Definition of hope:"Hope is the state which promotes the belief in a good outcome related to events and circumstances in one's life. Despair is often regarded as the opposite of hope. Hope is the "feeling that what is wanted can be had or that events will turn out for the best" or the act of "look[ing] forward to something with desire and reasonable confidence" or "feel[ing] that something desired may happen". Other definitions are "to cherish a desire with anticipation"; "to desire with expectation of obtainment"; or "to expect with confidence"."
I cannot shake this feeling of despair. I don't feel in control of my life. Many things can distract me in the short term but these distractions are not helping shift me in a more positive direction and some have done considerable harm. When I see others in trouble I feel despair for them. Where and how can I find hope? I can't see where a solution is going to come from. I don't see a way out. All I see is a prison and a life not worth living. I'm not sick, injured, hungry or hated. Some people tell me I have no right to feel bad. People here tell me to just, to put it into a simple expression, "enjoy life". All that does is deepen my sense of despair, of being imprisoned. So I ask again, where/how do I find hope?
asked 13 Jun '13, 00:25
I love Emily Dickinson's quote on 'Hope' and I trust you will too.
Access your heart center - the seat of the soul. If you don't know how - it's quite simple. Just think of something that puts a smile on your face. Then listen with your heart @flow. I'm certain you will 'feel' the vibration of hope and love and possibilities.
There are so many things you can change. I'm sure you have stopped banging your head against a wall which would not budge. If not, please take a step forward and stride confidently & courageously through the door that is swinging wide open - just for you.
You can only think hopelessly is you think with your ego and not with your heart.
We haven't heard from you since you asked this question. I wanted you to know I've been thinking of you & as always, wishing you well. I'm sure many others have also.
With Love, Ele
ps You can always drop us a postcard..
I believe meditation is HOW you will find Hope
To Quote Debbie Ford
and to quote Jane Fonda
and once again, I will quote Emily Dickenson
You will find hope by accessing your heart center, by meditating, connecting with source energy & by using your imagination . Dream & Dwell in Possibilities, Create & then Follow Your Heart's Desire.
Feel Better @flow & remember -
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Im glad your still hanging in there, and still posting. I know things are tough at the moment, and believe me ive been where you are.
No clever advice or miracle quick answers im afraid. Just one point that I believe will help you as much as anything.
Re read " ask and it is given " Then apply yourself to as many of the 22 processes mentioned there as you can. Forget any manifestation ( as much as you can do ) and apply yourself to the processes themselves just for the sake of doing them.
Persevere with them as you've never persevered before. Make them a habit. Make them part of your life routine.
answered 13 Jun '13, 03:43
There's not much we can do here on Iq. Posting differently worded questions isn't going to help. Me posting differently worded answers isn't going to help either. As I posted elsewhere, you are too vibrationally apart from listening to answers (that's not your fault, it's just the way things are atm). I said take a couple of months off from metaphysical studies, but obviously you cannot take a few months off from living your life or emotions!
It's frustrating, even on my end of the scale, because we all know you are doing everything you can think of to feel good, and you are really trying hard to put your life in a positive scale.
Step one: let it be positive now.
All I can reiterate is the idea that everything is happening in your life in perfect synchronicity. We are all going to get our dreams eventually, life is more fun and interesting playing through with all the details along the way. The only reason time exists is so everything good doesn't happen at once! So good things can happen over a period of time. You can only get great insights out of even observationally negative experiences by deciding to look for the gain in it. Yes, that even includes silly belief systems you may be oblvious to using.
Step 2: You are learning everything you need to learn at the right time.
If you really try taking aboard that universal wisdom, you can begin to relax about your life. Painful experiences and emotions are only the result of looking at things in an expired perception (belief system), allow yourself to acknowledge your belief system is in action, and realise you are only feeling bad because you are looking at things a way that produces fear.
Step 3: Study examples and have fun (I know hearing that doesn't synch in with you atm, but I'm writiting this for myself)
You have seen many films I'm sure where there is a character that doesn't really mind what is going on around them. They are happy most of the time even in bad experiences. They are relaxed about life and relaxed about everything happening. A good example I have used lately is Charlie Harper from 2 and a Half Men: relaxed, calm, doesn't worry, and he always seems to have luck on his side. That luck is self created through being living zen.
There are NLP tricks that can be used to absorb characteristics of people or characters you wish to have. We are all an amalgum of a variety of characteristics, I would recommend to choose the ones you want and go into your life wearing them on, like clothing.
Stress less and relax more.
answered 13 Jun '13, 00:45
whatever the way you are feeling/thinking that is your current level of vibration. As Abraham says: it is not easy or even recommended to jump from your current emotional set-point, (where you say you are feeling despair,) to a level where you are filled with radiant hope like the Buddha or someone on that level! You know it doesn't happen that way... u have to get there gradually step by step...yes its a bit boring & 'the work' but it works.... Just go back to 'Ask and It is Given' and work your way up the emotional scale. They know what they are talking about! It is the way it works! if you felt joy and it felt hollow, then it wasn't real joy you were feeling or you slipped back down to a lower vibrational state... the truth!
answered 05 Oct '13, 21:32
I wonder what kind of Structure your life has right now.
answered 06 Oct '13, 04:04
"Hope" means "I want something that isn't here to be here".
Feelings of "Lack" is feelings that say "it isn't here". That is the energy you are putting out and what will be given back to you.
If you "expect", you will keep expecting things. That's why Bashar says "No Expectations!".
Feel Fulfilled NOW, feel Satisfied NOW, feel appreciation NOW and you will keep getting things to make you feel that way.
If you don't do this, you'll always be "wanting" something, if you do this, things will just naturally keep showing up.
answered 17 Sep '13, 20:03
well my hope is found in the Lord, i have my bad days and my good days but thats because i know i have a loving savior. you may not go to church nor do you want to read this but, i once was in your place. i would feel bad for others and think their problems are my problems and that would stress me out. until i relalised im not going to find hope or joy in the world but in the Lord. ill be praying for you because thats what you need. i would love to hear back from you. (proverbs 13:12- "hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a desire fulfilled is a tree of life.")
answered 20 Sep '13, 17:03
You already know what answers are here so why bother coming to this site again. If you keep saying nothing helps. Then that must true. Suffer through it till you are done, then maybe you will change or maybe not. Some people go through their entire lives in suffering too. So maybe next life has better picture for you if you keep at it like this.
I dont think people here with their experiences are able to convince you. YOu need some other much bigger master who is very inspirational to give you hope. Or you will basically suffer through till you bottom out then maybe you come up.
If you think all these stars suns earth are going round and round randomly and that your body works the way it does - blood flowing perfectly from your heart through capillaries, lungs pumping air for you to survive etc without anyone monitoring and taking care of it. Magically works on its own. But you dont see higher design in operation then god help you.
answered 04 Oct '13, 21:45
I agree there are times when an individual is in a position where advising them they're putting too much focus and attention on whatever ails them while not making enough progress so it's worth advising them to take their mind off of it and be distracted by something else.
However, in the event the individual seems genuinely open to improvement and is actively seeking assistance, I'd say encouraging them to continue on both points makes a whole lot more sense than saying "Well why do you even bother?" I openly admit I'm likely unequipped to help in this matter, and it'd also likely take someone well beyond me to reach to your particular situation.. However this again suggests to me my reaction should be encouragement..
I am somewhat.. perplexed by the approach taken by some here.
To answer the question.. Everyone in life is asking the same question. We're all looking for that one bit of information, phrase, person, event, epiphany, whatever our personal 'key' is which will speak to us, provoke the turning point in our lives, whatever our need may be. For some the answer is simple and comes easily. Others aren't so fortunate.
I don't know what you're looking for, and I don't think you do either. All of the feelings of want or need or desire we are encountering are an attempt to remove a void, fill in a blank, answer a question, fulfill a quest. The fact we're having so much trouble with it simply means our void is slightly more complex, may require a more specific answer to speak to us.
At this point all I can say is keep searching, it's all either of us can do. Start looking in other places [in regards to what you're looking for, seek different answers].. Look for something new, something different. I do think it's a valuable suggestion to take time away from actively 'battling' against despair. Take a break from 'looking' and 'seeking' and just keep your eyes open for something calling out to you, especially from unlikely sources.
Making comparisons is your problem. Do not compare anything to anything else. Your interpretation of life is dependent on you being right. You are not right all the time. Accept that your interpretation is both right and wrong, stop taking sides against yourself. This life is a hologram, don't take it so seriously. Are you breathing? Now you can go to the next step, move to the Logic side of your brain, and stop making excuses. Your power is unlimited. When you wake up you will realize that you are connected to everything, and you don't have to control it, you ARE it if you believe it. Wake up son, life is short.....KOA.
answered 19 Oct '13, 16:43
The Knights Alchemy
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