is it wrong to have sex before marriage? Where in the bible says its wrong as many chirstian churches preach it. Please share your thoughts on this subject with regards to how it affect, Positive or Negatively both spirituality and physically Thanks

asked 18 Nov '11, 11:45

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edited 18 Nov '11, 12:15

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Barry Allen ♦♦

has long has everything is made in harmony. i do not see anny wrong done. ask your self this what you share with someone else is it anny body else concern? if you want to marry to make a commitement in front of people you know it is your business. but in this time where people marry and divorce many time in their life. where is the commitement? it is more a show and a legal binding. so i ask you what is worse people that do not marry and stay all their life together or people that marry and divorce many time in a life time?

So does having sex before getting marry a big deal?

answer all those question and you will have a more clear picture.

experience and enjoy.


answered 18 Nov '11, 16:32

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white tiger

Those are good point WT, and I would add that many marriages are just shams and fakes anyway.

(18 Nov '11, 16:34) LeeAnn 1

Moreover, the Father judges no one, but has entrusted all judgment to the Son,

This is why I speak to them in parables: "Though seeing, they do not see; though hearing, they do not hear or understand.

(18 Nov '11, 16:53) white tiger

I do not follow the bible but I personally feel that there is nothing wrong with pre-marital sex as long as both are willing parties and take care to take the necessary precautions to prevent unwanted pregnancies!

The only 2 religions I can think of at the moment that are against pre-marital sex would have to be Christianity and Islam if I am not wrong.. if that is the case maybe one should ask why other religions apart from these two do not practise this and you will have your answer...


answered 19 Nov '11, 01:00

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In my opinion the real answer to your question lies within yourself. If you decide that it is right for you to wait until marriage to have sex, then that is the correct decision.

As far as spirituality is concerned, I don't believe you should search for answers in the Bible. History is always written by the victors: Jesus condemned the church for their corruption and greed for power and wealth... He was crucified for it, the rest is history. If you insist on relying on it rather than forming your own beliefs: Interpretations can be made in favor of and opposing the Bible condemning premarital sex, and as such there is no provably 'correct' answer, only the answer you decide fits you.

Also keep in mind the Bible also says women are to be slaves to men and are forbidden from teaching religion to men due to their inferiority; slavery is commonplace; adultery, sodomy, and speaking ill of your parents are punished by death; etc. That being said I would advise taking anything it says with a grain of salt.

Physically speaking you should always be careful about who you have sex with. Always be safe (physically and emotionally), always make sure you and your partner are clean, use common sense.

As with anything in life there are always risks. Be prepared for the worst, but hope the best. Analyze every choice you are presented with, evaluate the risks and the rewards, and go from there. Everything in life is a calculated risk, even walking down a sidewalk.


answered 19 Nov '11, 12:38

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edited 19 Nov '11, 12:48

Thanks Leo this is very helpful.

(24 Nov '11, 15:53) hanico

Glad to be of service. =)

(24 Nov '11, 22:53) Leo
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