I don't know what to call this ... I feel loveless. I am not what I used to be. Don't feel happy or sad anymore, I do not FEEL. There was a time when I used to shed tears, laugh, write, draw, pray ... but now everything has lost it's meaning in my life. Even relationships. I miss the old me. I am not that 'spirited' anymore. Have I lost my spirituality completely? There is darkness all around, and I know there is this light here, my light in this darkness. Why am I unable to reach it?

asked 30 Nov '12, 13:55

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edited 04 Dec '12, 17:47

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i think you should practise meditation. it helps a lot. if its negativity,that is bothering you,it will come to the surface n will finally get released.cos..everything that happens in our life..,surely we are responsible.you can also use other techniques of "releasing resistance"..,that is creating negativity in you.

so..,if you are feeling this way..,surely you must be holding some limiting beliefs in you. release them..,and start your life.."fresh"..,

do what makes you happy..,

makes you feel good..,

become more social,

exchange your ideas with someone,

play with small kids..,they tell you.."how to be happy all the time,for no reason".

go for a walk and see how natures sends you chirping birds to tell you that "you are lovable"...,

go in the parks n gardens n smell the roses..,thay are there for you..

and ofcose..start loving yourself..,

do some random acts of kindness or charity,

look forward to something exciting ..like upcoming trip or get together with friends/family.

and if you are single..,start dating again lolzzz...:))

you know what you are missing..,may be purpose and passion of your life. find something passionate n do that..again.

you know the world is mirror image of our own thoughts n mind.so..,change your attitude towards life n everything around you will also change.., remember its all about "you".

i hope this answer helps you.

love,light n blessings..

supergirl.. :)))


answered 01 Dec '12, 02:39

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"play with small kids..,they tell you.."how to be happy all the time,for no reason"." So true!

(01 Dec '12, 03:23) ursixx

hey supergirl ... you're right, i do not mingle with the nature anymore, i must start again i know. thank you for your words!

(01 Dec '12, 15:23) thewanderer

@thewanderer- ur welcme.. :)))

(01 Dec '12, 23:42) supergirl

very true. Supergirl

(04 Dec '12, 08:14) Manny
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@thewanderer: I had coined a phrase 'Emotional Spikes' to reflect my own emotion before - and it was so difficult for me as well. Life always has meaning - we just need patience and have to try to see message every now and then. Moreover, all we can do is love ourselves, and hate none - everything will be perfect one day regardless of what situation we pass through in life. Once I realized how important life is - and how important all these sufferings are. When I was writing "Life in its entirety is beautiful regardless of up and down, happiness and sorrows. If one could have bestowed with a present in his death, it would have been the giving a chance to live once again." I know I had my own sufferings as well - but my thought when moved suddenly near the death when writing this one, I realized how important our life is :) Be cool, see yourself, observe your thought, take some long breaths when doing these - it will be okay :) And there we are always praying for each other in InwardQuest society :)


answered 04 Dec '12, 17:08

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thank you, ZDCobran. I have started to keep a closer look on myself. I am starting to feel. Tears came to me first, I feel hurt, betrayed. I have been having some weird dreams from some time, and they remind me of my negativity and all the fears I hold on to.

(08 Dec '12, 06:02) thewanderer

@ZDCobran - Life in its entirety is beautiful regardless of up and down, happiness and sorrows. Beautiful. And there we are always praying for each other in InwardQuest society :) Yes, in a sense, all the hope and help and wisdom that is expressed here is a prayer for one another. This is a lovely answer, @ZDCobran, thank you. :)

(09 Dec '12, 00:59) Grace

For your words that reflects kindness, I am thankful to @Grace :) And for @thewanderer, I am also thankful - and will reflect it in my prayer!

(09 Dec '12, 05:55) ZDCobran
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I may be wrong, but it sounds like you are heartbroken. If that is the case, my personal opinion is that there is actually nothing worse a human can go through.

How about this as an idea? No pressure to do it, just a suggestion to see if it resonates with you:

Allow all these dark feelings to just be as it is, and with that in place, go out into the world and help others.

If you're really keen on getting to a better feeling spot, pronto, I'd go to the extreme: find someone else who is heartbroken/ similar situation as you, and go and help them fix their lives.

Sometimes, you can be more than a million dollars worth of service to another, just by listening to them. All good deeds go rewarded- and I guaruntee in a week or so your life can become so much more enriched through the offerings the universe will give you.

Perhaps watch the film Pay It Forward to get the jist.


answered 08 Dec '12, 08:28

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it may be a matter of effort,
rain does not always fall on the desert
so one compensates to grow food
if not, it becomes dark


answered 30 Nov '12, 22:50

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I had lived this way for years. This will pass, I can say for sure that even when this passes you will not be the same.

But you will feel good again. This is something that happens, we change. I try going back to old sites I used to frequent, but it doesn't feel the same. I believe that it's because even when we feel back, our energy is different like we are actually new people.


answered 30 Nov '12, 23:24

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Wade Casaldi

edited 01 Dec '12, 13:38

seek the truth and it will make you free. seek and you shall find.are you looking for what was on the outside? or for what is in the inside? why is their a division? is your heart divided? is your mind divided? or is the division between your heart and your mind? is your soul divided? do you have a heart of stone?

I will give them an undivided heart and put a new spirit in them; I will remove from them their heart of stone and give them a heart of flesh. http://bible.cc/ezekiel/11-19.htm

Deuteronomy 4:29. But if from thence thou shalt seek the LORD thy God, thou shalt find him, if thou seek him with all thy heart and with all thy soul.

Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God. http://bible.cc/matthew/5-8.htm

if there is darkness all around make the light shine. The light shines in the darkness, but the darkness has not understood it. http://bible.cc/john/1-5.htm

There is light within a person of light, and it shines on the whole world. If it does not shine, it is dark. http://gnosis.org/naghamm/gosthom.html the truth shall set you free.


so let there be light, Be the light that you can be,experience and enjoy.


answered 30 Nov '12, 14:25

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white tiger

edited 30 Nov '12, 14:39

Can you please translate this into language we can relate to? Real life application.

(09 Dec '12, 10:47) Fairy Princess

I saw your question a few days ago, and I am sorry I did not answer you sooner. I hope that you see what I write.

No one here has mentioned clinical depression. Depression feels just like what you are describing. The part that caught my eye was where you say that your old activities do not bring you happiness anymore and you are not doing them at all. This is a classic sign of depression. You know those commercials on TV that talk about how depression hurts, aches, and that you cannot seem to move? Pay attention to the actors in those commercials. Do you see yourself?

You can deal with this a number of ways, depending on what will work best for you.

Your best bet would be to go to the doctor and get evaluated for depression, as the right medicine can change your life, and bring back the old you. But I have found, through my own depression, that there are many other things that one can do to help depression.

  1. Prayer- prayer works because you are asking God to give you the energy to get better. You are going to learn to appreciate what you do have, and to look at the world with new eyes.

  2. Meditation (as has been mentioned)- keep it short and simple at first. Most importantly, keep it positive. You want to crack the door to your mind and heart. Investigate meditation here on IQ. There is plenty of advice about meditation here on IQ about both depression and meditation.

  3. Start a journal and write "Free-flow-of-thought" writing...Take up your pen, and write whatever comes into your mind, no matter how goofy or odd. Just write. It will open up your creativity...This is something I learned from Julia Cameron in her book, The Artist's Way.

  4. Talk to someone about this. Open up- your question has been a good start. Find someone who will listen to you, and help you.

I will pray for you, and hope that everyone here supports you and will show you additional answers to this. God Bless.



answered 04 Dec '12, 17:46

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thank you, Jaianniah. From the past few days I have been thinking, taking a closer look inside of me. I found that I am still holding on to many regrets in my life. I said 'Yes' to a lot of things which came my way, regardless of what would it cost me afterwards. I wasn't feeling anything at all. But I regret it now, I feel betrayed. Being here on IQ, it feels good, it's a good start, I cried a lot last night, felt it. Felt hurt. It is a good sign I guess, I will feel and contain joy too, soon.

(08 Dec '12, 05:54) thewanderer

Are you a guy? If you are a guy stop masturbation for a few days.

Other than that nothing is wrong with you..you cant follow that butterfly, let it come to you..


answered 03 Dec '12, 13:14

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Lol. I am a woman.

(04 Dec '12, 12:19) thewanderer
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