I believe thoughts create reality; that my thoughts are based on my beliefs; that ultimately my reality is created by my beliefs. If so, all I have to do to change something that I want to change in my reality is to believe something different. Although I have been successful in changing some of my beliefs with the techniques I learned from Abraham's books, they were all beliefs related to my judgement on past events or to other people or to circumstances around me.
I realize now that I have never been able to change much what I think about myself and my judgement of my achievements, and that may be due to the response I get from other people. I think an example would clarify the situation:
Let's say a person wants to develop a skill (here comes the piano story again!:) The person is perfectionist and is never satisfied with her results. That is because her teachers would always correct her and would make her feel she doesn't have talent and that she will never develop into a pianist. At first she fights this line of thought, but is finally forced to see that "reality" and accept it.
Now, if we create our own reality, then the reality of this person is been created by her own thoughts and beliefs. I mean, I know I have created this reality from the first time I ever walked into a teacher's room : I attracted those teachers!
It means that deep inside I really never believed I could, even when I thought I believed I could. I accept it's my own doing.
Now, I would like to change that belief. I realize I have been telling the same story all along - a story of failure. I understand that in order to change my reality I would have to tell a different story: I would have to tell a story of success, instead of telling a story of failure.
The problem is that telling that story feels like lying. I cannot tell myself I am a good pianist because I don't believe that. I cannot tell other people something I don't believe because it feels like lying to them.
I realize I would need somebody to tell me a different story, but then again, I'll only attract people that would tell me that different story if I were able to change the story I tell to myself first.
How can I tell a different story when I feel my story is the "true" story? What's the difference between telling a different story and lying?
How can I change this story of failure into one of success and believe that new story is not a lie?
"Lying" is "telling a different story" with self-judgement/self-punishment (shame/guilt).
"Telling a different story" is "lying" without self-judgement/self-punishment.
Let go of the underlying belief(s) that reinforces guilt and shame when trying to tell a different story. Basically, it feels safer to you to tell how physical reality is right now instead of telling how vibrational reality is right now. Ask yourself:
"What am I terrified of? What specific, horrible event could happen in the future if I were to easily tell a different story?"
answered 30 Jan '17, 15:38
I recently heard an Abraham tape answering your questions:
Towards the end of the video, they basically say, that when you are aligned with your "lies", then you are not lying but telling your new, preferred story.
Maybe right now, telling yourself that you're an awesome pianist is too much of a vibrational jump, but you can definitely go there gradually.
Start with general sentences like:
"I may no be a perfect pianist right now, but that doesn't mean I will never be one."
"Many terrific pianist once were where I am now."
"If I tap into the infinite intelligence of my vortex, I have access to my true talent, and that's exactly how all of these grand musicians once did it. All they did was going into the receptive mode (probably not on purpose :) and let go of all doubts and concerns. The magic of the vortex can take me there as well if I allow."
"I remember softly, that if I really believe in something, it has to happen. Law of Attraction makes sure of that. And the site Inward Quest offers plenty of information on how to change my beliefs to do exactly that."
"The only reason why I am not where I am is because I have resistance to my desire. All the other components have already been gathered. I just have to tell another story and start to trust in the process."
Another great Abraham tape that speaks of the "doneness" of a desire:
Hope this helps.
Lies leave the underlying negative beliefs intact, which leads to unpleasant cognitive dissonance within the present moment, which encourages you to behave erratically.
Telling a different story is a natural consequence of clearing negative beliefs you hold about yourself, and only creates a cognitive dissonance between who you are now and who you remember yourself to be, which encourages you to focus on the present moment and behave consistently.
Put differently, to tell a different story, you recognize your own authority to define your story, and demonstrates your proficiency in first acknowledging then uprooting through awareness any beliefs that contradict it, while a lie reinforces the negative belief through the frivolous attempt to cover it up without first acknowledging it, leading to resistance.
In Abe speak, to tell a different story is to focus on what you are wanting. To tell a lie is to focus on the lack of what you are wanting. When you notice a lingering bad feeling, you pause, and ask: Where did that come from? Then you acknowledge the emotion and the belief, and go right back to telling your new story.
In Huna terms, the difference between a lie and a different story is the lack of resistance in your body, because when you uncover a complex by doing something different, you resolve it and keep nourishing your new dream until it replaced the old one. This is only possible if all resistance to the new dream is resolved. You will, however, only be able to remove spiritual resistance if your statement is in line with the inspiration you receive from your higher mind, and is, hence effective.
In my terms, it's only a lie if you don't believe it to your core, and you will only be able to believe it to your core if it's loving, and hence, true.
Note that this process is best done by yourself or as an exercise with like-minded people, until you feel inspired to share it.
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