My comments, are meant for myself. I can't put myself in another person's shoes. I really only have a fingernail grip on my understanding of myself. With that understanding. here are some thoughts. When I say "you" I am me talking to me.
I do not believe that you can best help others by criticism, punishment, trying to get them to see your point of view or calling them names that focus on what they, or ourselves, consider un-connectedness with Source.
Are YOU connected with Source when you criticize? Are you?
"Doubting Thomas"? "Your advice will fall on deaf ears." "He just won't listen." And the Genie says, "Your wish is my command."
"You just have to trust/believe"! That one is a biggie for me! Can anyone force themselves, or anyone else, to believe? To trust? Does it follow that unless you believe, you can't have what you want? Is that a "Catch 22"?
So what do you do? Advise books to read? Links to "gurus"? Techniques to be practiced? Biblical quotes? Diagrams? Youtube? Channeled information? All good ideas, but are they the best starting point?
Why do these helpful bits seem to fall on "deaf ears"? Have you opened the door to your heart? To their heart? Are they going to hear what you say if you have not done this first?
Where do you begin? Where do you begin to help others? Where do you begin to help yourself?
Take a look at @flowsurfer, for example. What do we see? What CAN WE SEE? What can we focus the spotlight of our attention upon?
I see a powerful, passionate, eloquent, persistent, focused, determined, intelligent, loving person. A bit of manifested Source looking for Joy in the best ways he can.
Would it help to begin with that foundation? To help others? To help ourselves.
Could you, Bill, begin with LOVE? Love of that being, that person? Of ANY person, including yourself? To focus on their strengths, to amplify those strengths? And I am not just talking about @flowsurfer.
EDITED: June 28, 2015 - YES this is ALL we can do to help others.
What do you think? Feel? Believe? Take a look in your heart.
What might happen if we, try to the best of our ability, to look at every relationship with Love? With Joy? Through the eyes of God? Of Source?
Having that said, someone in the vortex can be annoying to someone who is way out of it. For instance if you say something like "You are the creator. You are a being of love. You are responsible for your life. You can do it. Believe me! You are powerful and worthy!" to a person that is depressed and suicidal he will just want to punch you in your face. :)
"What the hell are you talking about? Don't you see that I'm a piece of shit and that I don't deserve to live, idiot?"
So sometimes it is more helpful if advice comes from a vibration that is lower than love first. This way the person who needs help can move just a little up the emotional scale to see some things differently and finally choose the pathway of love.
There is a chinese story about a doctor who healed depressive men by saying to them: "You are healthy. I can't do anything for you. The only problem with you is that your menstruation is too strong." This is one of the most humiliating things you can say to a man in chinese culture. So these depressive men suddenly became very angry and moved up the emotional scale from feeling "powerless" to feeling "hatred". And hatred is one of the best ways to get out of the grip of depression.
So the basis of teaching can only be love. But a good teacher can also help by first recognizing compassionately what the sufferer feels. And then he can offer a vibration that is a little bit above this vibration.
But the problem with this is often that the teacher/uplifter often sacrifices his/her high vibration by being compassionate.
So that's why I think that teaching is an art form and all about balancing. If you are too compassionate, the sufferer sucks you into his vibration and you both stay there. If you don't have any compassion at all, you can't understand where the sufferer is coming from. So you can't help him actively... but in a more passive way.
The real art about teaching/uplifting IMO is being able to quickly identify the vibration of the sufferer while still staying in the high vibration.
So good teachers/uplifters sometimes just act as if they would live in a specific low vibration like the doctor in the chinese story above, without being too attached to the outcome or to the sufferer.
Therefore teaching for me is much like the art of acting. You play a role and then you get out of it quickly before the sufferer sucks you into his/her vibration. But if you are too compassionate or if you act too long, you can even end up like Heath_Ledger.
answered 24 Mar '13, 20:35
I think the best way to help others, is to help them to learn to appreciate who they are and what they have, to love themselves just the way they are, without discouraging them from their dreams. Like this mom did not say that unicorns don't exist, she said they are hard to get.
I agree with @Monty Riviera
@flowsurfer. Nearly every question you ask, you talk about taking your life. I'm tired of it. I certainly don't want you to take your life; but if you choose to. Make sure your donor card is signed & dated. Go to the nearest trauma center where they are equipped to deal with a mess such as this. Take your life there. You don't want family or friends to have to deal with it. They will find your donor card. Your organs will be harvested & one of your organs, prob your heart will go to a young boy who will grow tall & become a model due to your life saving organ donation. You will live on in him - spirit energies - cellular memory and finally your wish will come true.
You have no reverence for life & you lack appreciation (thankfulness). Change those 2 things & you will change your life.
WHAT YOU FOCUS ON EXPANDS "I live in the space of thankfulness - and I have been rewarded a million times over for it. I started out giving thanks for small things, and the more thankful I became, the more my bounty increased. That's because what you focus on expands, and when you focus on the goodness in your life, you create more of it. Opportunities, relationships, even money flow-ed my way when I learned to be grateful no matter what happened in my life" ~ Oprah Winfrey ~
ETA 11 - 2 - 2013
My answer was written after @flow threatened to take his life over and over and over again in the 3 months preceding this post & for months afterwards & prior to him FINALLY admitting on 10/18/13 that he was being dramatic. He wished to grow 8 inches taller as an adult & if this didn't manifest he was going to kill himself..
ETA To Answer the Question Asked
That & speaking from your heart.
ETA -- I left out the most obvious & simplest solution to your question Bill. Read IQ & take what resonates with you & implement it into your life. If you want to create the life you choose to live -- you'll find the 'tools' to do so throughout IQ.
I shouldn't of hid my response in the comments section - I'm hoping @flow will see this because he has more power than he realizes & he should be careful how he uses it.
Actually @Monty I can think of a way his request could manifest based on his current 'beliefs' & emotions. Poor flow gets in a tragic accident which severs both his legs at virtually the same point either below or above the knees. If he can convince his Dr's it's in his best interests to be taller; I'm sure they can fit him with prosthesis's which will increase his height. Careful what you pray for ....
Note to @Monty (oops - sorry, looks like you are going to get hashed since I copied & pasted your comment)
You can only show the way,the person as free will that it is @Flowsurfer or anny one else.They have to help them self.They have free will and are responsible of it.Every one reap what they sow after all,be mercifull with them,they might deny you more then 3 times,tend the other check,until their choice is made. "Truly I say to you that this very night, before a rooster crows, you will deny Me three times." So should you not be mercifull with other?How will you find peace?and make that heart of yours pure?
Do not be surprise at my saying:In this world many judge after the flesh.
After all who is with out sin to cast the first stone?
Would you not want mercy? Blessed are the mercyfull they will be shown mercy.
So let there be light,Be the light that you can be,experience and enjoy.
Honestly Dollar Bill....this guy has asked the question of how he can foster a belief that he can quickly grow taller, and command his body to do so......not one person on this website has told him that this is a load of ########!!
We can help others by being REAL, HONEST and not afraid to offend them..............
@Dollar Bill yes why indeed do these helpful bits seem to fall on deaf ears? ... "How can we best help others?" ... I would suggest rather ... How can I best help others?
feeling paranoid ? ... back to square 1 (1x1 or 11x or 110)
110 = drawing of a hollow tube 11 is the profil and 0 as seen from above
Definition of paranoia in The Free Dictionary; a psychotic disorder characterized by delusions of persecution with or without grandeur, often strenuously defended with apparent logic and reason ... extreme irrational distrust of others ... a form of schizophrenia characterized by a slowly progressive deterioration of the personality, involving delusions and often hallucinations.
Definition of paranoia in the Urban Dictionary; No chance I'm gonna give a definition. What if someone's watching? :o
@releaser99 says "sometimes it is more helpful if advice comes from a vibration that is lower than love first" ... hmm, looking at the emotional scale if someone is at the "bottom" what vibration do you suggest to them? ... death. Perhaps this explains why most murders take place between couples or close members of the same familly, it would be a kind of "proof of love"
And this questions the very validity of the emotional scale ... how do I see the emotional scale? a never ending double spiral, a ladder with steps like a spiral staircase, infinity downwards and infinity upwards ... so what is abundance ?
and what does "green" signify? ...
The Free Dictionary; the hue of that portion of the visible spectrum lying between yellow and blue(notice the word "lying"), evoked in the human observer by radiant energy with wavelengths of approximately 490 to 570 nanometers, any of a group of colours that vary in lightness and saturation and whose hue is that of the emerald or somewhat less yellow than that of growing grass; one of the additive or light primaries; one of the psychological primary hues.
Urban Dictionary; yes ... it is most definitely referring to the marijuana ... and also upon occasion, any substance with similar uses. too properly, of course, it's a golfing term, but that's really not much fun, now is it? 'yo where da green at?
green? between red and blue
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