My wife wants to get divorce me even though we have had wonderful years and have raised two wonderful sons. She thinks she has "it" in spiritual more than me. I have been reading about the Power of Intention by Dr Wayne Dyer. My wife refuses to share why she wants to divorce me.

I am basically a good man and excellent father and serve her well. She thinks she is superior with spiritual than I am. I don't give a damn about who is the superior. Every human being exists on this planet with the same and equal spirituality. I need help with this to get her to realize it.

asked 27 Oct '11, 02:12

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edited 27 Oct '11, 07:47

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Dear Jimmy, welcome to I.Q. I'm sorry to hear of your problem and I wish that I could somehow take away the emotional pain you must be feeling. It is never easy to fear losing the one you love.

No one on planet earth is more spiritual than another for we are all children of God and we all have God within us. Some of us are more aware of this than others but in the eyes of God we are all equal and for anyone to sugest that they are more spiritual implies that they still have much to learn and it is their ego and not spirituality that is still dominating their life.

To be truly spiritual one leads life with love and compassion the way Jesus did and that is not easy to do as most of us discover. We human beings evolve at our own pace and in our own time and that is the beauty of being human and others that consider themselves it spiritualy should know this and show compassion and humility towards others.

I hope that you change your wifes mind about leaving and the only way I can help you is to tell you to leave things in Gods hands. Tell God of your problem and tell God that you are now leaving this problem in his capable hands for you know that God has a solution. After that try not to think of your problem and if you do make sure it is all positive. See yourself and your wife being happy in your imagination. Imagine her telling you that she is happy with you. See her smiling or the two of you holding hands. You have to actualy feel her and your happiness in your imagination. Do this for a few days and than release it.

I hope this helps some and I wish you all the happiness you deserve.


answered 27 Oct '11, 06:30

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Paulina 1

I agree! Using your imagination and then releasing it may help.

(27 Oct '11, 20:55) LeeAnn 1

It's true that some people are closer to spirituality than others and we are all at different points along the way. I don't think we all are on the same rung of the ladder. But if she feels she is further along, then the fact that she would point it out to you proves she is not. A person climbing the spiritual ladder would not use that to club someone else over the head with! Do you see what I mean? The most spiritual people are the most humble...always.

You can't make someone want to be with you. We all have our free will. I would suggest accepting how she feels and giving her some space; things could change. It may hurt, but I don't see that you have a choice.

Best wishes..


answered 27 Oct '11, 14:37

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Jimmy, please checkout this link,

Another thing I would like you to try is watch the movie "Fire Proof" and read the book "Love Dare." God is asking how much do you love your wife, are you willing to put this effort into changing your relationship? Two more books I have for you are "For Men Only" by Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn and for her "For Women only" also by Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn

Do not curse what is wrong but bless it, bless your wife and your marriage. When we complain, this is wrong that is wrong, why me, and this guy is a idiot, we are cursing God! As we do to the least of these people we do to God. If your wife wants to leave you she is hurting right now, bless her look at what a blessing she has been in your life and thank God then let her know what she means to you.

Anything and everything that is wrong in your life BLESS that it transform to the better, lift it to God. The Holy Spirit is inside of us. We carry the Christ within us God our Father is with us always, trust this and let the true love of God through.

I just watched FireProof again and at the end was this link.

I say this prayer for you both now.

Father God this man Jimmy is trying to be a good faithful son, he loves his wife very much and feels her slipping away. I lift Jimmy up to you father that he knows your love and you are with him always. Let your love shine through him to his wife, let his wife be lifted up to you as well. that both know you are there at the center of their beings never far away but closer than their own breath. Father God this is pain here between them, heal them and lift the veils from their eyes and soften their hearts as they raise in you they come together as one and again feel the lost love as it never left. Father God I bless this marriage that you are greater than any problems they may have, I bless them both. If they are not saved I now claim their salvation that they may know you are the Lord of their lives. I thank you having heard my prayers, in Jesus name I pray, Amen...

Jesus be with you both.


answered 27 Oct '11, 03:02

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Wade Casaldi

edited 27 Oct '11, 17:33

Wade this is a beautiful answer and the wonderful person you are comes across. Jimmy is lucky to have you answer his question. Blessings and Gods love to you too.

(27 Oct '11, 05:36) Paulina 1

Yes Paulina, for me it started with the book "For men only" this cleared up a lot of misunderstanding about women. A guy could be told in the morning by his wife "I Love You" and he is good for the day. he could spend the rest of the day alone working on his car happy knowing his wife loves him. But the women she feel rejected and alone and even unloved like he hasn't lately told me he loves me. For the guy this seems like "What do you want from me? I told you I love you!" it seems like she is never satisfied. But the truth is women are different and need "emotional security."

(27 Oct '11, 14:28) Wade Casaldi

That is a concept us guys have a hard time understanding so we need to read that book! After marriage the courtship chase ends for the guy. Goal achieved "She and I love each other forever! We said so in our marriage vows." But for her it is different she feels "He stopped loving me the moment he said I Do." She needs to feel desired and courted even after marriage. Again this is confusing to a guy but that is why we need to read that book. I then watched the movie "FireProof" wow that opened my eyes again! I identified with Kirk Cameron feeling he was not respected as I am sure all men would.

(27 Oct '11, 14:38) Wade Casaldi

But watching him work through the "Love Dare" book even when it seemed to make no sense to us guys was very awakening to me about relationships need work even when everything is great. A relationship is more like a stream constantly alive with movement, not like a photograph of a stream.

(27 Oct '11, 14:42) Wade Casaldi

I can say one thing that really surprised Jai and I, she with the book "For women only and me with the book "For men only" was this strongly opposite fact. Women hold love as the most valuable thing they can have but guys hold respect as the most valuable thing that they could have. To a women respect without love is nothing, but to a guy love without respect is nothing. The interesting is to both these thoughts and feels seem so natural like matter of fact that they expect each other to just know this and even expect each other to have those same thoughts and understandings.

(27 Oct '11, 14:53) Wade Casaldi

This is why guys feel, "Why does she treat me this way?" "I'll never understand her!" "This doesn't seem logical!" at the same time the woman is saying "why does he treat me this way?" "I'll never understand him!" "Doesn't he care for me?" two totally opposite perspectives both based on the error assumption that we are the same and thus should know and understand each other without needing told. Well surprise surprise we do need to be told so we can have a wonderful lasting relationship. :-)

(27 Oct '11, 14:59) Wade Casaldi

Sorry about all the spelling and grammar errors I was flowing and in comments it is hard to correct once posted. Thank you so much Paulina and I hope this helps many here may God bless everyone here. :-)

(27 Oct '11, 15:18) Wade Casaldi

well wade if the book is sweet and not bitter experience and enjoy.

(28 Oct '11, 02:14) white tiger

All the books I mentioned are helpful, they are compassionate too.

(28 Oct '11, 03:35) Wade Casaldi

i never said they where not wade. did i lift my right arm and roar like a lion?

(28 Oct '11, 23:52) white tiger

@ White Tiger did you lift your right arm and roar like a lion? No it seemed more like a Tiger! lol :-)

(29 Oct '11, 03:08) Wade Casaldi

no problem wade i said that to tell you that i did not judge you. and he gave a loud shout like the roar of a lion. When he shouted, the voices of the seven thunders spoke.

(30 Oct '11, 03:03) white tiger

Then the angel I had seen standing on the sea and on the land raised his right hand to heaven.

(30 Oct '11, 03:09) white tiger

Revelation 10:9 So I went to the angel and asked him to give me the little scroll. He said to me, "Take it and eat it. It will turn yo stomach sour, but in your mouth it will be as sweet as honey."

(30 Oct '11, 03:14) white tiger

Thanks for the Bible verses White Tiger, and thanks for the letting me know "no judgement" too. :-)

(30 Oct '11, 05:01) Wade Casaldi

(30 Oct '11, 22:07) white tiger

Nice picture, the guy that made that was really good!

(30 Oct '11, 22:19) Wade Casaldi

(30 Oct '11, 22:29) white tiger
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all people are born equal with different skill and gift after it depend on you how you use those skill and gift. it is the same with spirituality some are at different level and learning. but yes i agree that someone that is at high level will not judge other but he will tell them the truth that they accept it or not. and some other time he will say nothing knowing that those people are not ready to face the truth and are still at the judgement level. as for divorcing you that is not very spiritual should it not be for life? and the fact that you have kids together she could at lest wait for the kids to be mature. why is she so in hurry to divorce you? are you that bad? or was she tempted to go look else where thinking the grass is more green? get the answer to those question and you will have a more clear picture. experience and enjoy.


answered 27 Oct '11, 23:14

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white tiger

we are all of humankind,
yet not knowing how many times around.
though our origanization is similar,
our structure is individual.

we no doubt have differing perceptions of energy,
so some may be more attuned to finer vibrations than others.
what is it that determines spiritual?


answered 28 Oct '11, 00:22

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Well, someone said this to me once and it has helped me tremendously in my life, LIVE.. LOVE.. LET GO.. specially the let go part. Sometimes if we let go and let the energy flow people will realize quicker how they affect us if we don't force ourselves on them. Believe me I come from a family that has a very small universe in their heads, and basically the day I decided to let go and not try to make them feel or see anything according to what I believe is the truth everything starts falling into place. We must let go even if it is painful at first to let the energy flow and let people trace their own path and go through their own journey. Right now she has her heart set on HER IDEA OF THE TRUTH that is just hers and it is divine just because it is hers, one of my friends just went to a seminar.. and it such seminar they repeated constantly.. EVERY ONE HAS A RIGHT TO BE WHO THEY ARE, over and over again.. including you, including me, including your wife even though it seems unfair, because everything is divine at the moment we are in the eternal present. Right now I suggest you set your mind on your own growth and beliefs, let her go with love, and wish her the best from you heart, right now she is feeling that way but it might change tomorrow, we all create our reality, remember that, and the bigger the storm the brighter the rainbow. I understand how you feel completely, I have lost people incredibly close to me because they are set on their ways and need to live their own personal journey. Try to understand this, and try to surround yourself with love from yourself and others and picture yourself at peace until it comes true. Good luck and I hope you find some peace within this page and remember it all leads to something.


answered 29 Oct '11, 20:49

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