Do you let the joyful feelings in or do you resist? How much joy do you allow yourself to feel?
asked 26 Mar '10, 09:09
laughs I saw this question right above "How do you deal with stress?" and it just made me laugh. >.> I also was just thinking about posting my own question a few moments ago along the same lines.
I'm not sure I can put a 'scale' on it. But others in my life consider me almost manic...or just plain weird. Being happy so that you smile as you sit on the bus, or walk down the street and burst into song regularly means there is probably 'something wrong with that person'.
But let me describe in something a bit more quantitative. At my highest joyousness (or appreciation) there are certain physical sensations that almost without fail manifest. For example, there is an expanding feeling from my thymus (heart) area, and this often expands in tingles throughout my chest and the rest of my body...sometimes even causing a shudder through my body (something like a shiver down the spine). My hairs stand on end...and I can almost not help but to allow a gentle smile to spread over my face. In certain cases (after experiencing a usual expanded and light bodied feeling) I even almost lose sensation of my body...even though I may be walking down the street.
I sometimes resist it - but rather perplexedly only when I want to feel it. I've been learning that though I can guide myself to feeling it when I may not be...I cannot 'jump' to those feelings. If I start thinking to myself "I gotta feel good!!" then I begin resisting - and thus do not feel good. But it feels good to feel good (duh) and so I like to be there often as possible...and when I am not (say, when I have just had something happen I haven't experienced before which throws me a bit off balance) I tend to want to race back to that feeling as fast as possible. When instead...I actually get there faster by ... not trying quite so much to feel joy.
answered 26 Mar '10, 09:33
I think, unfortunately, that most of us resist the joy which is our natural state - hence, we're always looking for something to fill that inner feeling of discontent. Liam's answer really made me smile and he is so right in that the more we seem to seek joy the more it seems to elude us. That wonderful word allow comes to mind, as we really don't have to seek joy but merely allow it. Also as our awareness grows we realize that it is the little things that really let our joy come forth (it is always within) - like a hug from a child or, the first spring flower, a lick on the face from my dog, an unexpected compliment-the list is endless.
Like everything else on the spiritual journey joy is an unfoldment from within, so we don't need to let the joyful feelings in ( they're already there ) we just need to allow them to come out.
Well, I have this terrible post-hoc reasoning thing going on with myself, that if I have a good day or something good happens, bad things inevitably follow. Perhaps it's because the feeling good sensitizes me to the things that are not so good, and causes a contrast.
I need to work on that.
answered 26 Mar '10, 14:47
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