I have come to realize that one of my biggest problems is impatience. This is how I have always been, its a character trait. Whatever I want I want now and when it doesnt happen I get frustrated. How can I change this trait? Is is even possible to change such things which are and inherent part of one's personality?

asked 03 Nov '10, 10:23

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edited 22 Aug '11, 07:14

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Firstly you have to change the belief that this is "an inherent part of one's personality". In my opinion it is more of a learned behaviour that can be unlearned.

Patience is being totally at ease with the Now moment and trusting that everything will show up when the time is right. It is a process of letting go and trusting that God, Source, the Universe etc. will answer your request, but remembering that it will be answered in Divine time and not on the schedule of the ego.

Impatience will only hinder the process and as you know will cause frustration and discord within.

When you're feeling impatient, take a moment to breathe and ask yourself "What's the rush?" You can then go on to affirm - "All is well. Everything I need shows up at exactly the right time".


answered 03 Nov '10, 13:35

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I just tried to post a new question about learning patience, but it was closed because this question already existed...the search engine did not show "impatience" when I asked about learning "patience"- ironic, is it not? My patience was tested...and now I am here, posting an answer to my own, former question.

Patience, as Michaela has stated, requires an acceptance of what is happening in "now". I am "impatient" when I am in "now", and see or experience something I find intolerable, even temporarily. So, the key to finding one's patience comes with an examination of oneself in the "now".

Inside that precious moment, comes a flash of infinite possibilities, infinite choices. To be patient, you deliberately choose to do nothing at all! This, too, is ironic! That the answer to finding patience actually has to do with living in "now"...and the key to "now" is found in the right brain.

The right brain is non-linear. It does not chug along at the steady and constant tick of time. Instead, the right brain is always in "now", in a state of existing in touch with our deepest essence, our true self and our connection to God and even Heaven itself. I learned this from a brain scientist named Jill Bolte Taylor, who experienced a stroke that shut down her left brain, and allowed her to experience reality as it exists in the right brain alone. (if you would like to learn more about her experience, you can watch her give a short and exciting talk here).

So, the real answer to developing patience lies in letting go of "logic" and "now", and shifting your gears to your right brain, which sees everything differently. The right brain could care less about what you think is right. It just experiences reality, and enjoys "now". To have patience, draw on the strength of your right brain. Let go of logic. Trust your connection to God, for it is right there, inside of your mind!

In short, accept and just "be". And you will learn things you never knew.

You will become...patient.

Blessings, Jai


answered 22 Aug '11, 10:43

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edited 22 Aug '11, 16:13

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Wade Casaldi

I made a loop so that what you said in the other question does not get lost. You can get there and back with just a click.

(22 Aug '11, 16:23) Wade Casaldi

I do like this answer. I believe for me, I use both sides to slowly and patiently ponder and figure out things calmly, like I have all the time the world has to offer. I can say this: you will eventually learn patience if you are patient enough to wait for it! lol

(22 Aug '11, 16:30) Wade Casaldi

Wade, it is because of you that I want to learn more patience! You have the quiet, calm center of the true Karate Sensei, learned from your years at Karate....I will be playing catch up to your patience the rest of my life, I think...at least I can say that I had the patience and perseverance to wait for your love.....It was really worth it, too...Thanks for fixing the link...Your>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

(22 Aug '11, 16:34) Jaianniah

jai i am left or right does not matter to me. i am logic and patient both at the same time. my logic is analysing the problem in front of me in the now with no anger. i find the solution and laugh about it. so experience and enjoy.

(23 Aug '11, 03:24) white tiger

i know that some things are not from my free will and yes sometime it is stupid and cause you problem but there is solution to every problem. and you do not have to let it affect you. learn and grow from it. experience and enjoy.

(23 Aug '11, 03:29) white tiger
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You can start by realizing that impatience doesn't have to be an inherent part of your personality! When you feel you're running short on patience, take the time to appreciate the moment in which you're being tested, take a deep breath and call on patience and understanding. You'll end up feeling love for those testing you and will help you see what you need to change within you ( why it irritates you?)

Thank you, namaste


answered 03 Nov '10, 11:10

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I was also an impatient person (and still am at times!). The thing that really helps me the most to slow down, is just simply appreciating the moment, being truly glad I am alive and able to see the things that bring me joy.


answered 04 Nov '10, 09:43

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