There are two ways, one is little by little through effort. The other is modeling after someone else.

The modeling is similar to channeling that person. It is shifting your frequency in effect changing you into a frequency similar to that person. The cool thing is because this is a tuning technique, you could even make up the ideal you and turn into him.

I many times do this myself playing my guitar.

You imagine that you are that person. You feel it within and around you. As you do this you could imagine this person merging in consciousness, like your souls are one.

Now when you go out it is not you, you can have fun. You don't go over board and get lost in this persona even telling people your name is his. But you feel his confidence, his understanding, his knowing.

It is like a real life Dr. Jeckel and Mr Hyde, the only difference being who you are choosing to be is in your control.

Some could say this is just delusional play acting. You only believe that you change. Maybe... But if it works who cares why it works. :-)

You can work on it like some other are saying... visualizing, feeling better etc. But there is another way that works for me.

That is to forget about thinking that this will define your life. I used to think like this too. I am not that talkative and little introverted. I used long time back think i need to talk a lot and smile and laugh together with everyone etc etc.. but it does not matter. WHat's most important is to just be who you are.

I will translate what this means. Since lot of people say - be who you are. But its not easy to be that when the picture you have of yourself is disrtorted or coming from wanting to be something etc.

Basically this means that you have some noises in your mind that needs to stilled. There are judgements that YOU HAVE TO BE LAUGHING and ConNECTING with people. There is nothing wrong in wanting that but the problem is the JUDGEMENTS you have about it. Since you observe that connection is not there and that observation bring you back to Zero in your mind. Meaning you think are not making progress.

Instead flip the switch and focus on what you like in life. For 6 months forget about connecting with people. You know the Universe will bring what you really want so dont worry that its not gonna happen just because you are not directly working on it.

Work on what gives you real joy and fun just for yourself. If no one exists and you live in life what are activities you do. Example - i wanted to sort of dance but was never a good dancer or never did that for 38 yrs of my life. but once i learnt about Law of Allowing etc... i started doing it - JUST FOR FUN , SINCE I LIKE IT. not because i can dance and connect to some girl. this is important not to again do something for someone else.

You think you are boring becuase maybe you are truly not following the things you LOVE to do. this does not mean something you will die for. It can be simple things that you love doing. my dancing is just hobby - its not to become dancer. It need not be your life purpose right away. Just go with small thing that you always wanted to do. etc. maybe you want to sing, play instrument , play sports??

Meditate everyday for some time. Silence is the answer to everything - great great Masters have said that. When you silently meditate for some time everyday - choose 15-20 mins or more whatever you are comfortable. Do it with intention that its connecting you to the Divine. Divine will is the greatest will. If you put that behind your will anything can happen. If God or spirit energy decides you will get amazing relationships in heartbeat. You dont need to all that work on it. But to get in touch you need to meditate. When you meditate you become calm and still and in that calmness you will know what to do. It will be more clear so it will be the REAL YOU. You will stop doing things that are due to external factors.

I can give some exmaples... before i wanted to connect to people. So then i read book. The book said go out and mingle in groups and i did that. Then i read being fit was important. so i worked out and look good. I even hired a fashion consultant. Then someone said you should be able to talk and connect more freely by developing conversational skills so i took some lessons on that too. the list goes on. Instead later i switched to what i really like doing... i did meditation and silenced myself. For some time i said there is no need to connect right away. It will happen when it happens. Then my mind got more still. Then i decided i always wanted to dance so took some lessons. I did NOT go there to connect to people. I liked to move to music. when i focussed only dancing then i met a girl. We just connected. we had a great time. I never thought about how can i connect with her. What should i do so she does not get bored etc. I was in flow. And if not her someone else i would connect. But things worked out great. we went on some great vacations together, great dinners, movies etc... She adored me. And through her i learnt how WORTHY i was. but in the back of my mind i knew its because i stilled my mind and then followed my joy and i was being more of you i really am - and that as the Greatest Spiritual Masters have said was the real answer.

i had couple of most amazing relationships like never before in my life. And i never tried to connect. It just happened because my mind was still and i was also following what i love - dancing.

---- EDIT... I actually also wanted to add that the above method is more to bring ourselves in alignment with who we are. the action to visualize and meet people to connect is something i am not discouraging at all.

on the contrary once you are aligned and then take action - that combination of being aligned with who you are and then taking massive action is very potent method to get your manifestation. Its lethal power.

but reason i said to take it easy 6 months, is when i did something like for myself that i could separate myself from my attachment to connect to people and stepping away like that gave me the opportunity to see how my thinking was clouded and how earlier i was trying to arrange outside experiences but getting away from my core of who i am. i was chasing things by doing things that i really did not like at the core of my heart but was doing instead analytically thinking that would give me the outside result.