Age 20-21 was a milestone for me. I realized I was now a legally responsible adult.

My best friend had decided that all life, for him, would be over at 26. He consistently mentioned that he was going to suicide on his 26th birthday because it would all be "downhill" for him after that birthday. We lost touch when he was in his mid-50s, but he was still going strong.

Age 30 another milestone for me, but a bigger one was 33. I thought about how much Christ had accomplished by that age and how little I had, comparatively, accomplished.

But the financial basis I was growing was beginning to bear fruit.

Age 40. Personal power was dramatically increasing.

Age 50. Felt an additional boost, after that birthday. Mature ability and power continuing to grow. After a few starts, found the relationship of my dreams. Still going strong. After four previous marriages, kept looking and found her. We have now been married for longer than the total of the first four.

Age 60. Stronger yet with the additional benefit of "not giving a crap about what other people thought." Hadn't cared a lot before that age, but by then it was solidified and consolidated.

Facing age 70. Great physical condition. Doctor 25 years younger than me told me I was "disgustingly normal," and in better shape than him

Yesterday loaded 2500 pounds of roofing tar in 50 pound pails. Felt good. Today will drive my completely restored 1956 Cadillac Coupe de Ville to the chiropractor. Might drive my 1959 Cadillac convertible instead. Ah, the difficult decisions!

Not bad for a kid that grew up on a farm with a four room house, a coal stove for heat and an outhouse. I also had serious bronchitis and almost died from complications that led to pneumonia.

As a child, we were given a school assignment of what we expected to be, to have as an adult. My paper was about a 50 year old Bill. Though I listed only about 1/3 of the things I have accomplished, my teacher turned the paper back to me and told me to rewrite it. She said that she was not interested in "fantasy" but wanted me to be "realistic," or I was going to get an "F" on the paper. How could a sickly child from a dirt-poor family even think about these accomplishments?

I handed it back to her and told her, "I am going to do and be these things. I am not giving up on my dreams." I got an "F". Since I had never gotten below a "C+" on anything before, I showed my paper to my mother, and told her what had happened.

She completely supported me. Though she never said so, I think she had a talk with that teacher because the teacher's attitude changed. I still got the "F" but I really did not care. I had my dream and I knew that seed would grow. It did.

I appreciate that you keep coming back and asking for answers. Also that you do explore the responses given by other IQ Members. You are trying and I honor that persistence. It is the hallmark of all great people.

The seeds you are planting are growing. You will certainly have the joy you wish and whatever manifestations you desire.

Maybe some of the suggestions given here will help. Maybe you will create powerful techniques that will not only help you, but many others.

For now, my wife and I will continue to see those seeds unfolding in you. Will continue to see you as a powerful man unfolding in joy. The joy that you came here to experience. The Joy that is yours. A tall man with great skin!

Happy Birthday @flowsurfer and many more.

Aha! Now we have the crux of the problem laid out before us...Aging, approaching thirty...What to do? What to do?

Darling, I wish with all my heart that I was twenty-something once again. It would be wonderful!

Why did God design such a world that all upon it seem to be on a conveyor belt of time? All heading towards...

DEATH!?

If I became twenty-seven again, here is what I would have to give back to Life. Here is what I would have to return to time:

 1. My daughter, Kimberly, who I had at
age 30.
 2. Enjoying the last twenty years of my Father's life
 2. Enjoying the last years of my grandmother's life.
 3. The time I spent with my best dog, a Labrador retriever we named
Lady.
 4. Max, my Maine Coon cat, who will always be the "best boy ever".
 5. The years of illness where I learned about suffering and about
having courage.
 6. The years of writing for Inward Quest- the best of all.
 7. Meeting Wade in 2004 at an age far past yours, and eventually
falling in love with him, moving to
Pennsylvania, etc.
 8. All the precious years of watching my kids grow up and have
kids of their own.
 9. The years of going to college with one leg being eaten by a
necrotizing bacteria and surviving
both.
 10. Learning to appreciate life and that growing old is not for sissies.
 11. All the beautiful crystals I have collected, bought, sold, and
admired...that goes for all the beautiful things  God has graced
me with over the years.
 12. I could go on and on....

Do you see? You trade your youth for love. You trade your youth for experience. You trade your youth for accomplishments, and most of all, you learn to live God's Will and not your own.

Surfer dude, it's time to say so long to your childhood and become a man.

You will not be sorry you did it. Not at all.

Love,

Jai

Hi flowsurfer, i consider this question to be about "fear", the bit about "how do i grow younger" is just an extension.

Having said that, fear is a learned emotion, we are not born with fear, it is something that we learn by experience, thus it can be unlearned. It's as if you have built a carapace around yourself to protect yourself from your own inner fears, and it's stifling in there.

There are of course authentic fears, in the case of real physical danger we can experience legitimate fear that dissipates once the danger is gone.

The greatest fear for most people is death and the desire to grow younger is a way of delaying it. Life, if we describe it as being the period between birth and death is our most precious "possession", however "life" cannot be isolated and put into a bottle for all to see, it is that indefinable quality that manifests itself spontaneously.So we cannot possess it, life is not ours to possess, we can only wonder. All attachment is source of pain, life then becomes a learning process during which we learn to let go of it, through unconditional love.

I love lists they assist me in remembering the essential points, here is a short list of how to overcome fear;

1 Analyse your fear - recognize your fear it's the first step towards controlling it - describe what your fear is all about that way you put it in a container - imagine the outcome when you conquer the fear.

2 Take control - expose yourself to small doses of your fear - meet your fear head on - persevere in beating it.

3 Change your way of seeing things - see it as an interesting opportunity to progress.

4 Allow yourself to face fearful situations and celebrate your victories over fear.

"The best way to conquer fear is to consciously move toward the feeling and breathe. As you do this the fear dissolves. Fear is just a feeling; it cannot hurt you. Don't be afraid of your feelings. Just continue to feel and move forward." quote - Christine Day.

it is within your domain
to keep yor vehicle
operating by intended
specifications, but you

cannot have it do more
than it was designed for
know thyself

I am not old,I was just born a long time ago. Getting old is a state of mind that you base on time. You know about living in the NOW. It's been talked about here before. Have you read the book yet? (The power of Now) . Your never going to be older than you are right now. It's that Ego based fear of the future, that drives these questions and your fears.

Relax
The years you add to your life adds quality to your life. You have read @Dollar Bills and @Jaiannaih answers .It seems that you are possibly reflecting on someone else's negative experience. This does not need to be yours . It's your choice. Choose Life in the NOW ,and age will never be a problem .

Please relax, open your mind, turn off the ego defenses and listen to the 2 clips. Read the book or I think even better listen to the audio book. Do some searches on YouTube ,Power of Now and Tolle's discussions.
peace