Nice site, looks like the place that can help explain an experience with the LOA.
Two years ago (when I was still in school an lots ore time) I learned about the LOA, in my quest to make myself more well rounded, attract a mate, good friends and more positive experiences in general.
So for 7 months, I decided to really up my efforts. I started by going to bed early and rising early. Starting the day off with a long run outside or working out. Eating very healthy natural foods. Meditating every day for 30 minutes. Practicing visualization methods. Working on making others feel good inside. Being more positive and jovial and working hard in school.
I noticed that many people in my life who were more negative or not really "full of light" effortlessly dropped away. I didn't have to avoid them, worry about them or anything! Their path just no longer crossed mine because I was vibrating in such a different positive way.
Also, negative uncomfortable experiences become much less and there was more clarity and light in my everyday experiences.
Now, the part that I do not understand, is that I really was radiating to my greatest ability, the same as the people (mate/friends/experiences) I did want to attract. This was to be in line with "you attract what you are".
However, this was NOT my experience. I noticed that I had more positive experiences with people in passing but not at the level I desired. The attraction part of positive people and desired positive experiences I felt was still missing.
My question is, how is that in that great effort, I did experienced one part of it (negative people/situations effortlessly dropping away) but not the addition of the desired positive at the same level?
The negative people didn't actually go away. They're still there only in a different reality, a different level, a different spectrum of light. By doing your exercising, eating right, and living a health consciousness lifestyle you raised your internal vibration which, in turn, changed your reality to a new one. In other words you now live in a different world than you did with the negative people. Now you are meeting and talking with the people who came with your new reality/world. The old reality and the people/situations in it are still there, you just can't see them anymore. But if you were to lower your internal vibration by thinking negative thoughts, those people would start showing up in your life again.
This should give you some insight as to why you're not seeing the people/situations you desire to see....they are not part of this new reality you are in. But that doesn't mean you stop here, we are all constantly shifting from reality to reality. Try to place yourself around/nearby positive people you actually know, and see if you can see/pickup their vibration. Try to copy it and your vibration will change again.
answered 02 Aug '14, 17:15
I want to draw your attention to this:
This "noticed" and the whole quote give out the feeling you have/had. When you're having this feeling, this is, in a sense, "who you are" at that time.
I mean, this is also an experience, and you can align in it, too, and you attract with/in it, too.
"I really was radiating to my greatest ability" means you weren't really "being" what you wanted to be, you were trying to change the situation, to change yourself - and that always means the feeling that life isn't working out now the way you want it to, so this is what gets reflected.
When you really live this experience, that you're happy and having kindred spirits as your friends, this feeling takes all of you, it doesn't leave space to notice as you did - or if it leaves, that space feels irrelevant, insignificant in relation to what you're feeling already.
Where is that "void" you feel as "absence" of those positive friends? Is it hard for you to be "alone"? Do you love yourself? Are you the best loving friend to yourself? You must first have the feeling that you're having all those positive friends, in abundance, for two reasons:
The feeling you want to have - you must first have it inside. You don't have to wait for it to happen outside to "prove it" to you and "allow you" to now feel it - you have the power to feel that joy NOW, then you can also get these things reflected, as a bonus. :)
To your "why" I'd say - this is no ending situation, there is no ending situation, it is the development of the stream, in which you can continue to align. Maybe you stopped being a match to the experience of being with those who you defined as "negative", but haven't become a match yet to the experience of being with those who you define as "positive", who knows. Or maybe your life gave you the time to stop depending on your environment and crystallize first Who You Are inside, so that your experience of being with those who you'd see as "positive", would be richer and more satisfying. Who knows :) Choose whatever serves you better - meaning, "feel for it", as AH say, feel for what answer would feel better to you, that will be the best serving answer for you.
Good day :)
You will always match up with people who people who are vibrationally similar i.e. are in a similar state of consciousness. Even though these people may appear "positive" to you on some or the other aspect, you may not be aware (: nor should you bother :) of their overall state of consciousness. There may be some specific aspect which you are very focused on that is too different from their view for you to be attracted. I would let this go with the flow. One of the important things to practice is allowing or non-resistance or detachment from desire, by clinging to the old we get in the way of the new and get stuck and then it seems like the world's going wrong, but what's really happening is that our world changes to reflect ourselves and by attempting to alter a course that we have deliberately charted and then counter it is to fight against oneself which will lead to negative circumstances outside. Just stay focused on creating your inner state and maintaining it in a state of generally high vibration, let the circumstances take care of themselves - they always do.
The "passing" nature of such circumstances reflects the fact that EVERYTHING IS CHANGING and not everything is so fixed although at every instant it reflects our state of mind with absolute vibrational accuracy. In your case, it could be that you're at a very high level of vibration that is a bit too different for others who you know (: because only those who consciously keep an emphasis on being positive will be this way :) and that's why they only show up at times that they are in the vicinity of your vibe; it could be that you've got some "attachment" that is making you constantly try to make things happen or look for evidence i.e. doubt; you could have some other lurking belief that's causing it; or the people you speak of may not be as positive as you think. Either way, just focus on you and being happy independent of others as best you can and just flow with it. Truly, your life is the flow of who you are, i.e. it is always flowing according to who you are and if it's something less than satisfactory, then it's you doing it on some level but not being fully aware of it. I'm pretty sure (: a good guess :) that you're trying too hard to make it happen and constantly looking for evidence. AVOID THAT. "Reality" is just reflecting what's inside you, so when you see it realize that it's something inside that is causing the temporary circumstance and you can change it by maintaining your focus on a positive state of mind. YOU WILL HAVE TO USE THE IMAGINATION VERY OFTEN BECAUSE THAT IS THE PRECURSOR TO REALITY. Imagine yourself with wonderful people (: associative visualization only :), a wonderful partner, imagine what life would be like if you were in that state etc. Do this is often as you can but only if you feel good NEVER FORCE (: you can be mechanical if need be but not forceful i.e. if you push hard you'll push the opposite of what you want inside too :) yourself to do visualizations because they are best used when relaxed, peaceful and happy etc.
I'd like to point out that although you're talking about the right vibe and positivity etc. (: that's great and I'm happy you're feeling good :) I notice it's still heavily OUTSIDE-IN with all the eating healthy, exercising, going to bed and getting up early etc. Actions are a consequence (: just after emotion :) of state of mind, and they can alter a state of mind ONLY if you believe they can and they (: action to improve inner state :) are not required. You just need to focus on feeling as good as you can and let that direct your actions. If all this activity is stuff you like doing in and of itself, then please keep at it. If you're doing all of this so that you can be happy, I got news for you: happiness is the result of choice of perspective. I notice you mention visualizations as part of your L.O.A. work, but have included Gratitude/ Appreciation on as much as is feasible (: don't make it a chore :)? Appreciation is a vital key in opening the door to abundance and authentic positivity. MEDITATION IS GREAT AND WILL HELP A LOT IN THE LONG RUN for most people, although if you hate it just find something you like instead. Being happy is important.
I'm tying this up with your goal of being "well rounded" (: what made you think you're not good enough as it is? what is well-rounded and who set the standards and why are keen on being this way?:), attracting good relationships (: mate or otherwise :) etc. They suggest a strong dependency on others' acceptance for your happiness. Desiring it is fine, but depending on it - NO. For all your other relationships to blossom, YOU NEED TO TEND TO THE RELATIONSHIP WITH YOU. Forget trying to make others feel good, being a "good friend" and all that s**t - make sure you're doing what you're authentically comfortable with and happy about.
Finally, you CHILL OUT AND RELAX while doing the best (: thinking is also doing :) you can to feel as good as you can as much as you can without making it a chore or contest. Just try to focus on things that make you feel good, whether it's imagining something wonderful or engaging in some physical activity that you enjoy in and of itself, and meditate. FOCUS ON ENJOYING YOURSELF. LOVE YOU AND EVERYONE ELSE WILL. You cannot earn it. YOU ARE ALREADY WORTHY. No amount of effort will get you there unless you have a strong conviction that it will. It's the conviction, the state of mind and vibration that gets you there and that's all mental and it's all within not without. STOP looking to circumstances except to notice that it reflects exactly what you're inner state of vibration is and things that you sown.
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