I keep going round and round with this and never quite nailing it. If you assume the feeling of being rich, and live from that state, unless this is something very peripheral in your life, you would obviously take actions that are entirely incompatible with not being rich. Like say, trying to book a luxury holiday in Fiji when your card has a $500 limit, or getting your kid into an expensive private school, or even just going out to eat instead of cooking something at home. I know a lot of people who got in trouble because they go into manic phases and spend without restraint; if a person is in a precarious financial condition, it doesn't even take that much to go overboard.
I've spoken before of my desire to be a male model. I actually thought about this a lot and because I am blocked by obstacles that I am told I can never overcome, I try to simply focus elsewhere, find another way to live my life. Only to realize I don't want another way, I want this way. Yet when I try to assume and sustain the feeling of the wish fulfilled, I have a lot of trouble. The only time I really feel good is when I tell myself "Forget everything, this is what I want" and just let go of all the other things clogging my mind and pulling me in all sorts of directions.
The problem comes from me not being able to stay in that state because everything around me tells me "No". I have to actually live my life in a world that denies the reality of my desire so my actions on a moment by moment basis are not aligned with the identity I am trying to feel myself into so I'm constantly being thrown out of it. This makes me feel like a "wannabee"; like an American Idol contestant that people laugh at. Even if I just stay in bed, the fact I am forcing myself to stay in bed denies the reality of my desire. I've tried to just "let go" but all that happens is that I get stuck in a rut of playing games or watching TV. Sometimes, that can even feel pretty good but nothing actually changes. So I don't understand how detachment can help.
I already live my life trying to follow my highest excitement so I don't see what I could do differently. I already try to focus my thoughts on better feeling things. I have the feeling that I must do something drastic because I have been stuck for a decade "trying" to build a life for myself, feeling good, feeling bad, feeling indifferent, making an effort, trying things, not making any effort, etc. I basically don't know what to do, where to focus, or who to ask for help or direction in order to change my life in a positive way.
Hi flowsurfer, I’ll throw out a few ideas and leave you to join the dots :)
As you read through this, stop and actually consider and answer the questions before proceeding.
Redefine ‘problem’ to become ‘challenge.’ A problem reeks of negativity and difficulty, whereas a challenge is positive and solvable.
Redefine ‘trying’ to become ‘doing.’ Trying is not doing and it never will be. You’re either doing it or you’re not doing it, there’s no middle ground.
Why do I want to be a male model?
And what then, after I’ve achieved my desire?
Unless you’re unlike most people you want whatever you want because you believe that it’ll bring you more happiness than you currently have. And while that’s true, unless you’re already generally happy, the happiness gained from achieving your desire will be short-lived at best. And once the happiness dwindles you drop out of alignment with your other desires, and perhaps into a depressed state.
That’s why many people say and teach not to have desires. However, they do not understand that desire causes movement of energy. Life is movement which is change caused by desire.
To avoid disappointment, rather than focusing on any particular objective desire, make your primary desire to be one of achieving the state of being happy and feeling good; then all, in your terms, good will naturally and continually flow into your experience. Some call this your vortex ;-)
To achieve the vibration of being happy and feeling good, appreciate what you already have. Appreciate the miracle of experiencing the illusion of physical reality as if it’s really real.
To stay in the vibration of being happy and feeling good, act on your excitement to the best of your ability in every moment you’re able to, taking it as far as you can. And then act on the next thing.
Keep it simple: In this moment I’m enjoying playing ‘X’ video game. In the next moment I’m no longer enjoying it, so I stop playing and write an email, then I go for a walk, eat, read a book, then I play my video game again, play some sports, eat and then watch some comedy etcetera... These days I only remain excited by something for approximately no more than 1.5 hours before shifting to the next thing.
By always staying in your excitement your vibrational frequency is always high and always leads you to the next thing that excites you. Your excitement is a personal representation of your brand of energy.
Now, let’s assume (hold a belief) that the reality we experience is determined by our beliefs. And that all realities are activated by either positive or negative emotion – desired or undesired reality.
From your high vibrational state imagine your desired future reality. See the end result in your mind’s eye (third eye) and feel as if that’s already your reality. Then forget about your desire whilst relaxing and enjoying your life. Relaxing is also a part of my excitement. For others it may be meditation or reading a book.
Believe that your reality has changed no matter what your current circumstances are showing you to the contrary. Can you see that another way of saying: assume the feeling of the wish fulfilled is - hold a belief (in your imagination) that feels good to you?
Once you’ve done the required amount of work in your imagination, you’ll start to see evidence of your desire in your reality. For instance: if you desired a particular type of car you’ll start seeing that car everywhere. Once you’re at this stage, no more imagining is necessary, other than simply because it feels good to you. This is because you’ve activated the vibration of your desire within you. Some call this your vibrational escrow ;-)
Your desired reality is now a probability, you simply have to bring yourself into alignment with it. How: by acting on your excitement to the best of your ability...
Perhaps the reason you’re not seeing your desire is because you don’t fully believe in it. In other words you doubt it, but what is doubt? There’s only yes in the language of the Universe, meaning that there’s only that which you pay attention to, wanted or unwanted. Yes/No = same thing. In the same way, there’s only belief, so doubt is simply a belief in something other than what’s wanted. Belief/Doubt = same thing.
Perhaps you’re continually oscillating between believing in your desire and believing in the opposite of your desire (doubt). In other words you don’t really trust your own belief so you remain where you are; you stay in your current reality.
Or perhaps you’re not staying in alignment with your desire for long enough. Always remember that we came into this time-space reality in order to experience the process of change. Therefore, even though you may believe that you’ve done the required mental and emotional work necessary, you’re not allowing enough time for the change in physicality to catch up with you.
And again, by not allowing enough time, perhaps you’re dis-appointing yourself from your desire by looking for the change within the illusion of the outside reflection. All change must occur within you, within your vibrational state of being, before that change can be reflected back to you in the idea of the outside world. You must 100% fully change before seeing the evidence of that.
After all, if you react to the reflection of the outside world by convincing yourself that you’re not seeing any change, then you haven’t really changed 100%. Because you’re seeking change in an echo rather than trusting that you’ve changed and therefore knowing that, over time, the echo must reflect that change. The Universe can’t bring you evidence of the change until you’ve really changed.
Realize also that although you feel and believe that you want to be a male model. That might only be a step towards what you really want that will delight and serve you even better. Kind of like a carrot that you offer you to get you moving in the right direction. The point is you don’t really know, do you?
Whenever you notice that you’ve dropped out of your desired high frequency state, due to any form of anxiety. Stop. Do whatever excites you to the best of your ability... Later on, from a happy state of feeling good you can examine the anxiety and discover which negative belief caused it and then redefine and change it. All anxiety is caused by filtering your energy through a negative belief.
Imagine it ♥ Feel it ♥ Forget it ♥ Get it !?
answered 15 Feb '13, 21:21
Hi Flowsurfer. I understood from your question that you would like to know how others deal with the gap between wish and reality practically. Here is what helps me (most of it is Abraham inspired). I'll use the example of money.
So, to sum things up, finding ways to reduce my attention on having little money to the necessary minimum and spending the rest of the time focusing on how I would like to feel reduces the tension between my wish and my actual reality. And I find that, if I keep this up, more money comes in, effortlessly. The danger is to get sidetracked, even by things that are nothing to do with my wish but that lower my energy level and my mood. Then the flow becomes trickle again very quickly.
Maybe this helps.
answered 14 Feb '13, 15:46
Dear Flowsurfer, I know what you mean and what you must be feeling. For I have a desire that seems to be unattainable too, when I consider the 'LAWS' of this physical plane, my society and what not, as I do not know of anyone who might have attained what I want.
I am still finding ways to soften this tug of feelings around my desire. I know about how at times you cannot muster enough strength or inclination even to get out of bed or when nothing absolutely nothing interests you. I also know how pointless life seems when you feel you would have to live without having what you want. But it has been so much better ever since I came to this site. I am yet not at the place where just the feeling of having what I want excites me and makes me so delighted that I do not care for manifestation, but I want to achieve it. Somedays I feel I am closer to it somedays not.
I do not know how to be constantly in the 'Feeling Place' of desire, but here is something that has helped me a lot in diminishing the 'impossibleness' of my desire.
'If anybody can create anything, you can. If anybody has demonstrated the creation of it, you can. But you did not come forth to regurgitate the manifestations that others have created, to some extent, sure. But you didn't come just to regurgitate. You are creators. You are unique, specific individual creators who are launching your specific desires in powerful ways and it is only then in your allowance of yourself to vibrationally, to revel in the frequency you have carved out that you would find your joy.'
I recently heard this from Abraham and it helped me see things from different point of view. I have noticed from our comments that you feel disappointed by Abraham teachings, I would just urge you not to discard it just because it came from a particular source. Read them and see, if they give you a new point of view or hope about your uniqueness or that of your desire. I quoted this here because it go me thinking about all 'inventions' humans have made all throughout the history. Who would have thought that one could change the way they look? it must have been 'Impossible' but it is common place now. Imagine how it would have been if people had stopped at the 'impossibleness' of heart-transplant? If you were to just consider Medical history, your would be filled with 'Awe' for the advancement and the so called 'Miracles' that are so common these days that it does not ever register as miracle anymore!!
'Height' is what you want - its merely a function of few hormones, growth-factors and bones. who is to say that we would not have therapy where they could make your epiphyseal plates to respond to growth hormone even after puberty? I say this just because i feel that is the main issue that makes you think you can not have what you want.
I guess, what I am trying to say is try to soften the notion that your desire is impossible just because you dont have a current manifested proof of it. this is how I make myself feel relief and feel better by telling myself that just because I haven't yet come across a story where someone in similar position as mine got the same result as I want, does not mean I would not?
answered 13 Feb '13, 22:31
you ask how to be what you are
the truth may not be that
answered 14 Feb '13, 06:51
You want a miracle be the miracle.Why do you worry your self?Why do you limit your self?I can only be that?I want to be a model.My desire is to be a model.people deny me that saying me no.i can't overcome.Why do you let other limit your self.You are more then only one thing. Ask your self this how can i overcome?Look at jesus i have overcome this world.Did jesus let people overcome him?He was the light that he could having faith and Hoping the best for himself and for every children of the father.He was the light of this world,it was not easy for him he as been oppose by the darkness in the humen heart,many from their own darkness could not understand him.Yet he keep on going,like a blazing fire that can not be extinguish,even in the face of death,He did not let is light go out.Be the light that you can be.Stop seing only darkness see the light there is some people that are good in this world,if not this world would stop to exist.You want some change be the change.
"I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world."
So let there be light,Be the light that you can be,Experience and enjoy.
I have started listening and watching the two gifts from, "The Secret"
Watching both of these feels very good and is programming my mind for good expectations. It changes the dominate vibration frequency to one of abundance.
I will try to make these an addiction so that everyday I will watch these.
You can try this too, I saw it recommended in the Ebook, "Uberman Almost Super Human."
Uberman reminds me of when I used to use BANABU (Building A New And Better Universe)
As for being a male model, you don't need to look like Fabio. Look in magazines there are all kinds of guys in those advertising everything from tools to barbeque grills to weed killer. If every single model looked like Fabio in every single advertisement average guys would hate reading magazines like Popular Mechanics.
Hello flowsurfer - the situation that you describe of going through the motions of manifesting correctly but seeming to be going round in circles, suggests that there is an "unconscious" belief system lurking somewhere, the following certainly seems to fit in;
Jafree Ozwald mentions 'poverty consciousness' we can be totally unaware of it's existence - he describes it as "it's the choice to be uncreative, feel limited in resources, thinking inside the box, deeply powerless, incapable of receiving love - this unawareness is the one deciding factor as to whether someone continues to remain broke or struggling for another year, or starts to shift their energy into receiving a new online income next week"
In other words looking at the question from a different angle we could rephrase it - "What is preventing me from fulfilling my legitimate desires?"
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answered 15 Feb '13, 09:39
I guess I'm just curious about why you want to be a male model. It seems to me that by you being one, you hope to receive the validation that one should find within. And, wouldn't you want to work towards something that won't end just because you've reached a certain age or look (meaning, you'll be considered "too old".)?
Print models are not necessarily tall.
answered 15 Feb '13, 22:21
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