Hi Stingray, though the question can seem a bit personal regarding myself, I'm purely asking for some information.
This question stems directly from confusion regarding how one feels zero sort of emotion regarding a huge desire, outlined in 'Is it wrong if I dont feel anything about a wish I really really want to manifest?'. I should actually beckon that I feel as if this is almost myself asking this question about relationships as well. I feel it's all I could truely live with happily for the rest of my life. Yes my desire is happy marriage and children.
This information is stating that the manifestation of a desire is pretty much about to arrive once we are above the vibration of our desires.
If I use an exercise such as visualisation, and I am feeling excited/ passionate/ loving/ appreciative about this visualised scene of mine (which is the arrivement of my desire), does this actually mean that it will not come until I feel sort of neutral about it? Again, linking from this other question,
The thrill is an indication that the vibrational gap still exists between where you are and what you want.""
Oh, and when I say neutral, I don't really indicate neautral on the emotional guidance scale; I am referring to a sort of "ok, this desire dosn't thrill me or make me any happier much at all, I want something else now...."
Let's say that there is as little negative blockage around this desire as possible, and the visualisation makes it amazing to experience in the NOW. I am asking this question because this visualisation isn't really becoming boring, and I'm not really fed up with thinking it, despite I've done it for about 2-3 weeks.
Providing I keep focusing on my desire in pure appreciation and positive, optimistic and faithful light, is it true that it's only going to come once all of this 'goodness' of basking in the thoughts of my desire is milked out completely? For the desire to come must I seize energy flow towards it specifically? Because if that is the case, I don't think I could possibly do that....Honestly, even when I was in the small little romances in my life, all I did was think about how good they were and appreciate them pretty much all the time until they ended, and then I got sad. When I was in love, all I did was think about the experiences of it; it made me feel fantastically amazing.....
I guess then if you could, in detail, unpack this quote from the question Focus on What we want or ask and forget about it? ------ "Sure, they might get excited because they have one million dollars but that's a very different vibration." What is this style of excitement and vibration of then?
Is it possible to become engulfed in this style of "neutral" relaxation with even the biggest of desires? Do you know if it's a possibility I could feel that way with this rock hard desire of mine?
Deepest, deepest thankyou. Regardless of everything else in my life, I sincerely feel so greatful and 'spoilt' that there are real people out there who give up their time and effort to help me and others on this website on their personal inner quest:)
I think what you are getting at in your question (which raises a good point) is the difference between excitement and yearning.
For example, over the past week in my life, I've had some insights into my own application of manifesting processes that have been making me very excited. It's a kind of leaping around the room, punching-the-air-in-delight kind of excitement - which I actually have been :) - and the more excited I've become, the more insights I've had which has made me even more excited. I would classify that as pure excitement...I'm just thrilled everytime I get a new insight but I'm not at all upset or bothered if they come or if they don't come.
I think Cory expressed this concept much better than me in the comments to Why should we not share our joy with other people if we have manifested something amazing in our life? when he talked about not having the feeling of being "taken by surprise" when something good happens. It doesn't mean you're not happy when something good happens, it means it's just your normal expectation that these things are going to happen.
Yearning on the other hand would be the kind of "excitement" you have when you see an amazingly expensive and unique car drive past you on the street but then you suddenly realize that it doesn't belong to you but someone else instead. It's also like watching someone win the lottery on television and almost feeling a tinge of sadness because it's not you.
Yearning is excitement with a feeling of lack attached ...and that stands in the way of you physically manifesting what you want.
I've written a bit about this difference between excitement and yearning before in Is the feeling of expectation sufficient for the manifestation to occur?
It's also similar to the idea of the difference between gratitude and appreciation which people think are the same thing but they are not really. One of them has a "vibrational drag" attached to it. As you get more experienced with playing around with sensing the different vibrational frequencies (or feelings) of different thoughts, you can feel the difference quite clearly. See Is there a difference between gratitude and appreciation? for further information.
So the kind of excitement that doesn't get in the way of what you want is the excitement with presence rather than the excitement with absence (yearning). See Will my new house manifest?
Excitement with absence (yearning) creates more (or maintains) absence.
To me, right now having played with these ideas for years, the difference between excitement and yearning is like the difference between black and white. I can almost feel a punch to my solar plexus when I feel yearning instead of excitement...it's that different.
But for someone with less experience, it can be difficult at first to sense the difference though I strongly believe that anyone can fine-tune their vibrational sensing abilities to highly precise levels if they have the desire and are willing to practice.
So what I always recommend when starting out is that you only visualize for the fun of visualizing and forget about manifesting the thing you want completely. If you focus on the excitement from the visualization so much that you really don't care if the manifestation comes or not, you've eliminated all the yearning completely...and what you want is on it's way.
But like I've said in previous postings, this is not a feeling you can fake. You can't trick the universe into "thinking" that you no longer have yearning, you really have to let go of noticing that your manifestation isn't there yet. You really have to make peace with where you are right now.
So you have to ask yourself, when you are doing your visualizations: "Is the feeling I am getting from this visualization enough for me, or am I still secretly after the manifestation (and thereby noticing the absence of it)?"
If the visualization is enough, you're doing just fine.
If you are stuck in yearning and can't find a way to escape from it, it can be much easier to just give up on what you want completely and not think about it any more.
One last point, it is quite possible even with yearning to manifest what you want. But what I've found is that when I've yearned for something and then manifested it, it doesn't stay in my life (it's temporary) because I wasn't really a true vibrational match to the presence of it.
Hope that answers your question.
I see it like this. High vibrations are only the ability to have our energy and knowledge in good standings. so if we have a better grasp on our inner self, then yes, we most defiantly can manifest better. I also find that when I manifest I do it easier than most because I have no super imbalanced emotions when I am trying o get the things I want,. Because I do not NEED anything, only want them, I know if i do not get them it is ok, so my worries of not getting it is helping me calm and level emotions. Hope it helps.
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answered 17 Feb '12, 13:08
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