Emotions are "supposed" to be something we can control. Often when people ask questions here regarding negative emotions the responses are very 'cold' and suggest things like: "Just stop feeling that way".
For me personally, emotions have never been something I've been able to "change". I can "control" them, and keep them from affecting my actions, mood, or decisions, but I would always be aware of them.
In my own situation, I've been in love with one person for over half a decade now- despite being separated for over a year. I don't want to care anymore, they aren't anything like the person I fell in love with, they've done things that I'm incapable of forgiving, and they wouldn't even want to be with me if I did want to be with them.
Logically I know that the person that I do love doesn't even "exist" anymore, and I'm in love with a memory of a person that wasn't even a real representation of who that person was, just who I thought they were.
Yet despite all of this, I still dream about her on a regular basis.
People have advised finding someone else as a crutch to help me move on. I've been with a few people since, in a few different 'varieties' of romantic relationships. They usually distracted me well as long as I was in the immediate company of the person, but after that I'd go back to normal.
This next bit is slightly 'personal', but I suppose it is worth mentioning. Any intimate encounters beyond the basics didn't particularly interest me, because the only person on my mind was my ex.
Any thoughts or opinions on the broad 'general' question would be greatly appreciated, with and/or without relevance to my personal story or the specific topic of 'love'.
asked 14 Jan '12, 22:30
well snow to answer your question you have free will even for your though and emotion. if you have a bad emotion it is for you to take care of it no body else can do it for you.example: you see something that you like and you are happy you see something that you do not like and you are angry. does being angry help you? why are you angry? what makes you angry? is the cause of being angry in you or outside from you? if it is in you change it if it is outside of you it is not your problem and you do not have to suffer for it so change it or learn to live with it. you would be surprise how it can change your life. example: someone in power has fun making you suffer and making you be angry you change that for joy you just broke is game. he has no fun anny more. even in your question you say:Logically I know that the person that I do love doesn't even "exist" anymore, and I'm in love with a memory of a person that wasn't even a real representation of who that person was, just who I thought they were. so you see the problem was how you saw that person and you missed the real person. or that person has put a mask to hide her self and seduce you just like a vampire before they stick it in your neck. but you are the one that know how it is. and you have free will to solve that issue or not. so experience and enjoy.
answered 14 Jan '12, 23:20
In theory, it would be possible to remove negative emotions with the LOA. I have had some limited success with release techniques such as EFT, Sedona Method, etc. But although I have experimented with them a LOT over the years, there are still some things that don't budge. So I'm trying a slightly different approach now.
When I want to manifest something (and I'm not very skilled yet, but I get improvements all the time), I try to vividly imagine the feeling of having that thing. So, what I'm attempting to do now is to vividly imagine having this particular bunch of emotions (which are connected to some very deep-rooted beliefs) be gone, and the relief that I would feel, and how it would affect my life really positively.
I mean, I know for sure that releasing negative emotions can cause manifestations. So the question is, could the opposite be just as easy to do or even easier - using the LOA to release negative emotions? I haven't really come across much information about this, but I'm going to try it out for a while, and I'll report back to let you know what happens.
My thought is, that even if manifesting doesn't cause the emotions to release all by itself, it would make it much easier to use EFT or something if I already expected and imagine a positive outcome of releasing these emotions.
Why would you want to rid yourself of positive emotions like love? Love is energy - the Energy of the Soul - the highest vibration we can attain. You don't want to stop feeling - seriously, our emotions are our greatest teachers.
"People have advised finding someone else as a crutch to help me move on." I disagree - until you forgive AND forget - you can't move on. You will continue to attract the same type of woman and the same negative experiences..
"This next bit is slightly 'personal', but I suppose it is worth mentioning. Any intimate encounters beyond the basics didn't particularly interest me, because the only person on my mind was my ex." -- this is a major sign of depression in a young man who is viral and as physically fit as you claim to be; especially if this is something you used to enjoyed doing.
Depression and not being able to forgive our both low energy vibrations. I know you don't want to feel this way any longer - so give yourself permission to forgive and Snow, it's even more important to forgive yourself.
Here's an idea; for what it's worth - if you are into alternative healing modalities - try finding a good shaman. A good shaman can release the negative energy and pull out the knife you got stuck in your back and help you release the hold your former lover may have on you and much much more.. Could be a very healing journey... it would be a start, anyway..
answered 18 Jan '12, 01:21
If you are seeing this message then the Inward Quest system has noticed that your web browser is behaving in an unusual way and is now blocking your active participation in this site for security reasons. As a result, among other things, you may find that you are unable to answer any questions or leave any comments. Unusual browser behavior is often caused by add-ons (ad-blocking, privacy etc) that interfere with the operation of our website. If you have installed these kinds of add-ons, we suggest you disable them for this website