I have been angry at someone for a whole week. Someone I see on daily basis. I have been playing cool with this person and only speaking when necesary, like: 'yes', 'no', 'aha', 'I don't know' kind of thing. I was sad about acting like this and I knew I was hurting myself in the process, but I needed to make a point of it.
If I had stopped being angry, this person would had thought I was finally agreeing with them and that I was a pushover, easy to convince person.
Saying yes to this persons was totally out of the question (because their proposal was wrong) and would have ment betraying my principles altoghether.
But besides that, the weird thing was that I was comfortable in 'Anger'. I was also sad that I had to behave like this with this person I appreciate; and I meditated (which didn't help, much), I tried to make a Focus Block, I wanted to move to a better-feeling place, for me and for this person's sake, but just couldn't!
Why was I stuck in anger?
What should I have to do next time to step out of it without being taken as a pushover and betraying my principles?
Thanks for all the help you can provide!
Abraham have a wonderful set of three questions that get right to the heart of the matter.
Most people answer Feeling Good.
Most people answer Being Right.
Now the tricky question...
Most of the people in the world will give you one answer - I'm sure you can guess which - and most of those same people live unhappy, unfulfilled lives...full of pain and struggle.
The other answer (if you really mean it) will bring you everything you want in life...effortlessly, forever, and accompanied by endless joy and satisfaction.
So which answer are you going to give? :)
answered 07 Jun '10, 14:41
I think it is important to distinguish "being angry" from "being assertive". Not agreeing with somebody else's proposal (because it is wrong) is a right thing to do.
So the thing is, keep living acting according to your principles, but seek the golden mean. There were many saints who neglected their bodies and focused only on helping and loving others. They are to be looked upon, nonetheless they were not able to find the golden mean. Jesus was able to. He loved everything in this world but he was not a timid person - he had the courage to express his opinion though many contradicted it. He respected other people as well as himself.
Learn how to be assertive and openly tell your friend what you think of his proposal. Then the anger will be gone. Refining your character is a tough thing to do but it is worth the effort.
I listened to Dr.Wayne Dyer book Change Your Thoughts - Change Your Life Living the Wisdom of the Tao .and there was a part where he talks about water. He is quoted here In this blog.I like listening to the book it had a very calming effect :) so to quote Laotze"
answered 09 Jun '10, 09:54
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