I feel like depression is almost a societal condition. Many people aren't taught to follow their joy, they are taught to grind and make money often times at the expense of their joy. How does a depressed person get happy?
Get to the root of the problem.
For me, Inward Quest means to look within my own mind and allow the answers that are always there waiting, to come through from the universal mind / consciousness into my individual mind / consciousness.
While choosing better thoughts will bring you out of your depression, if you don't get to the root cause, your depression will return again and again. A better way is to get to the root cause of depression and deal with it once and for all!
I guess my work at this time is to ruffle a few feathers by stating that depression is really self pity masquerading as depression. More attention can be gained from others by being depressed than from feeling sorry for yourself. So it follows that the next question is: what's the root of self pity?
Self pity can be traced back to self importance. And what is it in you that constantly needs the attention gained from depression to cover up its feeling of emptiness or incompleteness and lack of love and hence, bolster its feeling of importance?
Your ego. Yes, your ego will go to great lengths in any direction to fulfill its need of more attention. Your ego, if left unchecked, will stop at nothing to fulfill its need, including taking action that is ultimately detrimental to your body.
So the best advice for a depressed person is:
1) Ask yourself: what is causing my depression? Then do what it takes to quiet your mind and see what answers come to you.
2) Learn all you can about the ego and what makes it tick.
3) Move beyond your ego with its anger and fear, its need for judgment, approval, control, being right and its total lack of love. And into a life of understanding, freedom from fear, love, peace and bliss 8-)
Here are the names of some people who explain ego in great detail:
Deepak Chopra - Eckhart Tolle - Jiddu Krishnamurti
answered 19 Mar '10, 06:16
Seek help! Yes seek help for no one shoud go through a depression alone. You need someone in your corner that will be a shoulder to lean on when the going gets tough. If there is no one dont worry for you can allways see a councilor or a religious or spiritual elder or teacher and by sharing your problem you halve it. Just knowing there is someone out there that understands what you are going through makes the depression easier to bear.
There are many reasons for depression therefore it's important to seek medical help to find out if it is due to physical or psychological reasons. This helps to acertain which treatment is the best for your type of depression.
Good nutrition is a must especially B complax vitamins, magnesium, Omega 3 faty acids and some aminoacids as depresion can be a result of a faulty or inedequate diet.
Exercise is the best thing for depression so please, please do go to gym or walk or run or dance. The important thing is to get moving.
To be socialy active is also very important so if you dont have a circle of friends it is time to make some and yes it is hard for a depressed person but it is worth all the effort u put into it and more. People that have a good circle of friends are less likly to get depressed and if they do they have a ready made support system. Go to a social club or go for art or other lessons where you can meet people.
Do you have a pet? Pets are great for giving love and they bring the love we have within us conscious to our hearts so that we can snap out of depresion sooner. If your type of depresion is so bad that you can't even look after yourself let alone a pet than a toy teddy bear or doggy or kitty or whatever you like might help for you could tell it all the problems of the world without getting rejected. This is especially good for a depressed child but I have noticed it works just as well on the eldery.
Keep a greatful journal and write down some things you are thankful for every day which could change the way you think and get you out of your depression. I'm thankfull for the sunshine or rain or the food or whatever.
Listen to only happy music and watch comedies.
If all else fails there is allways your faith in God. No matter your religion talk to your God and give God all your problems to carry for you and tell God you are depressed and can't cope anymore. Leave your depression in Gods capable hands and you will be suprised at the miracles that can happen.
Hopes this helps
answered 22 Jul '11, 16:52
Depression, I was there. I definitely think exercise, eat healthy and change your thought's can help. I know it's hard but,let me tell you a story.
There was a guy who he had an incurable sickness and would die in a month as doctors told him. So he put's himself in a bedroom and watch charlie Chaplin films for one week. Doctors saw him and in disbelief realized his sickness was gone, I mean totally gone.
I decided to do the same to see if it works ( I was really depressed for losing my apartment ). In other words something I worked so hard and invested with my brother, and for not having proper paper work, was taken away by him ( In my mind I thought our agreement with words is more than any contract in the world ) But unfortunetly money changes people and as he is so rich and can have the best attorneys, I'm not gone deal with it now. But in time and will get my apartment back.
Also be just content for what you have right now and have a goal. Think there must be a good reason that I'm in this situation, because you are surrounded with angels and nothing bad will ever happen to you.
Funny films really helped ( daijan napelon ) and still does. Watch bridesmaid, I was depressed again last night and watch this film and laugh so much that i feel so much better today. Oh don't forget your morning exersise, why morning? Hello, that's when you start your day and your thought's starts to swift as time goes by and negativity builds up, but with exersise you'll be alot less negative and you might even think you are so stupid for letting such a messed up feeling ruin a beautiful day. P.S. Exersise makes a person stronger mind/and body. Trust me. Then no one or nothing can mess with you. I think if you don't work out your muscles you are fcuck ed. French connection. lol.
answered 27 May '11, 14:17
answered 17 Mar '10, 19:10
One thing that helps me is to acknowledge the feels of sadness. However, the trick is to be very careful on how these feelings are handle. Since I am a person of faith in the Supreme God, I give it all to Him. I used to be a depressed person for many years. I had a very hard life since childhood and I did not know that there was a world in which people could actually be happy. However, through the help from reading wonderful books and exploring different views I found that we are the only ones who can change the way we feel (Sometimes it might take medication). It is not easy to get rid of feelings of depression. It takes a lot of work and a lot of willingness, at least for me it does. I have learned that by acknowledging my feelings instead of denying they exist, I am able to slide back into my state of happiness. For me, happiness is being at peace and harmony with myself. When depression hits, it is very hard to concentrate on anything, especially meditation. Without meditation, life can be very chaotic. I find that if I try to be happy and ignore my feelings of sadness, they stick around for a while. However, if I make a conscious effort to acknowledge those feelings and give them to God, they go away. Now days when those feelings come back, they last only a few moments or maybe a couple of hours. The Secret is to be willing to work at it.
answered 17 Mar '10, 20:35
I agree with the other answers and just want to add that depression is a signal that the thoughts are not in alignment with the Universe. This condition can be easily reversed by changing the thought. It is allways good to have some affirmations handy that can help to bring you back in allignment. It is amazing how this works and how quickly it works. Remeber that the "I" is perfect so when you are making affirmations, you are reminding yourself of who you truly are. And this is the reason why people get depressed because with all the distractions in this physical world we forget where we came from and who we are. So it is very important to have daily reminders whether through Prayer, Meditation, Affirmations or any way that you can get there. Even those of us who are spiritually conscious tend to get distracted at times but we can pull ourselves back quickly because we have so much investment in this aspect of our beingness.
answered 18 Mar '10, 00:35
Your not the only one, everyone gets to this stage, once, twice or even more, people make mistakes, people find it hard to understand thing, we eventually get it, making big mistakes and learning from them makes us perfect, so what ever is causing ur problem, can be easily fix, just believing yourself, go back see what hav been through, it doesn't have to end here, cause you should be proud of everything you have done.. Ur a human being just like me, just like the people next door to you, like everybody u see, don't judge yourself for being someone different that u don't think deserves to be here, cause u do, ur perfect, ur what ever u say u are, just smile, doesn't seem like it will do much but it will :) thanks :)
answered 22 Jul '11, 14:18
The danger with blaming all depression on "ego" is that we ultimately live in a society quick to eradicate the salvation of faith and positive thinking; suddenly we find ourselves in black holes of the mind—unable to shake ourselves free from its gripping tyranny. Sadly, it is not the ego who destroys you—nor is it overcoming your ego that will save you.
The only true way to save yourself is to learn what it means to be kind to yourself—and to others. To hold compassion in all instances; that a mourning face is like lack of exercise: No, it is not your fault—but in the meantime, choose happiness and don't give up. Keep on ... Movin' on!
answered 14 Mar '13, 13:32
All this LOA talk is bs. The more you follow your joy the more you are aware of things that pull you out of it. So you need to be still and ACCEPt all THE feelings that are being stired up in you and observe them objectively. Once you get out of your own way, meaning stop feeling sorry for yourself, you will be able to feel more of who you are.
answered 22 Jul '11, 17:19
Unfortunately money runs our world and joy doesn't matter.
We do enjoy the times we don't have to make money, times like being at a park or a lake. However every moment spent at leisure enjoying life cost you money you could have made to buy food, gas or pay bills. With this on your mind that time wasted is money lost it does make it hard to enjoy a park or lake. So joy does become something to put away because we have no time to stop and smell the roses because time is money.
But this backfires and we feel trapped and wonder why on earth did we even choose to come down to earth! So now no time for joy becomes life sucks and then you die. You have to wonder what the point of it all is for anyway. We're born, we go to school because we have to, we grow up and go to work because we have to, we have bills to pay maybe even get sued by debt collectors because we have to. Then we die eventually because we have to. It makes me wonder if when we die we look back on life and think what was the point of all that?
The one thing we can still enjoy is the one we love, at least that is not a forced have to event.
answered 01 Aug '13, 11:17
The cause of depression might not be that you have attracted it ! Sometimes good things happen but shit (forgive me this word, please) happens too, things that we did not "attract" or choose. While life can present you with difficult situations we all have different ways of dealing with them according to each one's psychological profile, experience, mental and physical health. We form psychological patterns, the ways we react to life's events.
However, our inner experiences are not only the results of what happens to us; they come from the physical interaction of hormones, neurons and neurotransmitters, this means our moods are influenced by the biochemistry of the body and brain. Neither free will, nor choice can do much about it, this is why humanity is having a hard time with depression. If you read about the personality changes that occur in people whose parts of the brain are affected you will understand what i mean. Hormonal function can affect your inner state as well as injuries, accidents, tumors, surgeries on different parts of the physical brain. Medication can have a very strong impact and bring about depression: it happened to me and this is why i know exactly what i am talking about ( had treatment for anxiety that caused me depression instead).
The good news is that we can change our psychological patterns and treat our physical brain.
If you start believing that your depression is because of LOA that limits greatly your chances of eliminating the causes(physical, or outside causes or both of them). When you are depressed because of your finances you want to get rid of the depression but you must also do something to improve your finances which caused the depression to start with. Money is the cause of your depression, let's say, and depression is the symptom your body displays. Being in a depressed state is not a good platform from where you start solving your money issues, depression is oriented inward, it saps energy. So you have to deal with the depression and to prevent it from coming back sort out the real cause that produced it ( finances, relationships, work, brain health).
answered 09 Aug '13, 08:32
Seek professional help!
answered 22 Jul '11, 18:04
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