Part 4 exercise refers to letting go mentally.
I have no trouble in letting go of thoughts such as fear, evny, sorrow, jealousy, anger, worry and so on but I can't seem to get certain songs out of my head. If I have heard a song earlier on the radio or televison whenever I do this exercise that song is stuck in my head and I think about that song the entire time. Am I doing the exercise right?
asked 10 Aug '11, 19:41
Barry Allen ♦♦
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I think you're doing fine with the exercise. It's just illustrating something to you about the way your mind works.
There is a popular saying in metaphysical / success circles..."What you resist, persists"
In other words, no matter how hard you try to "battle an enemy to the ground", the battle is self-defeating because your attention is always on the "enemy" you are battling, which just gives that "enemy" more power to battle you with in return.
Perhaps instead of trying so hard to get the songs out of your head, just make it okay that they are there. Try acknowledging the presence of them and don't make it a big deal if they stay in your mind. Just let them be. With repeated practice and a gradual willingness not to resist, you'll master this exercise.
I think part of the reason for that exercise is to illustrate to the reader just how little most of us are really in control of our thoughts even though we might like to kid ourselves that the opposite is true.
I remember from studying the book (some years ago now) that there's a great quote in there somewhere later about it being easier for someone to control a kingdom than to control themselves :)
I think the realization you can eventually come to by persisting with this releasing-of-unwelcome-thoughts exercise is that the elegant way to overcome something you don't want is not to focus upon it but just to "let it be" and focus elsewhere instead.
As a general life principle, I think that's a good way to live :)
answered 10 Aug '11, 21:53
@Stringray So as long as I have elimanted the thoughts of anger, fear, worry and so on then I'm ok and if other thoughts or songs are in my head I shouldn't resist them? The most important part about this exercise is making sure that I have completely elimanted any and all negative thoughts.
(11 Aug '11, 15:27) Marie
@Marie - If the songs that are in your head are not generating negative emotion within you then I would say that you are still complying with the essential requirements of the exercise. Ideally, you would want to be able to just clear your mind "on demand" of everything whenever you want to. But that is asking a lot if you are new to these kinds of subjects. It's an ability you can develop over time. And developing a habit of "not resisting" or "fighting" whatever is refusing to leave your mind will help you.
(11 Aug '11, 22:22) Stingray
@stringray thanks your comments were a big help.
(16 Aug '11, 02:07) Marie
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Try using your thumb to tap on the side of the nailbed closest the thumb of the same hand. Gently press each fingernail bed continuously going from one to the next, or just press one. do this until you are not distracted. This is called single handing tapping from Karen Naumen's website.
answered 10 Aug '11, 20:11
I have a mental disorder where songs and music play constantly, in perfect pitch and quality, in my head, over and over until I want to scream. EFT doesn't stop this for me. What DOES stop it- rather suddenly and completely, is a med called Abilify. This med stops the constant music altogether. I thought you should be aware that the music thing may be a sign of OCD, perhaps in a mild form. I have tried EFT, and not had too much success with it- perhaps due to the weird problems I have with my brain.
answered 12 Aug '11, 16:53
did you try the single handed tapping?
(12 Aug '11, 17:36) Fairy Princess
You could give BSFF a try, applied together with EFT I have found it to be a really powerful tool.
(06 Feb '12, 16:09) Kriegerd
@Jai - according to wikipedia abilify is the commercial name for aripiprazole an antipsychotic and antidepressant used in the treatment of schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, and clinical depression ...
(07 Feb '12, 00:16) blubird two
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so are you allowed to think good thoughts during this exercise??