I have always felt hated by my mother. She denies it and says that she loves me. She has helped me financially and with babysitting, but the words she says to me are like daggers. She rarely has anything nice to say to or about me, but says hurtful things almost every time we see each other. When she does say something positive, it is indirect and I can hardly tell that she is saying something nice about me, I have to dig for the compliment in there somewhere.
Obviously this is an issue I need to work on. I will do the Two Hands Touching for this.
But I am wondering, am I attracting this from her, or is this just who she is? I have had to see her less often, like she is clattering out of my life. I don't want my mom to clatter away. I also don't want to feel so hated. It makes it hard to love myself when I don't have an example of it. I have had to learn myself how to raise my son lovingly. But it is harder for myself because I already have her voice in my head telling me what's wrong with me. I will let you know how the THT works for this. I am using this "Salute the Divinity in the woman and send her love." from Florence Scovel Shinn. I change the woman to my mom.
I know I can't change other people and that it starts with me. So am I attracting this hatefullness now, or is that who she is?
(I know it's a separate question, but for discussion here: Who attracts who the parents or the baby? And at what stage of development does the baby or fetus or parents attract it's spirit? and if the parents attract the spirit, then what happens when the child grows and changes their vibration?)
Hi Fairy Princess.The book "The Presence Process" deals directly with these issues.Here is an article from Michael Brown about Relationships.I hope it helps you in some way:)
Relationships by Michael Brown.
As we enter present moment awareness, we perceive our immediate family as a perfect nest for our individual evolution.
During childhood we all receive an emotional baton from our parents so that we can commence our part in the human race. This is the unfolding of a sacred agreement we have with each other.
We are our parents until we unlearn and overcome the belief systems they imprinted upon us. In the same light, our children are us until we stop behaving like our parents.
It is consequence that keeps individual souls bound together in groups that we call families. We are not only related to these specific souls; all souls are equally related. Our close interaction with anyone in this life experience is predetermined by past interactions.
Before we consciously attend to our emotional growth, we are attracted to others because they reflect our unresolved issues. The idea that “this person can make me happy” is an unconscious knowing that if we resolve the issues this particular person is reflecting, the quality of our life experience will improve. Our success in accomplishing emotional growth always transforms our perceptions of the people close to us; we begin to see them for who and what they are, as opposed to who and what of our past they had been reflecting.
Not everyone seeks to embrace present moment awareness. Not everyone seeks to live consciously. Those wishing to hold onto what happened yesterday, and to make fearful preparations for all the apparent terrible-ness that is to come tomorrow, feel uncomfortable in the company of those who choose to consciously awaken themselves from such drama.
Our immediate family members are our clearest reflections. Anything and everything that we perceive to be “wrong” with them, to the point that it emotionally upsets us, are our unresolved issues. This is hard medicine to swallow, but there is no exception to this rule. When we make the mistake of attempting to clean the mirror, instead of internally processing our unpleasant reflections, we add to the outer debris of unhappiness that already permeates this planet.
As we take the steps to restore our inner balance, we begin to see our parents, our family, and all our loved ones of the past in a new light. The veil that our unconscious beliefs cast upon them begins to lift. We then see them all as the ones who loved us enough to take on the painful roles of reflecting our own hidden pain back to us, so that we have the opportunity to see it, feel it, and integrate it. Behind their masks has always been the unconditionally loving energy of our shared Inner Presence doing everything possible to awaken us to our own radiance without robbing us of our inherent responsibility.
all interactions are co-creations, nothing less or more, they can attract confrontations with u,, even when u don't argue back with them. It is all on beliefs, perception, and the way u react to the situations.
love n light,
answered 28 Jun '12, 21:35
TReb Bor yit-NE
I can relate... When I was growing up, I could never please my mother. I was constantly bombarded with criticisms and comments, such as , "Why aren't you smiling? Why don't you smile more???"
I can tell you this; it may seem unbelievable to most people, but I know now that I left Heaven too soon. I distinctly remember standing around a vortex, with all my loved ones, saying goodbye. (I have written of this before.See this question for a complete re-telling of this story.)
I say I left too soon because I know I wanted to get back to life so badly that the powers-that-were let me go to show me what an ill-choice it is to be impatient. I have learned much from the experience...
Anyway, I believe that I was placed with the wrong family altogether. I am not like any of them, except maybe my father, who is now gone. He was truly the Light of my Life until his death in 2006. After his death, life has been very hard and I miss him terribly. It has left me at the mercy of the rest of my family- most of whom have outright rejected me.
I do not know if I "chose" my parents. I do not believe so. I think that choice is up to God. But if I was you, I would not accept such treatment from your Mom as being valid to you. Reject her comments. "Hate the sin, but love the sinner." Her negative energy does you no service.
it looks like you attract
can you be yourself
answered 28 Jun '12, 18:20
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