Hi Stingray,

Now I already initially understand that the whole concept in every LOA exercise is just to feel better at one stage or another. I know there are only guidelines when conducting what you've termed your "manifesting experiments" and not a strict, unbreakable set of rules when engaging in them.

I'm simply requesting some of your advise or tips when going about creating charts for Manifesting Experiment 3 : Vibrational Goal Getting

  1. How should one go about creating a chart or table (or maybe I should use the word 'goal') when it comes to creating habits? A majority of my goals are really just about forming individual habits...For example, let's say my goal is to make my bed as soon as I awaken in the mornings (silly example, but I'm just using this to communicate as effectively as I can). I get up, make my bed, and that's it, apart from continuing that the following days until it becomes automatic. At the moment, for something like this I've just got a small chart of boxes with dates, and I check off a box every day I do it. Could you think of anything more effective considering there aren't really any 'steps' involved apart from the one?
  2. As a real goal of mine, one is to train a physical exercise routinely. Whilst ME3 would apply here because it's something I'm actually physically taking action on, I cannot train myself every single day- it's like I need to train my muscles, wait 2-3 days for them to grow and heal up, and then I can train again....The point is, how do I go about incorporating this so I'm doing something with my goal chart every day?
  3. Any guide lines or examples I could use for breaking habits? For example, I'm trying to stop my caffiene intake slowly, how could I come up with something for this?
  4. The big question: Could ME 3 be used as a way of creating a habit for thinking particular thoughts, or as a way of creating a habit to deliberatly getting inside the vortex? How could I go about doing this?

I'm not really putting any pressure on you to come up with a perfect response to this, but considering you've got quite a few decades of life experience more than I do, I thought I could get a level up asking the Guru himself.

Thankyou in advance :)

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Do your resistance training for example M, W, and F. Do cardio, like dancing around your living room for 20 minutes, on T, TR and Sat. Rest on Sun. That is what you check off those days. Always stretch after your workout to keep your muscles flexible.

(24 Jun '12, 09:33) Fairy Princess

How should one go about creating a chart or table (or maybe I should use the word 'goal') when it comes to creating habits?

The third experiment is really about achieving goals without needing to do all the physical action steps involved in the goal...otherwise it's just standard goal-setting.

If you are already achieving your goal everyday (doing the complete habit), you don't need to break it down any further. In the standard habit creation model, you just keep doing the complete habit daily for about 21-30 days until it's an unshakeable behavior.

If you are having trouble reaching the point of doing the complete habit daily, sign up for the free Tiny Habits course. The author has some clever ideas on how to deal with that situation.

I cannot train myself every single day- it's like I need to train my muscles, wait 2-3 days for them to grow and heal up, and then I can train again....The point is, how do I go about incorporating this so I'm doing something with my goal chart every day?

In this case, if you are following the ME-3 model, I would say that you are still fine to give yourself a cross on the chart on your days off because having those days off was part of your plan...it aligns with your belief that you need to have that time off to recover.

The big question: Could ME 3 be used as a way of creating a habit for thinking particular thoughts, or as a way of creating a habit to deliberatly getting inside the vortex? How could I go about doing this?

ME-3 is not really about creating or breaking habits - I see that as a separate topic - though you may naturally set up new habits along the way.

ME-3 is about taking physical action with the deliberate intention of moving your vibrational setpoint so that you don't need to complete all the physical action steps towards your goal.

With regard to creating a habit of Vortex alignment, I think an effective daily goal to aim at is to feel good enough to daily Touch The Vortex even for a brief period. The way you know you have achieved your goal is if you can genuinely write out a Rampage of Appreciation for a few minutes and feel that you are not faking it. There is more information here: Can you build up a tolerance to feeling good so it's hard to tell if you're in the vortex?

If you keep managing to daily Touch The Vortex, even for an extremely brief period, you will never get too far off track in your life and Vortex alignment will become easier and easier because the daily "drip drip" effect of reminding yourself of that good-feeling state will be extremely powerful over the longer term.

Any guide lines or examples I could use for breaking habits? For example, I'm trying to stop my caffiene intake slowly, how could I come up with something for this?

With the standard habit-creation and habit-breaking models, the idea is that if you continue to perform (or not perform) a physical action daily, you will eventually create (or break) a habit.

Abraham have said (and I find this also to be true) that the first 3 days are crucial.

With habit-breaking, if you can make yourself not do something for 3 days, you'll find it much easier to carry on not doing it and that might well be enough to have broken the habit completely.

While the standard habit creation/breaking models are definitely effective, I think (especially after listening to lots of Bashar) that it is a brute force approach.

My personal thinking is currently following the lines of a more elegant approach that Bashar talks about...



How To Break Bad Habits Effortlessly


The basic principle is that human beings only ever take any actions in their lives to avoid pain or to seek pleasure. Everything you've ever done fits into those categories if you think about it.

Abraham have a similar principle in that they say that everyone only does what they do to feel better...which is obviously a natural consequence of avoiding pain or seeking pleasure.

Bashar further says that once you identify a "bad habit" in your life, it is no longer a habit...it is a "choice". If it was genuinely a habit, you wouldn't even have the awareness that you were doing it...it would just be the way you live your life.

So the remarkable thing is that the noticing of a "bad habit" is actually the end of the "bad habit" :)

So what about dealing with that "choice" now, that appears to be a "bad habit"?

Bashar says that if you catch yourself doing something in your life that you don't believe is in your best interest ("bad habit"), it can only be because you have attached some belief to the action you really want to take that makes it more painful than the "bad habit" action. That's why you are not doing it.

So all you have to do is identify what that painful belief is, neutralize it, and you will naturally and automatically start doing the thing you really want to do.

Your behavior will immediately and effortlessly change because your intended action is now the less painful option.

Really elegant and simple idea, if you think about it :)

So how do you identify that belief that is getting in the way?

There are two questions that will do it and you'll find them here: My financial abundance is not manifesting - what should I do? You'll notice that they also play a part in Manifesting Experiment 4 because they are highly effective at unearthing limiting beliefs.

For convenience, I'll list the first (and main) question here (amended slightly to suit this idea):

  • What would I have to believe is true about myself and my relationship to this situation in order to avoid doing what I really want to do?

Once you have identified that belief, Bashar says that the logical, reasoning part of your mind should be able to observe the absurdity of the belief, that is making you do something you don't think is in your best interests (the "bad habit"), and it should immediately drop away.

I'm still testing out this last bit in my own life - the immediate dropping away of the painful belief - and, until I have racked up enough personal experiences that convince me of it, I can only offer it as something that Bashar says should happen.

But, summing up, Bashar's approach for habit breaking is simple and elegant and I don't see why it shouldn't work for habit creation too...but I am not at a stage of understanding and experience yet where I can offer anyone a step-by-step universal process for effortless behavior control (habit breaking or creating) beyond what is mentioned here.

Hope there's some useful information in there for you, Nikulas :)


EDIT

Just in clarifying my thoughts while writing this answer, it occurred to me that the basis of a systematic approach to complete personal behavior control would be to create a spreadsheet with three columns titled:

  1. What do I want to do that I am not doing? (The "habit" to create, or break)
  2. What am I currently doing instead?
  3. What would I have to believe is true about myself and my relationship to this situation in order to avoid doing what I really want to do? (Put the belief, or beliefs, here that you've identified that are making what you want to do more painful than what you are currently doing)

If Bashar is correct then after having identified these three elements, the painful belief should drop away and you should notice that what you want to do should become the automatic behavior rather than what you are currently doing.

You would need to keep some kind of log to identify if this is really the case, so a fourth column titled "Notes and Observations" would probably be useful where you track what changes you've noticed for this behavior.

I might try this myself for a while and see what happens :)

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Thankyou Mr Stingray. Jesus, I used the gentle habit destroying concept from Bashar; works surprisingly well and with virtually no mental effort on my part. Thanks for the detailed response, these days I've been really pulling apart ME 3 and have been waiting a few weeks to ask this question (from now on whenever I need a question answered, most of the time Vortex alignment gives me the answer).

(24 Jun '12, 05:59) Nikulas
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