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Or maybe we don't really want to do it the way you have decided? And there is a different approach.

I love building things, creating! But there are parts of it that I don't like.

Yesterday I was creating new flower and vegetable beds, around our home. This involved design and implementation. I like the designing and I like doing some hands-on work. One of my tenants gave me 20 railroad ties, square cut logs about nine feet long and nine inches square. Some of these are old oak and very, very heavy. Hard to move.

I hired a Hispanic labor guy. I mention Hispanic, because I speak very little Spanish and he spoke almost no English. I was struggling to move one of these ties. With a smile, he waved me aside. I pointed to where I wanted placement and he joyfully moved it. He leveled it and asked what was next? I pointed next to the tie and motioned that I wanted another one there. He joyfully figured a way to bring another tie from the pile and placed it where I wanted it. He was joyful and I was joyful.

We also learned, my wife and I, that including a negative can backfire. She asked him to weed another flower bed. She asked him not to weed out certain plants. As she walked away, he joyfully went to work on digging up her favorite plants. She turned around and pointed to the weeds. He joyfully went to work weeding the weeds.

We reaized that if you include something in your vibration that you like, you get it in your life. If you include something your don't like, you get it also.

My wife and I love plants!We love to see them grow, harvest the veggies or blooms. Our ground is quite hard. a lot of small rocks and hard Georgia clay. She bought 110 plants (we have large yards) from a variety of sources. She got out her little trowel and began digging. I asked her if she was enjoying it. No, but she wanted the blooms and veggies.

I motioned Ricardo over and pointed to the ground, to the plant he nodded and dug a perfectly sized hole, twice the size of the current root ball. My wife added some fertilizer and water crystals. He watched and joyfully added the same amount to the next plant.

She got her little wagon and brought out some more plants. She pointed to where she wanted them. He joyfully dug, fertilized and planted them. The HE took her wagon and brought out more, waiting for her to tell him where to plant them.

We had a great day! We all enjoyed doing something. He loved doing this work! We love getting the blooms and veggies! We may give him some when harvest time comes around.

asked 07 Apr '12, 08:53

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Dollar Bill

Yes, I have learned to tell people what you want instead of what you don't want. Pray for what you want instead of what you don't want. Focus on what you want instead of what you don't want.

I was reading a story with the kids at school about a boy who could throw well. He ended up pitching on a team. When the catcher, or whoever, told him to throw a certain way, he did. Then, when he told himself not to throw too high, he threw too high. He had a friend that told him to tell himself what to do instead of what not to do. So when he told himself to do something, he did, when he told himself not to do something, he did what he told himself not to do. I thought this was a really good message for the kids.

And yes, we all enjoy doing different things for different reasons. And thank God we are not all fighting over the same job! I work with kids and adults with developmental disabilities and have worked with kids in different settings. I have had people tell me that they really admire me for doing what I do, and that they couldn't do it. Well, thank God somebody likes to do the stuff I don't like to do also. Just like the eye fills a different role than the ear and the stomache and the feet, but they are all important to the whole body. We are one.

Unfortunately, money keeps many people from connecting with people they need and that need them.


answered 07 Apr '12, 10:28

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edited 07 Apr '12, 18:41

LOL That is like sending some people to the store and telling them what not to buy. They go to buy stuff and think, "What was I suppose to buy?" "I remember the words anchovies, and pickled pigs feet, motor oil." They come back and you look and to your amazement they bought everything you didn't want! LOL

(07 Apr '12, 11:03) Wade Casaldi

Yes, @Wade Casaldi but how often do we do that? We tell ourselves or others what not to do instead of what to do.

(07 Apr '12, 11:20) Fairy Princess

Or we focus on what we don't want instead of what we do want.

(07 Apr '12, 11:27) Fairy Princess

The point I am trying to make is that there is usually someone who enjoys doing something I don't want to do. Attract them and let them! What can be drudgery for me can be fun for someone else. Ricardo likes digging holes. We like veggies and flowers.

(07 Apr '12, 16:26) Dollar Bill

Yes, I realized that after I answered. I will add about that.

(07 Apr '12, 18:36) Fairy Princess
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Dollar Bill we each have things that we like to do and things that we don't like to do. but if it needs to be done and you can enjoy it does it not make the experience joyfull. we each have something to bring and to share. sometime you do not have the luxury to do only what you want but you need to do it anny way will you do it in harmony experiencing joy? or will you do it with the overflow of the heart creating evil and negative energy that will harm you and people around you. in truth i tell you ricardo was the good samarithan that showed you the treasure hidden in your field that is worth more then money.

"The kingdom of heaven is like treasure hidden in a field. When a man found it, he hid it again, and then in his joy went and sold all he had and bought that field.

Jesus told them another parable: "The kingdom of heaven is like a man who sowed good seed in his field.

But while everyone was sleeping, his enemy came and sowed weeds among the wheat, and went away

He answered, "The one who sowed the good seed is the Son of Man.

The field is the world, and the good seed stands for the sons of the kingdom. The weeds are the sons of the evil one,

and the enemy who sows them is the devil. The harvest is the end of the age, and the harvesters are angels.

"As the weeds are pulled up and burned in the fire, so it will be at the end of the age.


answered 07 Apr '12, 18:35

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white tiger


"ricardo was the good samarithan that showed you the treasure hidden in your field that is worth more then money."

very true, WT

(17 Apr '12, 20:32) Dollar Bill
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