My problem is that- I have been used physically by my boyfriend and he is Psychic of having sex. So, I left my home country to start a new life in another country and phD was a way for it. But, I didnt get scholarship in my area of interest and so I am forced to go back to my home country in 15 days but I dont want to go and dont want to do PhD also. My parents are also against my marrige with my boyfriend.

moreover, these days my boyfriend is not talking with me properly i know it will be bcoz i am thinking that is it worth to fight with my family for him?

i just dont want to do phd but i want to stay in this country. only thing can be now- if i marry a man whose qualities i have written in diary (my soulmate).

is it possible to get my soulmate in 20 days??

I have deleted all my boyfriend's emails and messages. I have blocked him on FaceBook.

What else shall I do to get my soulmate and to stay in this country coz I want to stay here and lead a tension- free life.

Please help me.. I shall be very thankful to you.

asked 15 Oct '12, 11:08

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edited 15 Oct '12, 14:12

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Barry Allen ♦♦

Dear Susan,

It seems that the real issue here is your desire to stay in the country--and you feel that the only way you can do this is to manifest a "soul mate" who will marry you within a very, very short period of time.

Why not give the Universe a little more time for your soul-mate request, and concentrate instead on the issue that is bothering you the most--

Being able to stay in your country of choice.

I assure you, there are other ways the Universe can manifest your continued stay in your chosen country other than a rush marriage. Hundreds, possibly thousands of other ways. Possibly an infinite number of ways.

Don't worry yourself about what these ways might possibly be. Let the Universe figure it out, and take care of it for you. It does a better job at figuring this sort of stuff out than we could possibly do as individuals.

So first, I would completely let go of this belief that you "need to find your soul mate in 20 days" in order to stay in the country. This is adding an additional step that you seem to have a lot of anxiety about. Just get rid of this notion. Convince yourself fully that marrying immediately is just not neccessary to achieving your present object of staying in the country...and that there are plenty of other unforeseen ways to accomplish your most pressing objective.

So how can you manifest your goal of staying in the country?

I would first take a look at this post about How to Manifest Anything.

As you will read in this post, there are often difficulties in manifesting something when you are anxious about the outcome or feel you "need it really bad."

The best possible thing would be to forget about your request to stay in the country. Make the request to the Universe, let go your worries, and mentally-emotionally "go on vacation."

However, as you have expressed your present circumstances and feelings about them, this seems like it might be difficult for you to do.

So have a read on these posts about manifesting for a deadline, or "speeding" a manifestation:

If you are new to these techniques, this might be a lot to handle for you just starting out.

The truth is, this is advanced stuff even for me (having been at it for about six months now), so I'll keep my fingers crossed that someone with a little more experience out there can offer you some suggestions or advice...

Any takers out there?

EDIT 10/15/2012 9:40 PM

In response to Susan's comment, here are some links to help you with ridding yourself of anxiety about what you want to manifest:

The Focus Blocks Method


The Resistance Release Method


Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT)

This posting provides some links to several online Vortex Meditations which will be extremely helpful:

Here is something else I use's called a Rampage of Appreciation. Although the one posted here pertains specifically to finance, when there is something I want to feel good about, I tailor edit it to the subject I want to feel good about manifesting, and then I read it back to myself every day:

And here are a few more postings which might be helpful to your situation:

Use whichever of the above techniques succeed in making you feel better about your situation and what you want to manifest. If only one of them works for you, then use that one. If three of them work for you, then use those three.

Hope these help!


answered 15 Oct '12, 14:49

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edited 15 Oct '12, 22:00

@lozenge123 - This was where I was going on this question. It's not the soul mate that has the time constraint, it's staying in the country.

I think you can have whatever you want, but you will have to believe in it before you will see it, and it may be one whole heck of a lot easier to believe in your ability to manifest staying where you want to stay in 20 days.

Of course, if you can truly believe, there are no limits at all, so it's up to you, @Susan1704! :)

(15 Oct '12, 15:20) Grace

(having been at it for about six months now). Very nice answer.Love and Light.

(15 Oct '12, 16:02) Roy

@lozenge123- Thank u so much for the explanation and links provided by you. Yeah, you are right that time constraint is for staying in the country where I am living right now.

(15 Oct '12, 19:52) Susan1704

@grace- Thank u so much. I know I have to believe. But, still I cant overcome this anxiety. what shall i do to stay happy whole day and just believe? Thanks.

(15 Oct '12, 19:53) Susan1704

@Susan1704 - You are very welcome. I would say that a big part of the Art of Manifesting is the Art of "ridding yourself of anxiety about what you want to manifest." To these ends, certain techniques and exercises have been developed which are used by a lot of people on this site. I'll edit my post above to include some more links about this.

(15 Oct '12, 21:40) lozenge123

@lozenge123- thank you so much. I apreciate the effort taken by you in sending me links. Now, I am believing that I am going to stay in this country forever and universe will find me way for staying apart from doing phd. so, i am just going to stay positive. thanks:)) i need to BELIEVE and trust universe. please let me know, if I am on right track.

(15 Oct '12, 22:21) Susan1704

@Susan1704 - You are very welcome. It sounds like you are on the right track. If you follow this approach and these techniques, you can't go wrong. If you encounter any trouble, concerns, seeming contradictions, or questions while going through the process, just post another question here on the forum, and someone will walk you through it.

(16 Oct '12, 00:32) lozenge123

@lozenge- Goooood post brother; just about every user on IQ is becoming a qualified teacher to me, it's amazing :) Lol, can anyone else manifest a soulmate in 20 days?

(16 Oct '12, 00:47) Nikulas

@Nikulas - "A qualified teacher"...not even close! Unless directing people to Stingray's posts counts as "teaching". :) But seriously, thanks for the kind comments. I think we can all learn a lot from each other here.

As to manifesting a soulmate in 20 days...I think that would be a feat...but anything is possible, right? Frankly, I see no need to rush something like that. Let the Universe take a few years if necessary, and enjoy the anticipation of meeting "the one". But that's just me. :)

(16 Oct '12, 02:18) lozenge123

When you understand the Laws, then you understand that it is not more difficult to create a castle than it is a button. They are equal. It is not more difficult to create $10 million than $100,000. It is the same application of the same Law to two different intentions.

--- Abraham

Excerpted from "The Law of Attraction, The Basics of the Teachings of Abraham" # 594

(16 Oct '12, 02:26) ursixx

@lozenge123- thanks:)) I am going to follow Put desires in Box Method. That is right way to have desire in LET GO Part.

(16 Oct '12, 05:33) Susan1704

@Susan1704, the answers section should only be used to provide answers to the original question and is not intended for making comments. If you wish to make a comment on an existing answer, please click on the "Add New Comment" link available under each answer. Thanks. I'm converting your "answer" into a comment.

(16 Oct '12, 06:01) Barry Allen ♦♦
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I see you posted this over 2 years ago, so I hope you are with someone new. I seems from you posting that you wanted to find someone to get away from home and you were willing to enter a PhD program you weren't really interested in to do so.

In that case you are not being honest with yourself. The universe takes note of that. One way to manifest your soulmate is to live impeccably. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Then the universe can respond to your requests on it's own timeline, not yours. When you say you want to manifest a soulmate in 20 days, that is Ego speaking. If it's not in your highest and best good, the universe will not respond to give you want you want, but it will respond to give you what you need.

Note: I would also stop referring to the abusive man you were dating as "My boyfriend." If you want to get rid of him in your head too, switch to "my ex."


answered 19 Jul '14, 16:31

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