What I mean is, I am right now in a phase where I know that I really really want the relationship I want to manifest and it means life to me.. But ever since I have dropped the wish in my Box, I dont seem to feel the feeling of how much I wanted it before I wrote pages about it! Is it because I have off loaded my heart and mind by putting everything in writting? Or is it that I am actually loosing interest in that wish of mine? I have actually tried to create that feeling of excitement which I used to feel before I wrote my wish but it isnt really the way it was.. Is it wrong?

asked 05 May '10, 14:45

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AVBhat 1

edited 05 May '10, 15:05

I really don' t know if UN attachment is a good thing. lack of sympathy is my only concern with having diminished emotions. or apathy toward others.

(12 Jan '13, 01:59) deleterjoe

@deleterjoe , one can empathise , without getting caught up in anothers situation :-)

(12 Jan '13, 17:51) Starlight

but wouldn't empathy for someone who is starving cause you to feed them?

(13 Jan '13, 13:08) deleterjoe
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There's nothing wrong at all as far as I can see.

If you are now relaxed about what you want (even to the extent of seeming to lose interest in it), it is an excellent vibrational stance from which to allow it into your physical experience.

There is a manifesting principle that states that when something feels like "no big deal" to you (or feels like the Next Logical Step in your life), then you are on the verge of receiving it. This answer explains that idea a bit more.

It's one of the paradoxes of manifesting that by the time you are genuinely ready (vibrationally) to receive what you want (and keep it in your experience), you are no longer particularly excited by having it.

This is because you are already up to speed with the idea of it...the thrill comes about because of the vibrational gap between where you are (without it) and your vision of what it would be like to have it. The thrill is an indication that the vibrational gap still exists between where you are and what you want.

For example, just over the past month, I've had a couple of manifestations in my life that I would probably rate as spectacular as far as my own life is concerned. A year ago, I would have been amazed and delighted to have had these things happen.

But now when they have happened, I was relatively pleased (not thrilled, just pleased) for maybe a day or two and that was it really...my life just moved on to focusing on new desires that have resulted from those manifestations.

So what's the bottom line here?

Basically, if the thought of getting what you want makes you feel so excited that it seems like your life would perfect if you could just receive that one single thing...you are vibrationally still some distance from it.

On the other hand, if you have practised the thought of having it so much that you are now almost bored by the idea of having it...then you are on the verge of receiving it. :)


answered 06 May '10, 00:11

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edited 06 May '10, 00:16

Thank you Stingray..I agree with 'I am therefore I am', that a teacher appears when you are ready! Thanks much. From the space of being bored of the exciting feeling, I feel that I have now moved to a space where I feel I have spent too much time, energy, and emotions on this person and I think I deserve to be paid as much attention and if I am not getting it, then I dont care where this matter is heading. Its now left to the person concerned on what happens to this relationship. Am I thinking negatively? Can the emotions change so drastically in a matter of few days without any instigation?

(06 May '10, 12:42) AVBhat 1

Your last two sentences is however helping me feel better :).

(06 May '10, 12:49) AVBhat 1

@AVBhat - it rather sounds to me like you are feeling more self-empowered with your new I don't care attitude. It sounds like you are moving up the vibrational scale on this subject, which is a good thing. See this answer for more information: http://www.inwardquest.com/questions/2663/why-are-people-mean-to-each-other/2693#2693

(06 May '10, 19:41) Stingray

I do believe this is called "The Law of Divine Indifference " :-)

Food for thought ,and I obvious came to this question today because I had temporarily forgotten it , lol

(17 Jul '12, 01:18) Starlight

I clicked Random and came here to find myself ... again ;-) Thanks Universe and dear Stingray for the gentle reminder and thanks of course to @AVBhat1 for the original question ♥♥♥

(11 Jan '13, 21:17) Starlight

@Stingray Could this vibrational gap apply to the manifesting itself? I used to always think if I could master manifesting that my life would be close to perfect. But now that I understand it and don't have a lot of trouble getting what I want I find myself kind of bored with it. Did you go through this?

(21 Jul '16, 17:43) Bluebell

@Bluebell - I'm guessing you mean you're getting bored with these manifesting ( "reality creation" ) ideas rather than getting good-feeling physical "stuff" in your life? If that's the case then that's just personal preference. There's no need to understand these ideas in detail in order to get what you want in life...that all happens automatically when you choose to dominantly feel good. All these detailed ideas are really just for the vibrational "nerds" among us (myself included)...

(22 Jul '16, 03:30) Stingray

@Bluebell - ...who get a kick out of understanding the mechanics of how physical reality works behind the scenes. Most are drawn to these ideas only because there's something they want in their lives which is not coming. So they investigate these subjects, get what they want, and then forget about all these subjects again (to some extent) and then go back to living their previous lives. Nothing wrong with that. Some people enjoy driving cars, others like tinkering with the engine all day long :)

(22 Jul '16, 03:35) Stingray

@Stingray what if the physical 'stuff' becomes boring? It doesn't really mean anything to me now that I can have it so easily. I feel like this is the point where someone would turn to spirituality to find meaning, but that's where I came from!

(22 Jul '16, 04:33) Bluebell

@Bluebell - "what if the physical 'stuff' becomes boring?" - Depends what you mean by "physical" and "spiritual". Since the most spiritual thing you can have is vibration itself and consciously-focused vibration ( "thought" ) through emotional guidance eventually condenses into good-feeling physical manifestations, where do you draw the line between "physical" and "spiritual"?

(22 Jul '16, 14:04) Stingray

@Bluebell - When you say you are bored by "physical" stuff, perhaps you mean you feel you are not launching enough fresh new desires towards which you can then flow "spiritual" energy which makes you then feel more alive and excited? When the rate of that energy flow slows, either because of squelching desire or resisting the energy flow itself, that can manifest as boredom and lethargy. For a more helpful reply, you'll probably have to elaborate a bit on the situation you are describing :)

(22 Jul '16, 14:09) Stingray
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No, I think it's a good thing.

I believe that yearning for someone else all the time has a negative effect on manifesting a relationship. Your potential partner can sense that you are needy, and this puts them off.

I have always had better luck just enjoying people for who they are, and let the relationship go where it wants. This attitude respects the other person's free will and decision-making process.

In other words, as long as you have an insistence that this is the right person for me, and we should be together always, you are trying to control, instead of being the best person you can be, offering that, and seeing if the other person agrees. If they don't, they weren't the right person in the first place.

The good feelings will (and should) come from spending time with that person, enjoying their company, and appreciating them for who they are.


answered 05 May '10, 15:13

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Thank you Vesuvius..I agree with most of the things you have said here and 'being the best person you can be, offering that, and seeing if the other person agrees. If they don't, they weren't the right person in the first place.' has been reeling in my mind constantly now..

(06 May '10, 12:53) AVBhat 1
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