails. And you will suffer greatly. But understand what it takes to build a spaceship and your anger will go away. Or perhaps understand this planet and find possibilities of living your life in your way on it and your fear will go away. And so will your suffering.
In your reality there might be only one way of how to go about things. Which may be very frustrating just like hammer and nails in the example above. But if you take you time and learn about other possibilities, you find new ways.
So there you have it, educated knowledge/understanding is the key to progress.
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