Hi, I'm trying to manifest a relationship with my ex using Stingray's Focus Blocks Method. We broke up once, then seemed like we were doing fine again in terms of getting closer as friends, and then suddenly, I'm getting the cold shoulder again.

At this point, I am very aware that every time I see her online via our chat client, I feel horrible, negative, depressed, disappointed she's ignoring me, etc.

I don't want to feel this way so I decided not to go online anymore for a month or two. I instantly feel better because then I'm not expecting her to say hi at all, nor am I constantly debating if I should say anything.

I believe that, left alone like this, I'd be able to guide my emotions to a better place, and therefore manifesting my desires in life, including getting her back in my life.

I just have one tiny little worry though - if I'm offline for that stretch of, say, 2 months, is it going to hinder the manifestation? You know, like how they say, if you want to meet someone nice, you can't just hole up at home and be a couch potato hoping she'll just show up somehow...?

So yes, me disappearing from her world for 2 months - is it gonna hurt my manifestation effort? Any advice would be greatly appreciated!

asked 01 Sep '10, 15:06

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Pat W

edited 01 Sep '10, 20:04

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Barry Allen ♦♦


What made you decide on the no-contact period of two months?

(01 Sep '10, 15:13) LeeAnn 1

Well, I'm avoiding her birthday month (Sept) cos I don't know if I should say anything at all. I figured she seems to want some space so I'll just give her all the space she wants for a stretch.

(01 Sep '10, 16:21) Pat W

I also think it would take at least a month for me to just focus on feeling better and not get sucked back into any downward spiral too soon, you know... still vulnerable :D

(01 Sep '10, 16:21) Pat W

Things could change very quickly in her feelings, or they may take a long time, or of course they may not change at all. This will depend on her cooperation at some level and on your LOA work. Personally, I would not put a time limit in my mind, but if that helps you feel more in control then you have to do what is best for you. Best wishes, Pat.

(01 Sep '10, 16:38) LeeAnn 1
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I think you're taking a very wise and appropriate course of action - and one that probably not many would be willing to take in your position.

You absolutely need to put your own connection to your Source first otherwise, even if you do end up back in that relationship, you will still not be happy.

And once you are feeling better, you may realize that you have other options anyway that you may be blind to at the moment (out of vibrational range) when you are feeling disempowered.

One final thought...an old saying I like...

If you love something, let it go
If it comes back to you, it is yours
If it doesn't, it never was


answered 01 Sep '10, 20:22

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Hi Pat, remember with manifestation we do not get to decide how. That is the work of the Universe. All you have to do is hold the thoughts and image of what you want to manifest and let it go. If you need to go back online you will be guided to do so. Only you know what makes you feel best so allow yourself to be guided by your positive feelings. That is the Universe communicating with you.


answered 01 Sep '10, 15:53

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Hi Drham, yes, you're right. I don't want to force myself to be offline if it doesn't make me feel good. So yes, if I feel positive and stable enough that I could go online, I would take that as inspired action.

(01 Sep '10, 16:23) Pat W

Dear Pat W. Without an attachment to any outcome I will share techniques that I have learned, used and tried. This is not a guarantee that the love of you life will connect with you but it will set you free from the negative emotions that you experience when you now think of her and this could be a blockage to any positive progress. It does not matter how great your faith in a higher power is, Bless her when you think about her wish her happiness, Prosperity,Peace, and whatever positive word that feels good to you. Monitor your thoughts and do this to break the pattern that has formed. The Law of Resonance the vibrations that you emit through your closeness to her heart through "Love" will created a positive feeling in both of you, but that statement does not mean this is a reset button. Step 2. if needed is to create a statement of good about this person, find quiet time to repeat your statement and contemplate upon all the happy times you and her spent together. Be thankful for the good she brought into your life. Be thankful that you were able to teach her things as well. There is always prosperity in a relationship. If after a while you still are having negative and anger thoughts (which I doubt) there is the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT). Information is online. Realize that all things happen for our good. It may not appear as good but everything that happens is a sacred contract we have agreed to experience. "If I experience it I created it, If i created it I can dissolve it". Not only do I wish you Joy and a very Good Day but a good life here under the sun. G16


answered 01 Sep '10, 17:38

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I think that youve missed the point a bit here.Your trying to engineer a re vitalisation of a relationship.This might not be in both of your best interests. Why not affirm that your attracting your perfect mate and leave the rest to God. I did about 4 years ago and found the most blissful relationship ive ever had. Dont worry about the details and dont try to be God.Let the all mind use his all mind. Graham


answered 01 Sep '10, 20:55

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Monty Riviera

This one is so hard for me. I once tried to manifest a relationship also.

This is where this question came from:

and where this advice was inspired:

Some questions to ponder:
Could it be that there is something better in store for you that you may have no concept of right now?

What if she doesn't deserve YOU?

Is there a good reason she is your ex?

All the best. Do keep me posted. I am very interested to hear how this unfolds.

Also, see:



answered 01 Sep '10, 16:26

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Thanks, I see where your questions are leading. I hope to have good news to report! :)

(02 Sep '10, 16:57) Pat W

As a friend of mine pointed out, it is the silence between the notes that makes music. As you said yourself, no contact is making you feel better. I suspect that it is your expectations and fears that is causing you to feel bad if you don't hear from her when you want.

We are not meant to be joined at the hip, two halves of a whole. We are meant to be whole persons, with whole lives. When we are whole and happy, then we SHARE our lives. We don't look to the other person to give us a life or make us happy. Thank kind of thinking is death to a relationship. I know. I've been a couple's counselor for 24 years.


answered 19 Jul '14, 19:44

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