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I know there are a lot of people on Inward Quest who are extremely compassionate and interested in helping other people. So I want to share a process which I'm sure will blow your mind if you are serious about giving it a try.

And fortunately it's simple, easy and the results are often astounding.

When we try to help people that are in difficult life situations, we often try to talk them out of their helplessness. We also try to help by taking action of some kind. This is the conventional way to help and of course it does work sometimes. But often it fails too and we find ourselves feeling helpless and disappointed.

If you use the process I'm going to share, you don't have to take any action. Yet it's probably 100+ times more powerful than the conventional approach. And it also saves you all those headaches that come with it. Because you allow powerful universal forces to uplift the person who is in need so he/she can attract the emotions and circumstances he/she wants. And you also help yourself by applying this. So it's a win-win situation.

Do this in a quiet place and when you are alone.

Here are the 7 steps to "remote upliftment".

  1. Be compassionate to such an extent that you become the person you want to help in your mind. Feel his/her problems and emotions.
  2. Then ask yourself from his/her perspective: "How is my life going? What are the main things for me right now?" You can write everything down that comes up if you like. Or you can do it in your mind.
  3. Choose a neutralizing tool that works for you and gets you into the neutral zone reliably and quickly. If you are new to this, I suggest you learn this great meditation tool that will do the job at this point..
  4. Clean up every problem you are able to identify until you feel neutral.
  5. Make sure there is no negative emotion left when you think about the person you want to help.
  6. Ask yourself from his/her perspective: "What do I like about my life right now? What are the positive aspects of my life?" And list about 10-20 things that are working well. The more, the better. Important: Make sure to still be compassionate at this point. Meaning make sure you feel good about those positive aspects as if they were your own.
  7. Let go completely and watch how universal forces magically make things happen.

Try it and feel free to tell us how it worked :).

asked 08 Sep '13, 21:07

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edited 08 Sep '13, 21:19


Loved that so much I had to favorite it. I am most definitely gonna try this.

(09 Sep '13, 02:42) ikaruss21

@ikaruss21 I'm glad that you like it :)

(10 Sep '13, 09:27) releaser99

@releaser99 - This is really great. Thanks so much for writing this up and sharing.

(04 Oct '13, 13:17) lozenge123

@lozenge123 You are welcome :)

(05 Oct '13, 11:21) releaser99

@releaser I really like your post. Has similarities to the power of prayer. What vibe exactly are you in when you are transmitting? Thanks..

(22 Oct '13, 01:45) ele

@ele When I see someone suffer, I don't feel good indeed. However, after doing the process, I feel nothing but love and appreciation for that person when I think about her/him. "Has similarities to the power of prayer" I've never prayed myself with this intention, but I believe it should work equally well when one manages to pray in a state of love/appreciation instead of pity. Because feeling pity for someone doesn't work well in my personal experience :).

(22 Oct '13, 10:45) releaser99

@releaser Good, we are on the same page. This is how energy workers send light and love ~ tho, many connect with source energy when they do this process. I guess I was reading more into your step 6. Thanks for the clarification. As for prayer ~ I was speaking of people praying for someone else ~ sending love & connecting with source energy to do so when someone needs our help . Absolutely correct ~ huge difference between pity & compassion ~ like night & day ~ polarities. Thanks

(22 Oct '13, 23:43) ele

@releaser99 Would this process also be helpful to use with a compulsive or pathological liar?

(24 Oct '13, 05:57) Jasmina

@Jasmina Yes, it should work if you manage to clean up everything that bothers you when he/she lies to you or to others. The way you know you've done the process successfully is when you imagine him/her lying to you or others and you feel nothing but love and appreciation about it.

(24 Oct '13, 11:27) releaser99

@Jasmina However, I think @Stingray's ME4 process would probably be a better process for uncovering your underlying feelings and belief(s) about "compulsive liars" first

(24 Oct '13, 11:36) releaser99

@releaser99 thank you, I will try. ;)

(24 Oct '13, 14:08) Jasmina

@jasmina I would say no it will not work. since the person lies and do not want to see you cannot force him to see or do anything. you can bring a horse to water but you cannot force the horse to drink. if he prefer to lie to himself and believe lies to praise him self there is nothing you can do leave him in is iniquity. when he comes out of is drunkenness is thirsty enough and start seeking he shall find is way. if not the only thing that will happen is that he deceive him self praise himself.

(05 Jul, 18:18) white tiger

@Jasmina he will also deceive you he will praise him self and you will praise your self being deceive. the water that comes out of is cup will spill in your cup, is that the cup that you want to drink? your patient will not be cure and you will become sick as your patient is. you should have stay in the beginning.

(05 Jul, 18:36) white tiger
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People who feel the need to help and change others are control freaks. Compassionate people are selfishly wanting to feel good and use changing others to do so as a coverup. To make it appear as if they are not helping themselves, but others, when in reality they're just helping themselves. Sometimes they even talk the other person into their ways and make others believe that they are here to help. Lmao.

To make a point in rather short way, lets just quote...

"If you knew your potential to feel good, you would ask no one to be different so that you can feel good. ~ Abraham/Hicks"

... that and..

"In your face" ~ CalonLan, 2013

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answered 12 Sep '13, 07:43

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edited 12 Sep '13, 07:44

With some people, this is true. Some people do charity so they can tell their friends and family they do charity. This doesn't make "People only do charity to look good" a valid or true statement.

You know there are people who look to help others who truly are unhappy or genuinely want or request help. Speaking of, you so cynical sometimes! Need a hug, Calon? =]

(12 Sep '13, 08:54) Snow

Maybe,... Maybe I'd like one, yes. But not out of pity of having none. I'd not want to be hugged by someone who knows I want one, but by someone who have no clue I'd like to be hugged =).

Then the hug wouldn't be b/c I need one, but b/c of them wanting to give one, without knowing I want one. And then I'd be happy, because I would know they didn't hug me 'cause of themselves, but because of me.

Which would be their own acknowledgement of myself.

So now, I have to say, I don't need a hug. lol

(12 Sep '13, 09:33) CalonLan

=) Aaah. Maybe I was just looking for an excuse to give you a hug.

Gotta say man sometimes what you write is amazing. If you actually 'properly' write anything elsewhere you should email me the links.

Now I have to go watch the free hugs video.

(12 Sep '13, 09:44) Snow

@CalonLan You make a good point in that everything anyone does has the intention to help the own self feel better. Paradoxically, when you help yourself, you also help others and vice versa. Even your answer is an attempt to help your own self manage the stress within you caused by people who help themselves by helping others. And this way you are helping other people who feel the same vibrational stress level :). You clever Samaritan, you! :)

(12 Sep '13, 15:47) releaser99

This is why this process is so powerful. By bringing yourself into the Vortex about other people that cause you to suffer, you help them tremendously. Because ultimately, we are all one so everything effects everything vibrationally. And to complete Abraham's view "Get into the Vortex, AND THEN uplift the world" - Abraham Hicks

(12 Sep '13, 15:48) releaser99

I love that vintage video @Snow - couldn't stop smiling - 3 min's & 40 seconds. It felt soo good - I watched it again & passed it on & on. Thanks.

(14 Sep '13, 01:11) ele

@Cal "People who feel the need to help and change others are control freaks" Good point. I agree if you 'need' to help someone, it's a control issue. Changing someone else is about control & thinking you know what is best for them is even worse. If I feel the 'need' to help someone I know it's time to question my motivations. "Compassionate people are selfishly wanting to feel good" - I do NOT agree. Tell Mother Teresa that, hmm ... who knows, perhaps her selflessness made her feel good..

(04 Oct '13, 15:46) ele

@Cal the day you posted your answer I really needed to be reminded of this. Thank you ... Big Hug ... I think people help others mainly because it's what it means to be 'human'. I believe helping others (kindness) usually comes from a place in the heart. Sometimes we help others out of a sense of obligation; but needing to help someone for whatever reason usually doesn't work out well for anyone.

(04 Oct '13, 15:57) ele

@Cal .... because I wanted to do this...

(19 Oct '13, 18:33) ele

@ele, a ball thrown against a wall will bounce off of it in the very same angle it was thrown at it. In other words, for every objective there is only one approach. Once the approach is altered, the objective is too. There is no such thing as 90% of something, it's always 100% of something else. By knowing the objective you can deduce the approach, by knowing the approach you can figure out the objective. Mother Theresa selflessly helping others is not her objective, it's the effect...

(21 Oct '13, 02:07) CalonLan

...the effect of her attempts to reach her real objective and fulfill her innermost motives.

Additionally, she must, just as any human being, assert a certain 'self' of herself. Otherwise, she would not get up out of bed in the morning at all.

Our motives and meanings are the very fabric of our selves. It is who we become at any point in time. Her selfless behavior is just an nice illusion for those who refuse to dismantle their point of view past a certain point of comfort... Just like...

(21 Oct '13, 02:15) CalonLan

...many people would not want to have Love explained to them in great detail of logic through pattern of cause and consequence, because that would certainly take out the magic of the experience.

The conclusion is, it is impossible to be selfless.

And thanks for the hug, although my emotional state of being is irrelevant.

(21 Oct '13, 02:20) CalonLan

Your welcome @Cal "emotional state of being" ~ well ppl give hugs for many reasons ~ happy hug..

(21 Oct '13, 03:28) ele

"Mother Theresa selflessly helping others is not her objective, it's the effect..." Thanks for the explanation @Cal I agree & appreciate.

(22 Oct '13, 01:53) ele

Yes @releaser ~ I agree @Cal is a very clever Samaritan & as wise as Ralph Waldo Emerson who I will quote "It is one of the beautiful compensations in this life that no one can sincerely try to help another without helping himself" I know you appreciate a good quote releaser as much as I do.

(24 Oct '13, 05:20) ele
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Great technique @releaser99 something reminds me a bit about it with the 100th monkey theory... The more we learn the more others do... and of course one should look in ones own house first before ...

What can I do?

And we are responsible. Don't fool yourself by saying, "What can I do? What can I, an individual, living a shoddy little life, with all its confusion and ignorance, what can I do?" Ignorance exists only when you don't know yourself. Self-knowing is wisdom. You may be ignorant of all the books in the world (and I hope you are), of all the latest theories, but that is not ignorance. Not knowing oneself deeply, profoundly, is ignorance; and you cannot know yourself if you cannot look at yourself, see yourself actually as you are, without any distortion, without any wish to change. - Krishnamurti, Talks in Europe 1968, p 56



answered 13 Sep '13, 04:12

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Very well said. When you know your self (make your own self happy), the Universe takes care of the rest. It takes care of your inspiration to help, your ideas etc. And even if you do nothing, like with this technique, it still takes care :) That's why Abraham say that one who is in the Vortex is more powerful than millions who are not.

(13 Sep '13, 14:19) releaser99

That's a tad complicated for me. I just do Ho'oponopono.

Excerpt from a post by a homeopathic doctor and Ho'oponopono practitioner:

Imagine my shock at hearing Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len, a psychologist who teaches ho'oponopono, tell me that patients don't come to me to be healed. Instead, they come to give me another opportunity to "clean", to make things right.


answered 01 Jul, 03:03

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more easy then this is know thyself. if you know thy self you will know what is working and what is not. you are the only one that can make the choice to change something. first you have to know what is not working. that is why that knowing thyself is what matter most. if you do not know your self and do not know what is not working (being blind and in darkness not understanding), you then cannot know how to fix it.

this is only for your self. inner part.

then you have the outside part, all the outside stuff that go in extreme in this world and that are out of balance. you have to determine what change that belongs to you what option you have. and make the proper choice. as for the choice that do not belong to you and belong to other maybe one day they will grow up and make better choice.

in both process align with the truth.

it is like making a puzzle to align the image and shape properly so that you have a proper image of the whole.

you have 2 image the inner one and the outer one. both of those image interact with each other. the first image the one that you have complete control on. and the outer image that you have limited control on.

if you do not know your self and how to act properly with your self how can you ever act properly with other.

in that case you conform to the world.

the narrow image and the wide image. in what image have you been made?

the inside of the cup and the outside of the cup. what kind of water do you want to drink?

why strain gnats and swallow camel?

you should have practice the former with out neglecting the latter.

you need to meditate over 40 days for this, in some case over 40 years.

of course little children it is more easy for them since their cup is more clean inside the darkness as not have time to enter them. they make less division and less wicked thing to praise them self. when they do it is in innocence. eventually they learn from their mistake and correct them self. for some it takes lounger then other.

The person old in days won't hesitate to ask a little child seven days old about the place of life, and that person will live. If you bring forth what is within you, what you have will save you. If you do not have that within you, what you do not have within you [will] kill you.

Verily I say unto you, Except you be converted, and become as little children, you shall not enter into the kingdom of heaven.

Let there be light, be the light that you can be, experience and enjoy.


answered 02 Jul, 15:41

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white tiger

edited 03 Jul, 04:07

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