I sent equipment worth $1200 to someone I loved and trusted. He has not met his end of the bargain. He was supposedly meant to pay last week but he has not yet. I am not in need of the repayment but at times I struggle with negative thoughts of maybe he is not planning on paying or he is being controlling. I need your insight, love is patient However am I deluded to say this?

asked 13 Dec '12, 13:39

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edited 13 Dec '12, 19:57

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There's no history of non payment on is end with me. However, there's history of impatience on his end so I thought if one is impatient then he will be snappy to return his end of the bargain with the same urgency. My love has no price, hence the lack of need. If he don't pay I will lose trust and a friend that brings tears, as we have a special bond money is not an issue

(13 Dec '12, 14:07) Ukweli

@Ukweli Hi.I converted your answer to a comment . ... have you told him this? As you have stated in your comment?

(13 Dec '12, 14:29) ursixx

it's certainly common to have many emotional feelings while sifting through things as you come to terms with what you really want.

(14 Dec '12, 05:05) clearheart

As many men, so many ways of description. It is the one that the thing being described align itself with it becomes.

In other words, the guy could be all the good thoughts you have and all the bad ones too. But he is the one he attach himself to. There are billions of possibilities what he could be, but you can only wonder about the options, for to know the answer to your question you have to ask HIM. Ask him, who is he?. And you shall receive your clarification. Then your mind shall rest.

(14 Dec '12, 07:01) CalonLan
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when you lend something to someone be prepared to lose it. if he does not repay you learn the truth about it. then your problem is solved. you will be in truth about the situation. and will have win something far greater then material stuff.

  1. [Jesus said], "If you have money, don't lend it at interest. Rather, give [it] to someone from whom you won't get it back."

  2. Jesus said, "The Father's kingdom is like a merchant who had a supply of merchandise and found a pearl. That merchant was prudent; he sold the merchandise and bought the single pearl for himself.

So also with you, seek his treasure that is unfailing, that is enduring, where no moth comes to eat and no worm destroys."

  1. A [person said] to him, "Tell my brothers to divide my father's possessions with me."

He said to the person, "Mister, who made me a divider?"

He turned to his disciples and said to them, "I'm not a divider, am I?"


if he is not able to give it back will you be mad at him? if he gives it back later will you be mad at him? is it that he is not able to give it back? or that he is like a moth or a worm?if he is like a moth or a worm then do not lend him the next time. and he does not respect himself and you. then you will know the truth and the truth will set you free. he is responsible of is free will. and so are you. make wise decision. do not judge or divide but stay in truth. love your neighboor as your self.so let there be light, be the light that you can be, experience and enjoy.


answered 13 Dec '12, 16:23

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white tiger

Ahead of time I have to be at peace with what ever outcome happens. If the outcome is important to me ,I discuss things openly as things progress, and hold that person to it as part of my own growth.I am free to renegotiate at anytime with open discussion. I let go the outcome and always gain more insight with each lesson.


answered 14 Dec '12, 05:04

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Release him from this obligation. I feel that your intense energy in this situation is perpetuating it.

You can either gently and lovingly let him know, or just release him in your mind, but drop it. Find something else to think about, to talk about, to do -- unrelated to this situation.

In any event, his tardiness in keeping his agreement is not an indication about his feelings for you.


answered 14 Dec '12, 06:19

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Dollar Bill


...I get my best lessons with ppl I have strong emotional energy with. I agree , it's not a true indicator of someone's feelings toward another. Now I am able to sense when I get that emotional ping that there might be work ahead with that rendezvous.I enjoy the idea of the grid that abraham talk about. I fill it in with wanted and let go of the how.

(14 Dec '12, 06:36) clearheart

Has this person not payed you before?
Or has a history of not paying?
If so what was your reason for sending equipment?
Have you contacted the person to see whats happening?
People do forget.
Does you Love for this person have a price?
I know that an question to an answer is not an answer but have you asked yourself these questions?


answered 13 Dec '12, 13:56

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