Would be grateful for any perspectives. I appear to have become part of a fixed delusion of someone who keeps sending me emails and has appeared at my doorstep unannounced thinking I am going to go out with him. This person is a family friend but has recently become psychotic and will not accept treatment.
I haven't responded to any of his emails, but I regularly receive them. In the emails he writes to me as if I've been talking to him or responding although it is completely one sided and I haven't replied. I read online that you must not respond to psychotic people who are stalking you and so I do not respond to him. I also don't want to say anything or do anything to aggravate him or make him angry, so I don't reply, but he keeps writing to me as if I have replied to him.
As soon as I think I will not hear from him again if he doesn't write for a few weeks, another email arrives. This is all making me feel very frightened and unsafe. I am presently going through a difficult health problem which makes me anxious anyway and I really need total peace of mind and being as stress-free as possible. I've been advised by my specialist that being stress free as much as possible is very important for my recovery.
I will soon have to contact a psychiatrist or get some advice from the police maybe(?), but I wondered if anyone out there could help with mindset. Unfortunately, I seem to attract mentally unwell people to myself. I think it's mainly because I feel sorry for people and try to treat all kindly and somehow people seem to think I'm in love with them and start to have romantic delusions about me.
This is probably the third time this has happened to me. My mom, always tells me everyone else manages to attract decent people. Your luck, you always get the crazy stalkers! Maybe I believe that a little since she tells me this, but I'm not sure if I am somehow attracting these situations.
Anyhow, whatever way I've done to attract this... I just really need this person to stop contacting me. I'm wondering if I should just not think about this at all and ignore it and hope it will go away..... or how can I get him OUT of my current reality. Thanks alot for any advice.
Putting aside the specifics of your situation and answering it from a Law of Attraction perspective - this is a Law of Attraction forum after all :) - here is a suggested strategy for dealing with the general question...
"How can I get rid of something from my life that keeps getting my attention?"
From my perspective, you have two main strategies available...
Strategy 1: Wait Until It Stops Getting Your Attention And Then Think Differently About It
A suggested approach...
Strategy 2: "Clean It Up" So It Doesn't Matter If It Gets Your Attention
A suggested approach...
I recommend symbol healing.
As always, clearly note how the situation you don't approve of makes you feel, in detail. Notice body sensations, emotions, and thoughts you get from this.
Then, ask yourself to come up with a symbol that represents these feelings. You most likely will like the symbol about as much as the feelings, which is to say, not at all. But, now you have a clear, universal and unmistakeable representation of what it is you want to change, in a language that literally every living thing is able to understand, including the deep layers of your being that make up most of your vibration.
Then you change the symbol until you like it. Fiddle with it, slowly, carefully, easily, and notice the changes in your feelings. Tweak it. Or start over and make more radical changes. If anything along the lines of "I would like to change it in this way but I can't" comes up, do it anyway; you can, on the imagination level.
Once you have a symbol you are comfortable with, you imagine the original symbol transforming into the new symbol as many times as it takes to get a feeling of an inner shift, and for the symbol to no longer tend to revert to the original one.
Do this three times a day, for a week, and record notable results.
answered 12 Dec '16, 04:37
Hand the situation over to your Inner Being.
Ho'oponopono is appropriate here.
answered 14 Dec '16, 05:01
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