This question is very similar to, but uniquely different, on my question on energy exchange.

I want to have the skill to interact with people, and make them literally just feel calm, comfortable and good around me.

This is not a hidden agenda in order for myself to get something in return. I want to know all the tips for this because it is merely a preferance.

So far, from observing a spiritual guru in action, some thing I have noticed include:

  • Being in the present moment with the person
  • Maintaining eye contact. Not staring, eye contact
  • Feeling relaxed
  • Having no need to 'be elsewhere.' Being totally at ease with the conversation
  • Your body langauge, facing full on to the person, to communicate you are their priority
  • Listening to the person with feelings, more than your mind. Here, intuition has helped me.
  • Being polite, yet speaking your mind
  • Being outcome dependant. Eg: I have no need for the person to like me, I have no need to find out somehting, I treat the interaction for what it is, I don't get upset when I don't get a particular result.
  • Meditating, or deep breathing, before an interaction, strangely helps

To put it this way, I want this pleasant 'people person' skill. My question is, what are some other things I can do to make myself, shall we say, a sort of figure of God by being sincere with people?

I want to help people. Not by doing 'favours,' but by having my intention to make them feel a little better.

This video gave me some initial thoughts on how this works. Here, Owen (from my confidence course) explains to have the intention of making others feel good: I apologise for the long video. I apologise for the context this video is made as well :( Please don't judge me for it.

asked 04 Dec '13, 22:36

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Ask questions. People are generally interested in their own lives. When you show an interest in others lives and experiences. It gives them a sense of self-worth. Thus you are seen as a positive experience. You listed some good points in your question, use them in conjunction with the question asking.


answered 05 Dec '13, 01:57

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Undoubtedly, all of the things you have listed will probably help. From my personal experience though, I have found that the most enjoyable social interactions have been when I have just been myself.

I have in the past tried to be "nicer" than I have wanted to be to others at a party/gathering for the sake of being polite. I have found that it does not work very well for me. I have now given that up and I feel much better for it, although I cannot say the same for others who have to interact with me as they have to accept me for who I really am.. :-)


answered 05 Dec '13, 05:35

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Pink Diamond

get to know yourself then you will know other. I am not a divider am I? if there is no division between you and other you are where you need to be. most people are not there yet. some will appreciate you some will not and will even be jealous and try to prove and praise them self. it is their choice not your be merciful to them, they do not know what they are doing, and will probably not accept it if you put it in their face. if you need to take a break and go in the desert where no one can give you no name to solve a problem do it. love the neighbor as your self. speak the truth with a pure heart use the time imparted to you wisely.

Let there be light, be the light that you can be, experience and enjoy.


answered 05 Dec '13, 05:16

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white tiger

It all starts with good feeling you have within you towards others. Your good feelings, a real desire for others' welfare will have accomplished half. The other half lies in taking an interest in others.

"A Good Heart Can Win Many Relationships, A Good Nature Can Win Many Good Hearts!"

Also never take offense at other's words or action towards you!

[The Bird Asked The Bumblebee: "You Work So Hard To Make The Honey And Humans Just Take It Away, Doesn't It Make You Feel Bad?" "No," Said The Bee, "Because They Will Never Take From Me The Art Of Making It."

In brief: "Respect is what we owe; love, what we give."--Philip James Bailey


answered 05 Dec '13, 05:47

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