Ever since I started this journey of awareness and manifesting, I tend to see all of my manifestations as connected, even though the circumstances or persons involved are not connected at all. I perceive the situations in my life as having a common thread.

I have been able to manifest many wonderful things in my life and I must say that I am quite happy and peaceful inside. My next project (haha) is manifesting the relationship I have dreamed to be in forever. So, I know what I prefer in terms of personality and what I do not. I've come a long way in dating, i.e. I now attract persons who are respectful and kind and I appreciate this a lot.

BUT (haha, here comes the butt) I manifest the different personality attributes of what I prefer in different persons! The attributes I prefer in a man are scattered in different men (haha). To give an example from my current situation, there are two men I have been dating. One has the reliability and the solidity I look for in a man, whereas the other one has the tenderness and the caring that I also look for in a man. But, of course, I cannot join them together (haha).

In the past (and I'm so thankful for it) I was in a relationship which shook my heart and opened it wide. It did the same to him. BUT (here we go again) it could not last, not because we did not love each other, but because of circumstances which I prefer not to discuss. Suffice it to say that it was a Romeo and Juliet type of story ending in quite a painful way. So, here again, from the manifesting perspective, I managed to manifest the love (or a love) of my life, which could not last.

Now, and perhaps, as a consequence of this experience, although I manifest interesting men, I do not feel it in my heart. Again, from a manifesting perspective, I am manifesting good men for whom I actually feel nothing, even though they have some of the attributes I prefer. The CONNECTION is missing.

I try to see why this is so. I ask myself, maybe I am not sufficiently connected to myself, and that is why I am manifesting 'un-connectivity'. Maybe there is still lingering energy from my past love, or maybe I have some doubts as to whether I really believe that there is another man right for me.

How do I decipher these and really know what's going on inside me? I like to believe that I am quite aware of myself and my feelings but I'm sure there are hidden feelings and emotions of which I am not aware. How to see them? And how do I manifest all that I prefer in one person, rather than split it in two or more?

(I would love stingray to answer this haha)

asked 16 May '18, 04:21

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I'm not Stingray, but who knows maybe he'll repeat my answer word for word- then you'll finally have it all!!!

Kidding, of course.

There are two different ideas at play here- when I hear you describing your situation, I get the distinct impression that you quite simply hold a cluster of limiting beliefs that say pretty much what you described- "I can't have all that I desire in a man". Get rid of the beliefs and you're good to go.

The direct way to do that is to conjure up that terribly frustrating sad feeling you may get when contemplating your situation. Think about situations that brought it up, temporarily, and allow yourself to go there. When it starts getting intense, ask yourself the question: What would I have to believe in order to feel this?

You may have to prod and insist a little bit, and it is quite possible you may react emotionally while doing that- that's okay. You're already vibrating that, it's just suppressed- it's okay to go there temporarily in order to get rid of it. Keep going, repeat the question to yourself until you get a clear and concise answer- "Sure I understand that may be at play- but that doesn't directly answer the question. What would I need to believe in order to feel this?" Keep going like this until the belief that is grounds for your feeling is completely crystal clear. You know you did when you're surprised how silly it is. When you get that realization- you're good- it's gone.

Repeat this a lot. It doesn't matter if the belief comes up several times- it's not the same belief, it's a lookalike. The purpose of this kind of layering in beliefs it specifically to try and trick you into giving up. Keep going- if you keep tossing identical-looking rocks out of your backpack, it still gets lighter. When you experience a distinct sense of relief, give yourself a pat on the back- and repeat for further issues as they come up.

The second idea, closely related, is that you seem to want your partner to improve your vibration. This is a popular idea, courtesy of the 19th century romantic movement. The upside is that it can lead to a lot of intense drama, and the downside is that it will never lead to a harmonious situation. The whole point of the law of attraction type of thinking is that you vibrate what you want first, and then your reflections, and that includes your partner, will follow it.

So what you do is you treat all your present suiters, bless them, as temporary, until you feel you can't anymore. If you are somehow able to perform a cost-benefit analysis, that seems like a pretty clear sign to me that you're not vibratorily connected that much. In the mean time- imagine your perfect partner, and don't stop doing it- and when he comes along, you get to decide how close you want him to match your imagination. He will always be a near equivalent- you will get a vibratory match of your imagination, not necessarily something identical in every detail- but it will feel the same. But you're free to pass anything by and ask the universe for someone better, and if you can get yourself to do that, maybe you should (I found my partner that way- I just couldn't pass her by even though she was actually nothing like what I had imagined- she was better).

Good romancing! Remember- your partner is your reflection, but he's conscious. Imagine exactly what you like, all the time, and clear your negative beliefs. You're going to get something really, really, really cool.

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answered 16 May '18, 09:12

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Thank you so much for this answer. I have actually taken notes to practise. Your two observations struck me (i.e. I still have a cluster of beliefs/I'm looking to higher my vibration through a partner - wow - it's true!!). With your comment, you've helped me realise I need to go deeper into me. Thank you and bless you!

(16 May '18, 10:58) nbd028
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