Why should we not share our joy with other people if we have manifested something amazing in our life? Is it because that other people might "shoot you down" and tell you that it is ridiculous for you to be thinking that way, making you lose confidence that you had actually manifested the amazing thing yourself? or are there other reasons for this?

I am asking this question because of the reply from Stingray's reply and the question here

I would have asked this as a comment on the question but that thread seems to be a bit cluttered up already and I figured someone else might have experienced the same thing before and might have different perspectives so I decided to ask this separately.

Quote from Stingray's answer:

And here's one final tip that I've found to be true again and again in my life...when you practice more and more and you start getting "amazing" results (which you will), don't make it a big deal that something "amazing" just happened. Very often I never even mention to anyone (not even my wife) that anything "amazing" just happened. I'll just smile inwardly to myself, enjoy the feeling in the moment, and move on with my life.

asked 13 Feb '12, 07:57

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edited 25 Jun '12, 10:46

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It's an idea I first heard back in the '90s from Orin and DaBen and Abraham also express the same concept in the form of The Next Logical Step.

First off, there's absolutely nothing wrong with going around telling everyone you manifested this or that.

But if, while you are doing that, you are doing so from a vibration of "This was so amazing" with the inner implication that it was unusual and rare, you are setting yourself up for it not happening again anytime soon.

Check out that "Next Logical Step" link above for why it's much easier to get things that are "no big deal".

I've been at this stuff for quite a long time now and I've never really found a way to "brag" (to use an extreme word) without losing my center...so I just skip the "bragging" and keep the good stuff coming :)

I've had stuff manifest for me that has been so outrageous (in a good way) that people on IQ wouldn't believe me even if I told them what happened. And I've even said before on IQ that there's one that I'm pretty sure that everyone here would know about if I went public with it.

But I've also noticed that if I treat these manifestations as just my ordinary day-to-day life experience, they just become more and more commonplace.

It just becomes my ordinary expectation to have things flow the way I want and, when they don't it's never a surprise because I can always see the link between where I am standing vibrationally on that subject and what's manifesting physically regarding it.


answered 13 Feb '12, 08:34

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Since I taught this to my son, since I have been studying it, he has used it several times. Sometimes we excitedly share stories. I think to encourage ourselves and eachother that it really does work. I thought it would be good, I didn't think it could be bad for the results. oops

(13 Feb '12, 08:49) Fairy Princess

@Stingray Looove this answer

(13 Feb '12, 09:33) LapisLazuli

@Stingray "But if, while you are doing that, you are doing so from a vibration of "This was so amazing" with the inner implication that it was unusual and rare, you are setting yourself up for it not happening again anytime soon." I think what you said right there is a great point to make. It's something that took me a while to wrap my own mind around. We can't have the feeling of being "taken by surprise" when something good happens because we may not get any enjoyable events any time soon.

(13 Feb '12, 12:39) Cory

@Cory - Yes, well said. Something that causes us "surprise" implies that we are not really a vibrational match to it because true, solid alignment doesn't bring "surprising" things, just things that are obvious when they manifest. In some of the top sporting events where a newcomer is challenging the established champion, you can sometimes sense the surprise of the newcomer to be so close to beating the champion and then also, quite often, they eventually lose the match as a result :)

(13 Feb '12, 14:22) Stingray

@Cory - I'm often reminded of the scenes in Star Wars Episode 2: Attack of the Clones where the Jedi are flying through the city traffic and leaping around through the air as though it was nothing unusual. From the viewer's perspective, we're surprised at those activities, from the characters' perspective (which represents alignment with those abilities) it's a completely unsurprised groan of "I wish he would stop doing that" :)

(13 Feb '12, 14:32) Stingray

@Stingray You could also say that the newcomer experienced a feeling of "shock" in the sporting event, which in my mind, makes me think of a moment when confusion, the unexpected, and unfamiliarity begin to occur. Those are uncommon vibrations in most situations, which gets directly back to your point of being surprised and amazed. If we are feeling "uncommon" vibrations when good things occur, then we probably will not be manifesting these situations on a normal everyday routine basis.

(13 Feb '12, 14:37) Cory

@Stingray "I've had stuff manifest for me that has been so outrageous (in a good way) that people on IQ wouldn't believe me even if I told them what happened." If you ever decide you want to share a story or two, I would be more than happy to hear it. There may be some people here who may not believe what you have to say, but I've become so open minded lately that anything is fair game. Plus, positive things that have happened for other people are always very motivational for me.

(13 Feb '12, 16:06) Cory

@Cory - Don't worry, there will be one that will come out sooner or later - I'm just resigned to it :) There is one other point to bear in mind regarding these ideas that I've not mentioned yet. As soon as you consciously acknowledge a manifestation (especially to others), you've labelled it. And every label, sooner or later, becomes a limit :) That works in your favor when you are trying to come into alignment (noticing vibrational matches) but it can work against you eventually...

(13 Feb '12, 17:26) Stingray

@Cory - ...by making you think that's as good as it gets. All manifestations are ultimately personal judgements ( like with the story of the farmer ) so telling others can sometimes keep those labels/judgements alive when you would really prefer something more unlimited. There's no right or wrong really - I just find silence easier :)

(13 Feb '12, 17:35) Stingray

Stingray Im all voting with Cory here, not to pressure you or anything....But I'd REALLY LOVE to here about this seemingly 'unbelievebale' manifestations as well..... PLEEEEEASE?

(15 Feb '12, 09:28) Nikulas

I totally agree with what you're saying about telling people (something which I have been guilty of - only to my closest friends that I know believe in this stuff, but still, I feel it 'cheapens' the manifestation!). However I love hearing about more experienced manifestor's experiences, as it inspires me and gives me something to work towards, so if you ever decide to do tell, Stingray.. Well then I'm all ears :)

(15 Feb '12, 12:12) cassiopeia

When you get as big as life. You just sit back and smile no matter what happens to you. Until then you just wish and desire and try to turn your smallness into your greatness through words and talks.

(25 Jun '12, 10:56) CalonLan

I can relate to @cassiopeia saying the manifestation feels somehow "cheapened" if you tell people, though I'm not sure how I know that... On the flip side, other people's successes are sooo inspiring to hear about. I would not want to rob anyone of their joy, but I do so like the idea of hearing the play-by-play of how deeply desired manifestations come into being. Fun stuff.

(25 Jun '12, 14:38) Grace

@Stingray:recently I've manifested a few experiences that I just feel like telling someone about it. Does that mean that I am still not ready for similar manifestations (or the next step of this particular manifestation) and whether feeling this way would put me back? Not quite sure how to phrase this, maybe something like if I feel awesome about manifesting a particular experience I should try to find ways to feel more "neutral" about it?

(29 Apr '13, 07:44) kakaboo

@kakaboo - On the one hand, celebrating your "wins" from a place of prosperity lines you up for more wins but, on the other hand, celebrating them because you have a secret fear that this was just luck stops them coming...because you are giving more emphasis to that fear.

If you monitor your emotions carefully as you tell others, you should be able to sense when you might be drifting into a negative scarcity-type feeling. For me, I just find it easier to by-pass all that and keep quiet :)

(29 Apr '13, 08:20) Stingray

@kakaboo - There's no real right or wrong but I've long decided that it's more important to me to have a great life experience - and all the "unusual" things that happen as a result of that - than to convince others that I'm having a great life experience and then have to live up to the expectations of others :) There's a fascinating audio from Treb that illustrates how trying to live up to the expectations of others can get you "off track" : http://www.inwardquest.com/questions/76916#76973

(29 Apr '13, 08:25) Stingray

@Stingray - so can I say that by actually wanting to tell somebody about your own manifestations, you are actually wanting someone else to acknowledge the fact that they werent luck? Well the problem with keeping quiet is that I just seem to have this desire to want to tell someone about it, even though there isn't really anyone particular in mind I would like to tell. Maybe I should start my own diary lol

(29 Apr '13, 08:49) kakaboo

@kakaboo - Well, if you are desperate to tell someone, go ahead and do it and observe what happens within yourself. If you find their reaction makes you feel uncomfortable, you'll have learned something about yourself. And if you find that you still feel comfortable after telling others, you'll also have learned something about yourself :)

(03 May '13, 06:05) Stingray

"keep the good stuff coming" Stingray, i like it :)

(03 May '13, 06:29) ru bis
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There are two sides to this, one if it is for the glory of God then by all means testify to the glory and goodness of God's blessings. Let everyone know how good God is, let everyone know God answers prayers and that they should expect blessings as an everyday occurrence. This increases your faith and it makes the world a better place for others as they start seeing results as well.

The other side is if you help people and go around telling everyone YOU helped people then you lose your return from God because you opted for the lesser reward of praise from others about your deeds of compassion. In that case do not tell others about it but keep it between yourself and God only, you will be rewarded by God for your deeds of good will return a harvest to you from the one small seed you planted grows into a full fruit bearing tree.

So the question comes will this telling everyone be for a selfish reason like look what I have and you don't? Maybe that this telling others is to show them look what God did for me, he will do that for you too. If we want for our friends, relatives, neighbors and even our enemies what we want for ourselves then we are on the right path.


answered 13 Feb '12, 12:25

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That was a nice answer wade!

(13 Feb '12, 22:15) Tom

Thanks Tom. :-)

(14 Feb '12, 00:10) Wade Casaldi

I guess I take a middle-of-the-road approach to this...

If something wonderful happens out of the blue, it is very hard not to share it with someone...I think they call that "human nature".

I only tell Wade and maybe his Mom and Dad, and perhaps my daughter, Kim.

That's just about the end of the list.

I do not call it "bragging". Or "vanity". It's just...


Peace and Happiness,


P.S. I think celebrating when something goes right is nice, even if it is only yourself who celebrates. It makes for happiness...there is so little in the world sometimes...RIP Whitney... February, 2012


answered 13 Feb '12, 16:29

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edited 13 Feb '12, 16:30

I like something of everyone's answer. I kind of high five myself. Sometime I tell, Sometimes I don't. Something very nice just happened 2 min. ago. After hearing Stingray I just can't tell. It didn't spoil the joy either, I am smiling my A off. Blessings!!!


answered 13 Feb '12, 22:35

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I read what Stingray said and read all the links that supported his view. If he is doing well at manifesting, so could I. What one person can do, another can do. This whole manifesting thing is getting easier.

(13 Feb '12, 22:56) Tom

@Tom - Of course you can do it. There is nothing special about me except a willingness, perhaps a stubbornness, to try and test things for myself regardless of what anyone else tells me about what will work or not work.

(14 Feb '12, 04:26) Stingray

Stingray, that is an amazing answer! Excellent point. I just learned something and I like that very much! It seems the more you manifest, the easier and simpler it gets. Also it really seems like "no big deal" when something wonderful falls in your lap. Seems very natural.

Since gratitude is a large part of my life, I want to be grateful. Since "belief" is also a part of life, it helps others to see good things happen.

We know we must "believe it and then we see it", not "see it first and then believe it", we can raise our belief levels by being grateful for our joyful manifestations, all the while recognizing that the manifestations are a part of our connection and co-creation with Source. That is where the joy comes in, that connection!

When someone can do something that was hitherto thought impossible, it opens the door for others to do also. For thousands of years it was thought to be impossible to break the four minute mile, but once that was done, many other people have done it as well.


answered 15 Feb '12, 12:40

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Dollar Bill

good post , I don't know who told you that you couldn't share your joy, but that is called testimony if you went through something and came out OK, you see someone going through the same thing then you share. While sharing your {overcoming} you are acknowledging God and giving him his props/credit his due. That's a good look forever!!!!!!


answered 01 May '13, 12:56

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