And not in the sense of a good circle. I feel like I am completely wasting my life and I'll soon reach a point at which I don't want to live anymore because I'll be backed into a corner due to age. I've relied on the Law to expand my options in life enough for me to not live in constant despair but I'm not seeing results and I am feeling more like a failure every day.
Some people may remember that my basic desire was to grow about 6 or 7 inches. I have not achieved even a centimeter of growth. On a daily basis I do OK but when I notice that another month has passed and I've had no progress at all, this hurts me. I can't see the finishing line, the light at the end of the tunnel. I'm asking for help again.
Flowsurfer, your not going to like this much...sorry.
You need to make peace with where you are just now. Youve told me that the height thing is " non negotiable" youve also claimed that your not going to be happy until this is resolved.
Now we can all go round the houses on this one, we can assure you that in some parallel universe youll gain this height. But in your heart you know this will never happen, you do know this i believe. Of course you can still carry on doing everything you know how to do, you can get more opinions from people on this site. By all means keep giving it your best shot. But arnt you getting sick of this by now?
So my advice is to make a " peace pact" with the height thing, now i know youve said its non negotiable but frankly your living with this anyway, so you might as well make peace with this.
If you dont you will spend the rest of this reality struggling and fighting something that youll never overcome. This struggle will depleat and mis direct your energies and move you into a " life track" where frustration about your height will bother you more and more. You will find more and more reasons to feel the way you do.
And the result will be that you will continue going around in circles, which you do feel that your doing.
Something has to change, if it doesnt you will continue getting what your getting.
Your obsession with the height thing and your subsequent vibration is giving you more and more of what you dont want. Your holding yourself in this misery, and unfortunately do to the nature of this and other realities your moving yourself steadily into worse ones.
You have a choice here. You can choose to make this peace, or you can carry on as you are.
Your going to reach alignment with who you really are anyway. You can do this now , in this reality. Or you can end this reality and align in the next one.
Im not having a go at you Flowsurfer, i like you. Your cool.
answered 28 May '13, 02:57
Hey flowsurfer. Feeling bad sucks, doesn't it :(
Pointing your finger at an outer physical object/manifestation and telling it off because it's not serving you, is silly.
I'll illustrate the important idea with imagined examples.
When you, flowsurfer, grow taller, you will obtain the liberty to alter some of your own belief systems about certain topics and ideas.
The gift is, you already have that liberty. Always have. Always will.
Just yesterday at my work I managed to get a script of one of my employees dealing with a customer.
Department of Belief System Changing
COOLSURFER WALKS UP TO THE CUSTOMER SERVICE DESK AFTER WAITING IN THE QUE
E: Hello today. Let's start with your name. Name?
E: Thankyou. I'll just look you up on the computer for your records...Ah, here you are. So, you put in a claim for 3 months ago that you would like to alter some beliefs?
C: Yes that's correct.
E: Yes, and if you could just tell me which beliefs you'd like to alter?
C: Ok, I'd like to have the belief that I can feel confident everywhere I go and that I can be happy and stand out more in a crowd at parties and similar events, and be a source of fun and pleasure.
E: Right, right. Ok, well, it says here on our database that we would be more than happy to alter those beliefs for you, of course, you were informed that in order for those beliefs to change you would have to increase in height by 3 feet.
C: Yes, that sounds fairly accurate.
E: So last time we measured you at 8ft 5. Do you have records for me that prove you have grown up to 11ft 5?
C: Yes, I have measurements here, certified and approved by myself. I wrote it down on some note paper to not forget, here it is...
E: Terrific! Ok, in that case, I'll just log in and change those beliefs for you right now.
C: Oh thankyou so much. You don't realise how much better my life is going to get now...
EMPLOYEE CHANGES COOLSURFERS BELIEFS.
E: I hope you realise you didn't need to grow that tall for me to alter these things.
C: But you told me I had to grow another 3ft!!
E: Well that was only because you threatened us not to change your beliefs until you did that.
C:...Really? So I could have just asked you to change my beliefs even if I remained the same height?
C: I'm pissed off now. How dare you forced me to grow that tall to do that! I could have saved so much mental effort!
E: Don't worry, we see this sort of shock from customers all the time. We're trained to deal with it.
answered 29 May '13, 10:05
I read here on IQ accept yourself completely as you are. When you're in peace with your current situation, then only you can change it. If you're worried about your height, don't be worried accept yourself as you are, love yourself unconditionally. Regarding modelling.., why don't you rethink about it? Maybe.., God might want you to try for some other great profession which suits you better.., who knows, maybe.., you may excel in something else.
Regarding dating, however God has made you, it will always serve its purpose. don't try to change it..., the girl whosoever will fall for you .., obviously if her love for you's true.., she'll love you for your beautiful heart not just for outer beauty/height.
I hope i've helped you anyway..
love, light n blessings ur wayy
@flowsurfer: I was commenting on your comment "And what belief/emotion would I erase/dissolve?" And no I am not suggesting change in what you want.
answered 30 May '13, 06:47
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answered 29 May '13, 21:40
I seem to recognize the downward spiral from which you are talking. And the more you try to think and come up with ideas, you are simply choosing reinforcing thoughts. As Abraham would say, get into the Vortex first. First of all, I would recommend Stop All Judgement Right Now. Own your feelings, integrate them, feel them in your body, don't think about them. Don't think, feel.
Bashar would say that when it's finally ok that you don't grow taller, then you'll grow taller. But he would also say that creation follows the path of least resistance: I think you can attract all that unconsciously being taller represents for you before getting taller Why? because of mass conciousness, and the path of least resistance.
Ask yourself (I know you are tired of hearing this stuff, so do it when you are relaxed)
What would I have to believe is true in order for me to feel this way about being short?
What would be the worst possible scenario if I don't grow 3 inches taller?
Ask yourself those questions, when you are relaxed, and you'll be surprised of the answers you give yourself.
As you stay in that downward spiral, as you stay out of the vortex, you are wasting your energy, you constantly deplet your sugar from your brain and you are able to think less and less clearly, you then sleep more to try to get the rest you need. The first thing you must do then, is stop the judgement, make it your first priority, stop all judgment, do not care.
Go to the movies, do something different, rent a bunch of movies and eat some ice cream. Whatever makes it for you.
I wish I am of help with this, but I'm afraid of going on because from my experience I know that when one is in this state, one simply don't want to hear it, one is only looking for reinforcing ideas.
Feel free to ask and refute any of this, I'll be checking.
answered 30 May '13, 03:03
Hello. In my experience and others more wise then me, everything and i emphasise the word everything..is nothing but a BELIEF..something that you THINK and, automatically, consider that it is TRUE to such high degree that you do not want to live anymore, in your case (the best example is the lover who looses his partner and think his/her life is over...wich is not...after a while :) )..
The real problem is not the "height" itself but what is "TELLING" you this problem.The real problem is the STORY that is created in your mind, about you having that hight..and from there a continuous STORY as a result...
Please, pay attention to your thoughts, emotions, feelings, imaginations about this height problem. Trust me, you will be surprised..but please be sincere with yourself..do not deny or "run" from what you will "see" in your mind about this problem.It will be, maybe, things like : "I am not a real young man/man, I am not gonna have a succesful sexual life, I am not loved because of my height, etc..." ..you feel me :) ? Now, 2 things are needed in order to succeed in every aspect of life :
1) First: cleanse (erase) the subconscious programming of your mind (that is beliefs,emotional roots, traumas, imaginations..) that ,as a whole issue, is giving you this problem.
2) Second: Now you can work with "manifesting tools" to achieve what you want: techniques that will bring in your life what you want to achieve.
Of course, i think that you need to be realistic to yourself and to "sense" if your wish is a fantasy or it is something workable. Anyway this "fine line" between fantasy and "realistic sense" it will be more and more clear once you begin the process of cleansing your "bad" subconscious programs. You know : "Like above, as below.."
Actually, it is better to do both aspects ( 1) and 2) ) in parallel. You will observe (being totally honest with yourself) what you really believe and not believe and act accordingly...
About the cleansing of the negative subconscious programming i would recommand you BeSetFreeFast (BSFF) : here is a short introduction with the creator of this absolutely extraordinary (in my experience) therapy : http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ozc54Wgc9x0
And here is the official site : http://www.besetfreefast.com/
The beauty of BSFF is that you do not fight your problems..you just, like a science man, act and erase all the bad stuff from your subconscious mind.You do not need to concentrate,meditate...you just give a command to your subconscious mind and it will execute it for you...the same way it maintained and created all the beliefs and "problems" along your whole life (the subconscious mind "accepted" all that you, without realizing, gave your permission to be accepted...like, for example: "If i cry and show my emotion all the people will laugh and a real man/boy doesn't do this"...
of course, this is just the interpretation you "accepted", it is not the "truth"...actually, there is no truth, just what you accept (aware or not) in your mind). And you will, rapidly, feel better and more calm and your mind will be more clear...and you will gain deeper insights about what is "really" going on in your mind, at a deeper level, and continue to cleanse as long as it is necessary. By the way, please understand, that most important thing is this : how do you want to live your life ? If the answer is "good" then treat yourself (with therapies) with this understanding: i am making my life better every day !
..and questions like: how long it will take for this ? will become irrelevant...and you will always find the power to authentically take care of yourself...
I am too, as most people, in the "search" for my "good" life, for my "good" being..we all have ups and downs, problems and achievements...(the problem with our succeses is that we do not appreciate them because of the other problems that are not solved yet and "suck" us into them :) ...)
All the best !
@flowsurfer Please belive me : You just told me your STORY ! Yes, this is the story of you, the personality who you are because you, frankly, believe all that..(beliefs,emotional roots,conclusions,etc...). And ALL this story is treatable with BSFF(i mention it because i practice it and i know how it works..).
Just make the effort to learn it- you do not need to believe that it works...because it works anyway... (or other therapy that cleanse the subconscious mind) because what you are now is the result of your past (all you accepted as being true,real..without even realizing it).
And the reason you are not succesful in something, is because you HAVE blockages in your subconscious. These are by the thousands but, luckily, they all depend on some CORE aspects like : Self-Image, Self-Trust,The Acceptance of your life(not the problems theirselves, but the life it has been given to you), Allowing yourself to be the way you are (in order to eliminate self-judgement, self-sabotaging and to create a clear understanding of what, actually, is going on at a deeper level in you so from there to create your own freedom of being yourself...more and more free and clear :) )...
And this translates to CONFLICT- so, here you have the explanation WHY you did not have a succes...no matter what problem is..Conflict means SUSTAINING two OPPOSITE beliefs in the same time ! Example: you want your height BUT, without realizing, you tell yourself that you do not DESERVE good things in your life or you are of no good or you are un unlucky person,etc....How could you, then, possibly have succes..that is for everything you still did not accomplish..this is true for me too...and for absolutely everybody...
and this is why the movie "The Secret" is just half true and, actually, in my opinion, it did more wrong (mix the truth with a lie...) then right to people :) - plus the emphasis on the money not on the Well-Being (well-being is to have money, none the less )..because on planetary level mankind learned about Law of Attraction...but give to an "insane" man a gun..)...When you begin to cleanse a problem that is in your awareness you will, most likely, see that has deeper roots and you will be surprised to uncover things you just could not "see" before because of your "surface" perception of the problem.
I'm curious what will being taller bring to you? Lets say you are now 6 to 7 inches taller whats your plan? what would you do with your life. Whats something you love to do?
Its possible in future there will be some technologies that might increase height. Even now there might be some technologies too, i am not sure that you can research. So fundamentally nothing is impossible in that sense. There are people who wear slightly higher heels even men to gain some height too. i have in the past worn occasionally something that adds 2 inches. You can design some shoe to add 3 inches to 3 and 1/2 inches and if you customize the shoe you can get away with easily 3 inches looking natural.
Now as someone mentioned if you already have not worked out a lot and done yoga, then you can consider that to make your posture much more erect, that could give you 1/2 to 1 inch.
There are also fashion designers who can get you clothes that will make you look taller. Example horizontal stripes usually makes you look fatter and vertical stripes makes you thinner. So i am sure fashion designers know how to make you look taller. Also some hair style changes and maybe hat etc can add another dimension too.
If you add all these up you could have a clear 4-5 inches or more extra height quite easily.
answered 29 May '13, 19:30
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