As Abraham-Hicks point out, one of the most important things in the LOA and manifesting is having a high self-esteem.

I never thought I was a person with a low self-esteem, I was always ready to defend my points of view on any subject regardless of what people thought of them, and I have never been persuaded to change my opinion on anything with the intention of please anyone.

But I have just found out that people is still able to disturb, upset or hurt me quite easily if they get me on a weak day.

I wish I were more indiferent or nonchalant regarding peoples remarks, and I think this could be due to my self-esteem not be so high as I thought it was...

So I am wondering, what are the best ways of giving it a 'boost'? Is there some techinque? How can I achieve this in the most effective and lasting way?

Thanks in advance!


asked 02 Nov '10, 14:52

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edited 14 Jan '11, 15:30

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It sounds like people are just catching you in moments when you are in a less than ideal mental "state." Your strategy is to practice "state management." That is, practice ways to get yourself back into a good feeling state.

One way to do this is with Anthony Robbins' Power Questions.

This strategy puts the focus on you taking control of your emotions back. Your goal is to change your thinking from "But she said this, and he said that" to "How can I feel great again?" The Power Questions get a little deeper with this process by focusing you on the solution, which is within you, not those other people:

  1. What is great about this problem?
  2. What is not perfect yet?
  3. What am I willing to do to make it the way I want it?
  4. What am I willing no longer to do in order to make it the way I want it?
  5. How can I enjoy the process while I do what is necessary to make it the way I want it?

Remember, you can't change them. Lives have been squandered trying.

One last thought. Don't make yourself feel better by reaching for something addictive. That will just make you feel worse in the long run. If you reach for food everytime you feel bad (as an example), you will still feel bad in the end, and you will be 20 pounds heavier. You don't want that.


answered 02 Nov '10, 15:19

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edited 17 Jan '11, 13:27

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Abraham keep mentioning self-esteem themself in "Ask and it is given", "The Law of Attraction" and "The Vortex". If it's a label I haven't labeled myself like this :) Thanks for your answer and the link, nonetheless. Looks very interesting for sure!

(02 Nov '10, 15:29) BridgetJones09

@bridget: Thanks for the feedback. I have edited the answer slightly in response.

(02 Nov '10, 15:40) Vesuvius

reading this question again I see the value in your answer much more and see the gaps in mine!

(15 Jan '11, 00:25) Back2Basics

@Vesuvius: Your link had become a dead link, so I took the liberty of editing it, having found the page referred to again. Hope you don't mind!

(17 Jan '11, 13:29) BridgetJones09

Thanks @Bridget!

(17 Jan '11, 19:12) Vesuvius
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Louise L Hay is awesome when it comes to working with self-esteem. She has a super-duper book with a CD called "You Can Do It". It's really proven to be a beneficial book/CD with tons of self-esteem affirmations--IF you use them.

Louise L Hay also suggests that you look yourself in the mirror EVERY SINGLE DAY and say: "I love you, I really, really love you." And you say this regardless if you believe it or not, until over time, you begin to accept yourself more and more, thereby increasing your level of self-esteem.

You are wonderful. Yes you are!

All the best (:


answered 02 Nov '10, 17:14

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Rigorous physical exercise consistently will give you a huge boost.
Add to the pot meditation, positive affirmations, creative visualization and then work at things like Vesuvius said you should be on your way. Then, there will be more specific issues to your life uncovered that may need work as well.

It is a lot of work, I am always working on it myself but it does pay off!


answered 02 Nov '10, 18:17

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Good advise!.........

(20 Jan '11, 10:29) daniele

I can give many examples, but the best examples that I can give to you is to ask you what do you do to cope when someone rubs you the wrong way, and what makes you feel better? How do you cope with stress in general?

Usually, it is wise to address the problem, acknowledge it, problem solve if you can, or take some time away, and come back to it at a later time, otherwise let it go, and move on, do not let it take over your thinking, send it away, you do not need it in your life!

The reality is you are going to have those kinds of days no matter what, so you cannot let it get the best of you, you have to take control of your life in a positive way, even on the not so good days!


answered 20 Jan '11, 02:05

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