I meet many people who have a starting relationship with someone, everything is going fine, they feel and share the love, but at some times, when they are apart from each others, when there is physical distance between them, they feel sad and go in a "I miss you" pattern that doesn't feel good.
Now, to me, if your relationship is a bliss and is though tainted with sadness or feeling of lack during the other's absence, it's here to trigger something to keep the other person, presumably because there is a doubt about that love or about trust in the other (which then tells us it's not true love).
I would like to have your point of view to have a better answer to that question. There can't be a negative feeling within love, so people experiencing this feeling of sadness and missing should investigate in that bad feeling. And so I want to help them with that.
In other words, why would they spoil the good love feelings with sadness and feeling of lack ?
The answer to this question is clear; transform the relationship from ego based to soul based;
In an ego based relationship we feel sad and needy for love when the other person is absent, we feel insecure and need the physical reassuring presence of the person, we need their approval, we are focused on what we are not getting ... in a soul based relationship we feel completely loved no matter what the other person is doing, we feel whole and secure and we love our-self, we enjoy and encourage our friend to spend time with others, we are focused on what we are receiving from our partner.
Love by nature is unconditional. But we put conditions on it such as "I love him/her, because he/she is has a character that I like" or in other words "I love him/her because she/he behaves the way I want. But if he/she stops behaving that way, I will stop loving her/him".
That's putting conditions on love.
For example let's say you love a person because you think that he/she is tolerant, trustworthy, caring, faithful etc. But if this person suddenly doesn't behave the way you want him to behave, you don't love him anymore.
If your love were unconditional you would love him/her even if he/she would cheat on you, insult you or even beat you. This kind of love would be unconditional. That's the kind of love which Jesus talked about. Love even your enemies unconditionally.
But why we have the need to put conditions on love?
The simple answer is because we feel imcomplete. So we try to fill the gap in us with things that are outside of us. We say
The list goes on and on.
What's the solution?
Just 4 words. Get into the vortex!
Because when we are in the vortex we are in the most complete, unconditionally loving state. In the vortex there is no need to put conditions on anything because you feel utterly complete. You love every person, pet, stone, tree and yourself unconditionally. You feel complete and everything flows just easily. It is a state of bliss.
Which process can help to get into the vortex when you feel sad and miss someone?
I would recommend Abraham's "Which thought feels better?" process. Because it
answered 28 Feb '13, 05:51
i completely understand ur condition..as m in same sort of relationship with my love. but, i can say..ours is a soul based relationship..as we both spend time with our friends n we both don't hamper each other's freedom too.
i also miss him sometimes n the feeling is really bad..so i can relate with u. so..,what i am doin..,at these times,i keep myself bogged up in some work, i work for the whole day, i hang out with ma friends, play with kids. in short..i keep myself busy all the time. i don't give myself any time to miss him.
above all, i keep this in my mind all the time..tht i truely love him n he's all mine..no matter what n he truely loves me ..no matter what ..so, its all unconditional..,its soul based.
instead of thinking negative..,be more positive rather.., i alwayz think tht its good..,tht we are in long distance relationship. it tells me how much he misses me n how much he loves me n vise a versa. otherwise ,i have seen such couples also..tht meet up daily n strt taking each other for granted. they loose importance for each other..,there is nothing new left in their relationship. but, see we have lot many new things to plan..like wat we l do ,wen we l meet our loved one..n many things ahead.
one more advantage of long distance relationship is.., what ever we do is..quality based, means we spend quality time with each other, we chat..tht too is quality chating, quality talking n etc.
all i wanna say is..- just keep urself busy for the whole day. try to feel his presence instead of his absence. be yourself as much as u could. enjoy ur own company. hang out with friends. have atleast two guys...behind u..for side by side dating..lolzz..,it distracts ur foccuss from him n u actually kinda forget him for tht time. n u know, forgetting is best method of manifesting.
don't worry about him and this relationship. just love him tightly (ofcose in ur mind) n let God handle ur future. let the relationship unfold itself. if he is ur's..,and if u both are in God's plan together.., he will soon come to u as soon as possible n if no, then u will find someone far better than him ...,cos watever we desire we alwayz get..,so one thing is sure u have to get that true n unconditional love from one or the other guy. so..why worry..? leave everything on God n let him handle ur affair.
u need nt worry whether other one loves u in return or not. never ask for love..love comes n it comes a thousand fold. u go on giving it n it comes. the more u can give away love to ur partner, the more love u will receive back from ur mate n entire universe. this is alwayz true..thanks to law of attraction and other universal laws. watever u give out comes back to u thousand fold. as others feel the vibration of love, their hearts expand n unconciously they send the high frequency of love back to u. its just something tht naturally occurs. so rest assured, when u surrender to love and give unconditionally , u l experience the kind of love n respect u have been searching for.
i alwayz keep in mind the beautiful love story of jai-wade, they both too belong to IQ ..,u must be knowng them. they too were in long distance relationship. but, see now they are happily living together. n they proved tht, "if u truely love each other, if u both are meant to be together..then, the time n distance dissolves n they are reunited for forever...,no matter what. "
the distance is nothing but, a test of ur love... and if u pass this test... u l just get one answer... "TRUE UNCONDITIONAL LOVE..."
so, just surrender urself to tht true unconditional love n be patient. and..watch what happens..
i hope i have helped in some way..
love,light n blessings ur wayy..
answered 28 Feb '13, 06:20
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