I have had a lousy holiday season... and it was my own fault.
My family of origin pretends I do not exist... and it hurts. I pouted all December, made Wade's and my own life miserable, and all because these b****es treat me so badly.
I decided...no more. I just suddenly realized that I do not want to spend even five minutes more thinking about these... creatures. So I just used a trick of Wade's, and "let them go".
I feel immense relief, and now, they feel like "shadows" to me. Indeed, that is what they are.... I haven't seen them in years. It is such a waste of time worrying about these people who obviously don't worry about me.
So I just "blew them off", and I felt like I had re-made myself. And it feels grand!
Have you ever done this? I mean, have you ever just "steered your canoe" into a different river?
I cannot exactly describe what happened, but I know that I feel completely different.., reborn, almost. I would rather be an orphan than be related to these people whose whole focus is about showing off to each other what they possess.
But I also realized that I "re-created" a new me. Have you ever done this? How did it feel?
asked 06 Jan, 10:45
perhaps, every morning
answered 07 Jan, 08:35
I read an answer on here where someone spoke the "obvious" truth that it is our own expectation of peoples behaviour towards ourselves that determine and create their actual behaviour- we have a certain belief about ourselves- and what we tend to believe we actually vibrate- so we send out certain vibrations and people respond to them- you dont have to say a word- the human nervous system picks on on everyones vibration in a near proximity- or people that you just know and can picture in your mind- this is why you need 00000.0001 second to know if you like someone or not- is is how you KNOW someone is desperate or in contrary- a narcist and so in effect you are still vibrating at your own level- which they in their turn respond to- and the way you phrased your question- it seems to me you gave actually did not completely let go of them, there is much codemnatiom and the feeling that you believe they should change or be different, which is not the way the world works- its so without as within- you cannot change circumstances but you can change your inner world- and by doing so the conditions will change- because YOU are the one determining what happens- and nobody else. I also see you quite heavily judge them as you think they are acting a certain way that is in your eyes not the "correct" way. We mus try not to judge others because by doing so we actually are judging ourselves, let them be all that they are in their own right, this does not mean let them control or bully you, but more - let them go and wish them well, we all make mistakes and no one is in any way free of faults, understanding is such an important word here, understanding that even though they hurt you or did you wrong they are still people, and that makes them sometimes wrong but it also always makes them worthy of understanding, forgiveness and happiness. I believe you will set yourself free when you try to see it this way.
As for your question, my answer is yes, i have- completely transformed myself, my views, my attitude, my whole life basically- and it was only through understanding that only I have the responsibility over my own life- no one outside of me has the power to control what happens- i also had to forgive quit a lot of people but looking back and renembering the pain i had and the confusion how anyone can treat another human like that- and the truth is- they cannot- but the human can allow themselves to be treated like that. I wish that wll those people will be happy and that their lives be good and amazing, they do not deserve misery for anything, even if they hurt me- how am i then different different than them? If they hurt me and i want them hurt in return than we are the same in our cruelness and i will let no man pull me low enough to hate him (Ghandis quote seems well placed here) try to focus on your own happiness, wish them the best and see the past as a wonderful teacher that made you into the person you are right now, i personally wouldnt want to change anything and i pride myself for so courageously and with integrity handeling such terryfing conditions! God bless!
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