Is it wrong to want a relationship and to try manifestation?

Thanks, Jai

asked 07 Jan '10, 10:42

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Think you could clarify the question a bit? Do you mean just any relationship? Or are you referring to a relationship with a specific person in mind? (say, lovable me :P)

(07 Jan '10, 11:16) Liam
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This question I will not answer as much as leave a wonderful quote from Florence Scovel Shinn's The Game Of Life and How To Play It.

Many people, however, are in ignorance of their true destinies and are striving for things and situations which do not belong to them, and would only bring failure and dissatisfaction if attained.

For example: A woman came to me and asked me to "speak the word" that she would marry a certain man with whom she was very much in love. (She called him A. B.)

I replied that this would be a violation of spiritual law, but that I would speak the word for the right man, the "divine selection," the man who belonged to her by divine right.

I added, "If A. B. is the right man you can't lose him, and if he isn't, you will receive his equivalent." She saw A. B. frequently but no headway was made in their friendship. One evening she called, and said, "Do you know, for the last week, A. B. hasn't seemed so wonderful to me." I replied, "Maybe he is not the divine selection—another man may be the right one." Soon after that, she met another man who fell in love with her at once, and who said she was his ideal. In fact, he said all the things that she had always wished A. B. would say to her.

She remarked, "It was quite uncanny."

She soon returned his love, and lost all interest in A. B.

This shows the law of substitution. A right idea was substituted for a wrong one, therefore there was no loss or sacrifice involved.

Jesus Christ said, "Seek ye first the Kingdom of God and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you," and he said the Kingdom was within man.

The Kingdom is the realm of right ideas, or the divine pattern.

Jesus Christ taught that man's words played a leading part in the game of life. "By your words ye are justified and by your words ye are condemned."


answered 08 Jan '10, 06:38

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Wade Casaldi

edited 08 Jan '10, 06:44


If you believe it is wrong, then it is wrong.

If you believe it is okay, then it is okay.

I became involved in my current (wonderful) relationship of the past few years that way, and we recently decided to get married, so I would probably say that manifesting relationships works :)

Beliefs about anything don't have anything to do with what the Universe (or God) can really give you, it's just about you putting limits on yourself...usually to conform to others' beliefs in some way.

My view is that if a belief doesn't serve you, kick it out, and believe something more useful instead.

Other people seem to hold the view that if a belief doesn't serve them then they must make it a life mission to make the rest of the world believe it too, so they eventually have more company in their misery.

It's a personal choice as to which school of thought you wish to align yourself with. :)


answered 07 Jan '10, 10:56

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I second the motion to your first two statements, Stingray!

(20 Mar '11, 16:02) Aphrodite

Can i ask you how did you do it?cause i was reading that youre suppsed to ask for it and then forget about it that way it manifests faster,but how can you forget or guve no thoughts about someone youre in love with?Thanks.

(26 Jan '12, 14:20) cigano

@cigano - I didn't do anything specific apart from be happy. For me and my (now) wife, we both met when neither of us needed a relationship at all actually. We were both happy as we were. Neither of us felt we needed a relationship to make us happy because we were happy already. And when we did finally meet, it was just "obvious" to both of us to be together and it went from there. As with the LOA generally, the best time to meet someone is when you don't need to meet someone :)

(26 Jan '12, 18:16) Stingray
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Yes to your first question and no to the second one.

The way I see it is we are attracting everything to us all the time, we can't stop it. The good thing is that once we understand this, we can state which attributes we want in our future partner and be very specific about it. I have used positive affirmations with great success.

I would never try to attract a particular person, but instead maybe admire an unknown person's similar characteristics and attributes. Any form of trying is not doing.

I no longer see anything as right or wrong. After all, who's going to confirm one way or the other? 8-)


answered 07 Jan '10, 13:39

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edited 27 Jan '12, 21:44

Yes, and I have done so! I believe I described the process in another post (what are some significant examples of things you have manifested) The key is to not visualize a particular person with you, but instead to not see the face. Otherwise, you could be interfering with someone's free will. At least this is how I reasoned it out in my mind. I was persistent in seeing myself happy and married, and that the person I married had the traits I was looking for, physically and emotionally. A lot happened along the way, all good, but in a short time I did meet the right person, and we are married. I am very happy!


answered 07 Jan '10, 13:33

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LeeAnn 1

I meant, of course, NO, it's not wrong, and I have done so!

(07 Jan '10, 13:33) LeeAnn 1

Cool, the more happy people around, the happier I am is :-)

(07 Jan '10, 13:41) Eddie

Think of what you would like your Prince Charming to look like, to be like, and leave the rest to the Universe. He will show up sooner, or later in your life. As you believe, so it shall be!


answered 08 Jan '10, 00:00

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I hate to say this, but you are responsible for not being attracted by someone else. It's up to you to protect yourself from whammys. If however you didn't need anyone but were open to the idea; it might happen fast if the person had used his mojo on you. If you were not open and closed to the idea their thoughts would probably not work as an attraction. We have all done it if you want to be honest about it. Who hasn't seen someone attractive and fantasized about having him/her.


answered 26 Jan '12, 19:02

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