I tend to think of inspired actions as actions which makes you feel good. People also say that as long as you always delibrately choose a thought or action which makes you feel better than the other one, you will always be on the right path. But how do we actually determine which option should we take, if there are certain contradictions?
E.g, You signed up for a aerobics class with 8 lessons starting at 10pm and paid for it. Your work ends at 5, so after going for a few lessons, one fine day, you just got the feeling or hunch that you should not go for the class, or you just didn't felt like going to the class. So you decided not to go, since in that instant, not going made you feel better. But as you travel home, you feel bad again wasting your money, and then contemplating whether you should have gone a not. So, should you have gone for the class, or not?
or a student who is schooling when faced with choices between studying and playing, naturally he should choose playing, since that would make him feel better ? or a plump person when faced between choosing a meal of potato chips,ice cream, etc and a bowl of bland porridge, naturally he should choose the former, since it makes him feel better?
so what do we actually mean by taking inspired actions and which action should we take if faced with such conditions as listed above?
asked 15 Sep '10, 15:21
Barry Allen ♦♦
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I think the key is to ask yourself which option will feel better at that deeper level and in the long run.
Sure, one might feel better, in that instant, not going to the aerobic class or eating the potato chips or ice-cream but when you sit quietly for that instant and ask which choice really feels better, on a deeper level, your own knowing will let you know. Instant gratification is usually short-lived and that instant of feeling better never lasts and you only end up feeling worse than you did before making your choice.
Your own intuition will guide you to the choice that will leave you genuinely feeling better, if you take the time to listen and don't go for the instant gratification which is really the choice of the ego.
answered 15 Sep '10, 16:18
well it may be instant gratification, but what if the student deeply believes that getting good grades will not be the thing that gets him ahead in life, or the plump guy might feel that he has no issues with being plump at all? hope u get what i mean.. haha
(15 Sep '10, 16:39) kakaboo
Well if they genuinely believe that - then I'd say go for the one that feels best, but the key is making the choice from that quiet, still place of knowing and not necessarily choosing the easiest option. If the plump guy is genuinely ok with being plump, then by all means I'd say go for the icecream over the oatmeal but he needs to make sure that his ego isn't fooling him into believing it's ok to be plump. All the decisions require complete honesty with oneself.
(15 Sep '10, 20:02) Michaela
Why describe him as plump if it matters not?
So porridge means a bowl of warm breakfast food and not soup to you. hmmm :)
(02 Feb '22, 14:14) ele
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Taking inspired action means being inspired about the actions you take. For many people, thought comes first, then feeling, then action.
If you have signed up for aerobics classes and then don't go, it's a problem of emotional management, not emotional guidance.
The remedy is to find ways to be inspired about going to aerobics class: imagine how your body will feel and look after three months of dedication to the class. Imagine making friends at the class, and helping each other to be inspired about achieving the goals you have set. Imagine going to the beach with a killer body, or how much better sex is.
Contemplate the reasons you joined the aerobics class. Notice how that makes you feel. Then go.
For many people, reaching for new goals can be uncomfortable at first, because they are reaching outside their comfort zone. That discomfort will disappear once going to the class becomes a habit.
answered 15 Sep '10, 16:33
so am i mixing up emotional management and guidance? if so, how do we actually differentiate them?
(15 Sep '10, 16:37) kakaboo
and btw is offthegrid.com a website u own? =D
(15 Sep '10, 16:44) kakaboo
Exercise makes you healthier, and your body feel better physically over the long term. Your body knows this, so when you feel inspired, that is the truth your emotional guidance system is giving you. But there is also some discomfort initially, and that is truth also. Which truth is more important to you?
(15 Sep '10, 16:48) Vesuvius
OffTheGrid.COM is my little way of saying I don't have my own blog. :)
(15 Sep '10, 16:48) Vesuvius
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should everyone tune into the divine plan and our role within it,
answered 15 Sep '10, 22:05
Good point,i think i fall inbetween.
(16 Sep '10, 10:03) Monty Riviera
I know this might not be too popular a view,but sometimes our feelings arnt the only factors we must take into account.
Sometimes what we may view as being the right thing to do MAY not be accompanied by a lot of nice feelings. These could follow but may not be there at the time of the decision.
I know there may be a difference between it feeling good and feeling its right ( or at least what you decide is right ) Im not saying something is or isnt right ,its not my place.
Im a little unsure about the Hicks message about things feeling good,im more comfortable with them feeling right. But i suppose this raises the question is feeling good about something an indicator that its the best thing to do.
Im not actually sure.
answered 15 Sep '10, 17:33
The Hicks message about feeling good is just saying that whenever you are faced with options or thoughts where you don't know which to take, always take the downstream one, the one that leads you higher on the emotional scale and makes you feel better. so what i am asking here is exactly what does she mean by 'better'?
(16 Sep '10, 01:19) kakaboo
It seems a lot of decisions have a short term and longer term apect of what will "make you feel good".
Lets take the aerobics example:
You didn't feel like going after work, so you didn't and that felt good!
But then you realized some of the future consequences and it made you feel bad. Wasted money means less money in future, you could have felt EVEN better after going to the class, it would have helped you sleep better, made you look and feel more confident, etc.
Just because something makes you feel good in the NOW doesn't mean it will assist you in feeling good in the future.
Sometimes we actually have to feel bad in the NOW so we can create more opportunities to feel even better in the future.
that's my experience.....
answered 15 Sep '10, 18:02
well.. but they say, we only live in the NOW. lol (?)
(16 Sep '10, 01:20) kakaboo
@kakaboo: we do, but we can still prepare for future NOWs.
(16 Sep '10, 16:24) Back2Basics
The question that I would ask if they both do not feel good is: how much worst can it get if I were to choose one of them? The other thing I would do to help myself to make a decision is: to flip a coin, and go for it. Who knows, the not feeling good, may turn out to be feeling very good! Life is about taking risks, so although you may be unsure of the outcome of your decision, it is always better to know what lies ahead of you. And sometimes you can give yourself a nice surprise!
answered 17 Sep '10, 05:59
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I need more data boo.
"porridge" ? as in the old English nursery rhyme? Serious question.
"plump" ... are you saying it's ok for ppl of an acceptable weight to eat ice cream, chips and the like but not if you are pleasantly plump ?
@ele I can't give you more data for I would need to become my old self 11 years ago in order to understand my question and also answer you.
...but yet you continue to ask the same questions.
wouldn't you say that 80-90% of the questions asked on this site can be summarized into "how to feel good in my life" just in different forms and ways that they are being asked ?
yes, finding the short cut
to get that desired
I realize this is an old question and I'm not trying to demean when I say this - have you tried using common sense when it comes to decision making? It seems like you are making life difficult. I get what you are asking and why. You want to feel better.
... "are" was not past tense.
All of us are always evolving - always changing. Some of us may not even be the person they were yesterday.
Are you afraid to make a mistake?
Being you were talking about oats and I was thinking soup, I don't think we are on the same page. WTS, I'm also going to say my assumption was based only on the question you asked me in relation to 11 yrs ago.
As for your question to me - no, I do not agree and if that applies to your current decision questions, I wonder why.
I recall your link but I don't recall you ever leaving. I'll read it.