Sometimes, we are surprised by the comments that people here make...We find out things about our fellow Inward Questers that surprise us and even anger or sadden us. The recent comments by one of our members really shocked me, and made me wonder what "face" we put on when we write our answers. Could it be that all of us are not who we truly seem- at least here? I do not believe that to be so. I trust most everyone here, some people I love. (You all should know who you are.) But could "pretenders" come into this place? What are your thoughts on this?
On the contrary,
Only here I can say I feel envy, anger, jealous and claim my negativity because I will not be judged.
Honestly when I feel any negative feeling I sneak here to express it for it can’t be expressed somewhere else, here is my vent, knowing I am not only shouting, expressing I know I will get the advise.
Here I am trying to ‘be’ better not trying to ‘look’ better.
answered 22 Dec '12, 04:35
I think I do "put on a front" constantly, and my ego does a bit in trying to make me appear as a nice person, especially when I read a lovely, supportive comment from one of our fellow members (like yourself elsewhere on the site, again, thankyou! <3).
The thing is, there are alot of questions I don't ask here. Well Jai, at being very honest here, I personally acknowledge that I surpress alot of feelings, opinions and ideas on the website, I think out of fear that my virtual identity will transform into someone of whom some people do not like.
Likewise, it's also a valid point that I actually have an identity on IQ. I have been on the website for roughly 2 years, and all the regular users have a fair idea of what my desires are, what sort of person I am and how I process information as well: everyone can guess I have a strong liking towards Bashar, more than, say, the religion of Christianity and the holy bible. I do hold back many questions, out of fear that someone will get angry at me for asking it. "Nikulas I've explained my answer 1000 times, and you're still asking the same question only differently! arghhh!" I feel like an annoying student at times, and with that said, I restrain myself from answering questions, for the sake and idea that I actually don't really know the answer myself. I want to help, but I'd rather shut my mouth than accidentally mislead someone (besides, a person will attract the info they need eventually).
Sometimes, there are answers and comments on IQ that I find a bit hard, or offensive, or just plain silly and unhelpful or immature, and it does shake me up. I guess it's just I have this expectation of IQ being such a cosy, warm, friendly, supportive and loving place of expression, that there is something inside me that doesn't want to crush that whole idea. When I first signed up for IQ, it certainly did feel like a place of love: almost a reconnection of source. It certainly does shine through some users posts and answers, no matter if they are inactive on IQ or if they have evolved and become someone a bit different.
If I were to totally unleash, and be a person of whom expresses themselves constantly, I can guaruntee you I'd be making (intelectual and possibly aggresive) arguments with many users. But I just don't: The knowledge and information that I have soaked up, ironically on IQ, has taught me that people will only hear what they are the vibration of, or what they are willing to hear. At a more mundane level, my preference is to be one of gentlness and have the asset of manners.
I credit @releaser99 and the comment, "We shouldn't be so hard on ourselves." At the end of the day, no matter what sort of a person you are, everyone is just trying their best...Just trying their best to feel better, in however way they know how to.
Everyone is always just trying their best, as I am <3
answered 22 Dec '12, 06:07
I can't speak for anyone else, only myself, but here at IQ I probably reveal more of my true self and not less. With most of my friends, family and co-workers, I would not discuss dream work, LOA, manifesting or anything of that nature. But here at IQ I can and do. Like everyone else, I have many facets to my personality and some shine though in the work setting, some shine through out at a sporting event or concert, some shine though on IQ. I believe most balanced people have many portions to their personalities.
Are some presenting a false front? I don't know, but instead I would say they are revealing another side of themselves...
answered 22 Dec '12, 14:16
I originally came here from a deep metaphysical background. I have been actively studying since about 1970, including a Doctorate in Comparative Religions (primary focus on the Old Testament in Hebrew), integrating these concepts with ceremonial Magick, WICCA, Descartes, Neuro Linguistic Programming, Milton Erikson, inner teachings of the Qabala and other esoteric studies. I have used metaphysical concepts to become very successful.
I also began to see a "sameness" in my religious studies. At their basic roots, all religions from the very sophisticated to primitive held the same concepts. I was brought up Christian, and stayed Christian, but realized the values of other religions as being effective and important.
For me there is no conflict between Christian God and all the other religions and concepts. my/our God is certainly at the core of All! Even if you are an atheist!
I felt like CS Lewis when he decided to prove that God did not exist and came to the inescapable conclusion that God HAD to exist.
I felt that if some field of metaphysics was real, it could and should be integrated into my life to make the things I wanted come easier. To have a better life, and find inner tranquility.
I have also been bitten by misuse - and learned! Can't say that I have learned enough. Still growing.
Though long ago I found "Think and Grow Rich" very helpful, I had not studied the LOA. About three years ago "The Secret" DVD showed up in my mailbox, from Amazon. I have no memory of ordering it, and neither did my wife. We were fascinated. We went on to study "What the bleep do we know", and "Down the Rabbit Hole" which we also found fascinating.
Abraham-Hicks. I had never trusted channeling before, having seen a lot of fakes. Some using their "abilities" for their own personal gain. But Esther/Abraham has a genuiness and consistency that I found very powerful and we began listening to Abraham. Making their teachings a part of our lives.
I saw their work as very, very powerful in our lives and how it integrated with ALL my previous studies. I began to realize that I had found a simple powerful tool that I had been searching for that was easier to use than the 400 levels of the Qabala!
So I blasted into Inward Quest, carrying the knowledge of the ages, ready to "teach and help". Here I found a strange group of people, but I had come here to teach.
My early egotistical comments led me into conflict with several members of IQ and one in particular. His posts seemed pompous, trite, argumentative, repetitive and egotistical. In my rabid desire to defeat his comments and pointing out his problems and mistakes, I was forced to come face-to-face with the fact that it was me (horrified) that was being "pompous, trite, argumentative, repetitive and egotistical".
Once I had begun an inner change, I found his latest posts had a depth and profundity that I had not seen before. I even went back to look at his earlier posts (that I had read before and criticized) as having - suddenly in my world - great meaning. It seemed that they had been rewritten! But I was just seeing through different eyes.
Other posts also took on greater meaning and depth.
I can't say I am "there", but I did realize a startling truth, that others were being mirrors of myself. That everything is a mirror of my outer feelings. That I needed to have a look at my inner landscape.
This was quite the reverse of what I had anticipated. I came here to teach, to tell others how to find themselves and their paths. But instead of teaching, I got taught!
There was a dramatic shift in my outlook. At first frustrated that I really did create my outer life and that too much of my life had been cleaning the outside of the cup.
So, back to the original question, "Am I putting on a front?", not consciously. I am and have done the things I have stated, the manifestations, even more.
But I realized that I have, in some wonderfully mysterious way, connected with the composite mind of IQ. And this is a very good thing.
I also realized that in writing these posts, I am really talking to myself. As I write, connected to IQ, I am writing to and FROM mySelf and hopefully getting glimmerings of my inner Self!
as @white tiger said, "if you do not know your self, how can you know if you truly are being your self?" Read that one through a few times.
So in some sense, we are all "putting on a front" and we are all being true to our inner being.
It is a journey of self-discovery. A journey of unfolding. A journey that is as important as the destination. Maybe more important. .
Not too much shocks me anymore. We are a segment of the population here, all with our own views and ideas. All with our different growing pains and ideas taught to us by others.
So here we are ,imo, simply trying to grow beyond our current mind set. And we do that by thinking about what we read and the posting a response. All of it, every bit of it is a forward flow of growth.
I have yet to see anyone anywhere do it without a few blunders of word or deed. We are human, and emotional beings.
I try to be the me I want to be. Every day, and here also , I get a chance to exercise my new story....my new ideas of what I want for me. The more I practice the easier it gets.
answered 21 Dec '12, 21:11
if you do not know your self, how can you know if you truly are being your self?if you are truly your self do you need to put on a mask?why put a mask to appear good to other people? would that not be hypocrite of you? if that is the case you live on the outside. but you are dead inside. if you do not know your self,you cannot know other. to the level you know your self also will you understand other. but if you do not know your self and only try to understand other,you will know them very superficially. did you use the narrow gate or the wide gate. do you wash the inside of the cup or the outside? did you get lost?or are you really clean?
do not be surprise at my saying:if you do not know your self you live in poverty and you are that poverty. when the outside will no longuer exist how can you hope to find your self? if you are all ready lost on the wide gate?
so lift that stone and properly split that pieces of wood,be still like water look at the water make it calm and pure learn the truth. see the light that you are,and learn from that light. when the conflict and division will be solve the water and spirit will become one.( with out fear you can cross the last door. this video might help you understand what happen after,but the real experience is even better: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DDiZjbx5GJU )
so let there be light,Be the light that you can be,experience and enjoy.
I am always learning here and I like to share whatever my current thoughts/ideas are to whatever subjects. I don't know if I seem like I'm putting on a front or not. I try to be honest without diving too much into my own personal life. But I am always sharing what I feel is true for me, and what has helped me, but I don't want to imply that I practice anything perfectly. I know sometimes people seem to feel that way...lol.
I really enjoy just about everyone here... I mean, I don't know if anyone feels that way about me, but I still learn a lot here and I really, really enjoy that aspect too. It doesn't matter if others are being honest or not, I still can learn from them.
answered 22 Dec '12, 17:43
I ONLY come here when I am of the sufficient vibration. This does not mean that I am being fake.. it means I will not TRY to help others, or learn my lessons that I get from here, when my own life is in a state of confusion or chaos. I do this knowing that if I do come on in bad vibration, I pass that along to the people I mean to help. I truly believe that there are many genuine people here, and that they are doing exactly what I do. In the rare cases where they do not... LOL. well You can USUALLY tell RIGHT THEN... lol. I don't know if it is because I feel the energy in the words, or if it is intuitiveness going on strong. Either way, most do not come here unless they are set for the type of vibration it requires us to be in.
Love n light
he is himself, but often inspired
answered 23 Dec '12, 21:54
I am myself here, except I swear less and try to be more politically correct. Most people change themselves slightly depending on the audience/crowd - I think it's just polite to do so.
For me, it's important that IQ is a place where everyone feels that they can ask whatever they want and be met with compassion. There are times when I don't post on here - if I am in a lower vibration, I'll watch some trashy tv series and get the beeyotchiness out of my system in that way - I wouldn't post here.
answered 26 Nov '13, 07:59
I think people may see me in a more negative light then how I really am and think because I ask the questions that most trouble me here. I hope people realise that sometimes we come here when there is a struggle and that is not always necessarily how we live and think.. But this gives me an opportunity to say a big THANK YOU to everyone here. You truly make everyone feel welcome and able to ask what is deepest in their hearts and take the time to respond. Whenever I feel a bit of despair or think 'who can help me??' ... I remember Inward Quest and I feel a sense of relief! :-)
With regards to Jai's point, I must say I am a bit disappointed with the contents of some recent post/s on this site and I would have expected for the moderators to perhaps have stepped in to modify that question/s.
No "pretending" here. It is a conscious choice to be Appreciative and Happy, it is a skill being developed until it is unconditional.
answered 03 Dec '13, 22:33
I believe that this answer is no easy answer. As on any site I am sure we could have pretenders that just want to have fun at the expense of others. But as well when we talk with each other it is easy to be hurt or harm others since we can not see the affect of the conversation.
Now as to are we ourselves, this again is not easy to answer. It seems as we get inspired wisdom comes through our writing that does not normally. So this is not our normal self. Is it other than the self, a sort of mask, or is it our true divine self and our normal self is the mask?
That seems to depend on the belief of the person writing.
answered 16 Jul '14, 03:26
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