I am referring to Bashar's method described here of breaking additions by becoming someone who never had them in the first place.
If you have used this method to overcome a habit, or change behavior in any way, I would love to hear the details about it. For myself, I have been able to see myself overall differently by deciding that my "past" is such a nebulous thing that I don't have to accept it as my reality at all. I think it's is a good start, and has helped me a lot, but when I get down to details of daily living, I have not been as successful at changing things.
The premise is simple, and I do understand it in theory, but I am interested in your experiences of putting it into practice. In reading recent comments regarding the success @releaser99 has had with this method, I thought I would like to try it again, but still have questions as to how to make this work. As @Nikulas remarked, it was like Method Acting at first, but I felt the same way eventually, that trying it on more complicated, emotional issues for me hasn't worked well.
For example, what was your mindset was starting out, what was your inner dialogue as you went about day-to-day living? Did you pay attention to the change, or just shut out all other thought?
Any advice or insight you could share would be much appreciated. Thank you.
I think that to make this method work and break addictions easily it can help to bear two things in mind.
So if you want to adopt new beliefs/behaviors you must bear in mind that your old beliefs will try to trick you into believing that what you want to do is the very wrong thing to do. Your old beliefs will try to convince you for about 21 days.
Why is that?
Because every belief has to reinforce itself on autopilot without you having to think about it. Otherwise you wouldn't even have an identity. You would instantly forget your name and who you are.
An identity is a whole network of beliefs that reinforce themselves again and again and again in every moment.
Let's take the identity of being a smoker. It might seem as if there is only one belief. "I am a smoker". But because it is an identity, there is a whole network of beliefs and memories to it such as
The list goes on and on. And all those beliefs are also connected to each other. So they not only reinforce themselves individually, but they also help each other out when one is at need. So we could say that they are really a lovely, caring family :).
And here is why Bashar's method is so powerful. By being a non-smoker in the first place you simply bypass the whole network of beliefs using just one thought. By saying that you were a non-smoker in the first place you instantly bypass cravings and withdrawal systems that a smoker usually would have.
However bear in mind that the old network of beliefs will want to survive...for about 21 days. And that's ok. Because every time it does, you simply go back to your new belief and bypass the old network again and again and again...until it knows that you are now a new person.
I knew that it would take some awareness to recognize that the old me would want to survive throughout the day. I knew that I would have to reinforce my new belief often for 21 days. I knew that it would then reinforce itself without me having to be aware anymore.
So each time my old belief wanted me to smoke and created withdrawal symptoms, I said to myself "I have never smoked in my life. I am the type of who loves greenpeace, wants to save the environment and hates all kinds of air pollution" lol.
And at this point it is a little bit Method Acting :). But believe me, it is so fun to be another person :). It might look a little bit crazy sometimes to others...but what is wrong with being just a little bit crazy when it helps to improve your life?:)
When people asked me how to quit smoking, I said with a serious face that I never smoked in my life. They laughed and thought that I was joking. But I was not :).
I imagined how it would feel to be that kind of person. And each time the old me wanted to convince me using different tricks, I immediately responded with that feeling of being a non-smoker in the first place. And what's wonderful is that all cravings and withdrawal symptoms disappear instantly in about 2-3 seconds if you do that.
It should also work on other things. Bear in mind that the thought "this problem is are more complicated than being a non-smoker" is just a trick of your old me that wants to survive. The thought "this method doesn't work on that" is also a trick of your old belief. I love Bashar's "trick-uncovering" tool here.
Maybe you should print it out and look at it every time your old belief wants to rationalize why this method doesn't work.
But I can remember the "old me's" history and memories so I do not understand how this works, even though it is working and has helped me this flaw is itching at me. Also all my friends remember the times I have smoked with them, which leads to more obvious flaws in this method. I understand that time is an illusion and it is all really now but that doesnt seem logical when I and everyone who knows me still know what my past is. If it was all now I wouldnt be able to remember all the things I remember, I can see a distinction between things I am remembering and imagining such as my actual past and my imaginary past I am pretending to have had in order to be the new me that doesn't smoke. A picture of me smoking doesn't magically change to me in a different situation does it. Can anyone explain?
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