Also,when you can't get over someone,and you really do try to do so,is it true that it's because the other side is also thinking about you?

asked 23 Mar '11, 23:50

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Can anyone tell me why this question is so incredibly popular ... it is often in the top three questions in the trending questions box and has had nearly 24,000 hits? Is this the most popular question ever on IQ?

(14 Nov '12, 10:58) Catherine

@Catherine - I noticed this to. Yes its the most most viewed question on IQ:)

(15 Nov '12, 06:27) Satori

@Catherine and @Satori, it's because millions of people out there are wishing they could "bring someone back into their lives"... we all wonder "what if" at some point!!

(15 Nov '12, 07:41) MoonWillow

@Satori and @Moonwillow Thank you.

(15 Nov '12, 09:14) Catherine

I can't help it - I am still intrigued why this question is so much more popular than say the one on lottery mathematics which seems to have dropped down the ranking since mid November. I'm encouraged by it though - I think it is a sign that we are all more interested in relationships than money. Now the "down the rabbit hole" (currently at 5 in MOST VIEWED) question - that does intrigue me ..

(18 Dec '12, 04:38) Catherine

@Catherine, - love. That's why the interest.

(18 Dec '12, 05:24) CalonLan

@Calonlan - You're right.

(18 Dec '12, 07:38) Catherine

@Catherine - Isn't it really just about where the question ranks in the internet search engines? I'm sure there are plenty of people in the world who are searching for information on beating the lottery through mathematics but there are probably also many other websites around that provide that information, so the internet traffic is spread more thinly. I'm guessing that there are not many other websites (in the eyes of the search engines) providing good information about dreams of other people.

(18 Dec '12, 07:45) Stingray

@Stingray Thank you Stingray - I hadn't thought of that.

(18 Dec '12, 08:01) Catherine

In November the Powerball grew to over a half billion dollars. I think anytime either the the Mega Million or Powerball surpasses a hundred million, interest grows & when it does, more people will click on those links. BTW, I'm in a area with both - anyone need a ticket?

Perhaps some users (silent or otherwise) use this question as a direct link to IQ.

(04 Jan '13, 01:40) ele

@Moonwillow I apologise - I hadn't actually read the body of the question (only the headline question) when I posed the original comment on this thread. Yes, of course I can see what you mean now - I was only really meaning why a question about dreaming is so much more popular than one on wealth but Stingray and now Ele have come up with solid reasons as to why that might be.

(19 Mar '13, 10:31) Catherine

@Catherine sure we are all more interested in relations than money, relations bring joy and love, money is just energy, a symbol of exchange.

(19 Mar '13, 11:35) ru bis

@ru bis Agreed 100% ru bis - my original idle questioning was why this question in particular - there are tons of other questions that are more overtly about relationships so why has one about dreaming got so many more - thousands more - hits. For me, Stingray's answer seems the more logical - Ele's answer is also intriguing. All I'm saying is that I can understand Moonwillow's comment now that I have read the original question rather than just reading the headline. I'm confessing - LOL.

(19 Mar '13, 12:36) Catherine

@catherine I believe it is because many people project certain things into their dreams, the most often are connections with people who have passed, and also people having sexual encounters with ones they would often not think of that way, or they do, and wished the other did with them, these are the most common reasons people ask me or TReb about this. so the 2 largest driving forces in many peoples lives, death and sex, are STRONG motivators. This is why i think it is so popular of a question.

(11 Apr '13, 15:43) TReb Bor yit-NE
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It truly depends on the dream and the context. But I find it usually means you're supposed to get in touch with them or are about to shortly!

As far as getting over someone and finding yourself not being able to, it could be that you haven't resolved all of your issues you're supposed to work out with that person.

Hope this helped :) namaste


answered 25 Mar '11, 14:18

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Daniele-my personal experiences confirm your point of view.

(28 Mar '11, 08:30) Zee

I still am yet to get in touch with Victoria Beckham.

(22 Apr '11, 16:14) Back2Basics

I hope the "about to meet them" thing is true, because according to that, me and one girl I really like are about to kiss, and another I secretly admire is finally gonna meet me! :D

(05 Nov '12, 22:50) ExistentiaLux

Yes i agree

(11 Nov '12, 15:01) TReb Bor yit-NE
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When you dream of someone else it is one of two things, either they think of you and you are attracted to the call (or vise versa) in spirit form OR it is because you are trying to help them or be helped by them from a dream state in spirit form, all dreams are actually your spirit leaving the body and entering this spirit ream or leaves your body into the real world to observe other thing as a spirit,

love n light,



answered 22 Apr '11, 19:18

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I hope this is what happened in a dream I had the other night about a man who flirts with me like a fool. I've tried to ignore this cause it's harmless and he's just needy; it's just not my thing. Recently I have been responding to this by teasing him about it {he's quite the teaser himself}. Then I had a disturbing dream with him in it and I forgot the details, but the vibe was def like a feeling of completion, next meetting will be interesting :).

(14 Nov '12, 09:05) clearheart

I had a rendezvous with this person, not only were we on a new level, a few other things happened around us that I had been wondering about. I love learning how to attract what I want and allow the answers to pop up easily.

(15 Nov '12, 09:15) clearheart

@cleatheart... i am sure it was, i am almost positive it was that experience,.. just remember that when we loose people, we never loose them, we just must experience them in a different way. and this brings me easier time. LOVE

(18 Dec '12, 08:25) TReb Bor yit-NE

A friend of mine who has crossed over called me the other night,it was so great just to hear him laugh.A very comforting dream.

(19 Dec '12, 21:28) Roy

@Roy Don't you just love, love when that happens!

@Treb - great answer!

(04 Jan '13, 01:42) ele

@ele thank u. @roy thank u for sharing this, i enjoyed our interactions .

(15 Jan '13, 12:45) TReb Bor yit-NE

do you guys really beleive all this ####?? i really need a n answer!!!!...some people type utter ######## and they r upvode and people seem to agree with them....and the interesting thing is they say it,as if there is nothing odd with their comments!!

(04 Jul '13, 15:01) ledzepp

@ledzepp Since I upvoted this & commented - I'll answer your question. The answer is YES & there is nothing odd about dreaming of loved ones who have passed. Your comments made me laugh -- especially when I look at your user name. Hopefully your days are going better now. It's been proven by science, listening to fav music changes (raises) your vibration -- I'll leave you with my fav Zeppelin song - enjoy.

(01 Aug '13, 01:34) ele
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IHMO, Dreams are stories that you tell to yourself. Stories that a "part of you" tells to "another part of you". So, to me, you're are the only script writer and you are the only audience of those shows.

I don't think that you have to seek other source or responsibilities about themes, actors and actions. You are the one who've imagined them. And Dreams are precious gifts that you give to yourself.


answered 25 Mar '11, 12:36

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agree. dreams are our stories we tell ourselves.

i believe your interpretation of the dream can also tell a lot about your stories deep meaning as well.

(18 Apr '13, 13:24) ZenMama

Yes for me sometimes when people think about me I will dream of it! One time I had dream about someone I did not see or hear about for many years. I woke up and 1 minute after the phone ring and the person was at the other end! So yes dream is the spirit that travel while the body rest and there is lots of different dreams. Dreams are not always creation of the mind!Another time I had dream about people ( a guy and girl,that i add meet only once and helped them get over their conflict) that add split up and the next week I was told exactly that!


answered 22 Apr '11, 09:17

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Have you ever had a crush on somebody who didn't even "know you exist"? They weren't thinking about you while you were obsessing, dreaming, thinking about them. So, I would have to say no. If you are having obsessive thoughts, I would suggest using EFT or FasterEFT at to eliminate obsessive thoughts, negative emotions, fears and phobias, etc...


answered 25 Mar '11, 14:58

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(22 Apr '11, 16:13) Back2Basics

On the other hand there are times that dreams do mean something, but not in this context.

(22 Apr '11, 16:50) Fairy Princess

One of the purposes of dreaming is to (in computer terms) 'clean up' disk space on your hard drive. You got clean house once in a while and this person is in your hard drive..


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(22 Apr '11, 16:14) Back2Basics

I like this.

(14 Nov '12, 09:07) clearheart

In my experience I hve to say no and no.

I once had a dream of Victoria Beckham and I am 99.9% sure she was not thinking of me or knows I exist.

I had a hard time getting over someone and found out later she had been dating someone else for a long time than I even knew, so it was doubtful she was thinking of me.

Although what you may be going through is very hard, you can learn so much from this experience and how a lot of our experience is really only ourselves. Now to what extent there is divine "interference", I am still trying to figure that out.


answered 22 Apr '11, 16:12

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Do you think VB might google her own name occasionally? she might end up on your question B2B!

(06 Aug '12, 18:34) Catherine

Well, if the dream was about the two of you together or meeting, then maybe it was a vision of what might happen if she did meet/know you.

(07 Nov '12, 11:12) ExistentiaLux

I wouldn't say it's doubtful. People often 'blame' their significant others for faults they experienced in past ones, or similarly appreciate their new partner for not having the same faults. As a result, you'll end up in the mind of an ex more often than you would expect (even only in your character if not your identity) as they compare their new relationships to their old.

Silly little things about a new partner will make you miss the old, even in small ways. Just a part of relationships. =)

(09 May '13, 20:36) Snow
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There are also cases where you have a strong connection to someone either in current life and possible past life. Or in current life because of a past life. Either way you can seek each other out in dream world, or astral projection. Its not always this, but this does happen sometimes. Some people also dream of people right before they end up seeing each other again. That happens to me a lot. For example dreaming of someone I haven't seen in many years, and a few days later they pop up out of the blue.


answered 04 Nov '12, 01:15

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Dreams let me know how I'm doing. I have had repeat dreams for years, then one nite I'll have the same dream with the same props but a much healthier vibe to it. Like I have shifted and the dream is showing me that. I have done this with several old dreams that I no longer dream.


answered 14 Nov '12, 09:10

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Hello Demeter

Dreams have symbolic meanings and are closely linked with direct messages that come to us during our waking hours in the form of synchronous events, feelings and intuitions. It is the interpretation of these messages that gives us insight into our emotional and belief systems. Dreams are subjective and the only person who can correctly interpret them is the person who dreamed them, that is oneself ... as an example, you are driving along thinking about a new project and suddenly you notice that all the traffic lights turn green, meaning "all systems go", the new project should work out fine ... have fun


answered 20 Dec '12, 04:28

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I, too, feel like dreams have meaning. I believe it is our souls leaving our body and creating other universes! I know in the Bible it says that God is omnipresent, well, if he created us beings, then we, too, can be that way! I have been into reading the Conversations with God books which really opened my mind to more the Spiritual aspect of life. I think we put too little emphasis on our Spiritual and etheral bodies/souls. We put too much emphasis on the physical and our possessions. Many years ago, people were much more about dream interpretation and meaning. Why would we have been given this gift every night of dreaming? We are actually more free while dreaming than we are in the physical body in the sense we can go anywhere we can think or create! We can talk to people of times past and experience so much more within mere seconds! This is exciting. I have enjoyed reading all the answers and hope mine has helped someone, too! I have had dreams of an old classmate many times in a row. Years ago, when I still had good communication with him, I drempt of him 3 times in a row. The third day, I saw him. I always dream of him in a school setting, maybe because that's mostly where we hung out together! But I think we all dream of each other, because our souls are literally together, not just as in a dream, but physically real. Hence why so many dreams feel so real. I know this question was posted some time ago, but I thought I'd give my two cents of knowledge! We all have our interpretation and that's what makes us each unique and have something to offer each other!! Lots of love to you on your journey for answers, angelgirl1982


answered 09 May '13, 14:10

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Welcome to IQ, angel. =) Glad to have you.

Love the answer, and don't worry, it is definitely appreciated. Thanks for sharing. Look forward to seeing more posts from you.

(09 May '13, 20:28) Snow

Thanks for replying! Glad to know it's appreciated and you're welcome! I will definitely be posting more! Glad I joined this site! I will look for posts you have written, too! Thanks again for the warm welcome, very appreciated!! :)

(09 May '13, 21:06) angelgirl1982

GREAT JOB !! love the answer.

(11 May '13, 12:30) TReb Bor yit-NE

Thanks, glad you love it! Dreaming and interpretation is a big passion for me!! So glad so many people are getting into dreams! I really feel dreams are key for us to get better as a society in our waking world and can help bring us the peace and love we so seek!

(11 May '13, 18:32) angelgirl1982
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I don't know wether to say its a dream or what to me. when I wake up in the middle of the night and l can't fall asleep because my mind is all of the sudden wondering about someone I used to know. Or a family member whom I met once, even a primary school classmate. Usually its a bad sign. Every time I wonder where you went it means that person has died. It has happened more than five times and now its scares me if I find myself wondering where one went. Its scary coz whenever I call someone whom l know to be close or related they always say "this person died last week we just buried them two days ago". Even if I don't call I make sure l ask when l meet them and the response is always the same. That scares me which l don't really know if it falls under dreams or what exactly.


answered 09 Apr '13, 09:51

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Thanks for sharing

(09 Apr '13, 11:29) ursixx

It's not uncommon for people with particularly 'deep' connections with others to feel it when they pass on. It's not a bad thing nor should you be scared of it, it simply means you have a very open and receptive heart, and you truly feel it when a bond that matters to you changes dramatically.

Welcome to IQ. =) Thanks for sharing.

(09 May '13, 20:31) Snow

If you have a dream about someone, it means you are thinking of that person. Dreams are simply your own mind putting your inner most thoughts together. If you think about someone a lot, you'll probably dream of that person too. If that person has dreams about you, then THAT would mean they are thinking about you.


answered 04 Jan '13, 19:04

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short answer no, you don't necessarily need to be thought about to be dreamed about, just think how often people have dreams of celebritys. I'm an avid dreamer and lucid dreamer as well. I believe most emotionally charged dreams are a tool for your sub conscious mind to play through a series of events that perhaps it is unable to do in waking life or is preparing for a real life event.


answered 11 Jan '13, 20:59

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Maybe dreams are a message to ourselves? It was strange that I picked a card after a meditation - Call your friend card. That night, I dreamt of a college friend I hardly contact. I decided to just drop her a text and said Hi How are you. She is fine. I guess I have constantly felt bad not keeping in touch or meeting up. So it is kinda message for me. Subsequently for this whole week, I spoke on the phone with my good friends (instead of just texting) because needed me. And a few other friends whom I hardly contacted dropped me How are you text and offered me freelance assignments? Maybe dreaming is a way we reflect upon ourselves? :)


answered 16 Jan '13, 22:42

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I had dreamed of the person I like, no, I love him. Until now. He's my first love. But we didn't get into each other because he's committed. We're bestfriend, he want me back, but I refused, so I take the initiative to go away so I couldn't love him even more. The point is, I recently dreamed of him and his girlfriend. What is the meaning of that?


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(16 Apr '13, 21:41) ele

I tend to think that if you dream about someone, especially more than once, they are trying to get in contact with you. If you cannot normally talk to the subject you are dreaming of in person, they tell you things about themselves in the spirit world. I fully believe in astral projection, our minds are a very powerful tool that guides us each and every day.


answered 16 Aug '13, 04:27

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I myself have had someone who I have been crushed that I had let go!!! She was everything and more to me ! we had the best relationship, but I ended it because it became a long distant relationship.
No problems just the time apart became to much to bare on my end.On to the 1st long distant relationship I had it was ****, the young lady was claiming to be so faithful but I found out other wise.
I have never viewed it like when I think of a person that maybe they are thinking of me too. That is a really good view point! I hope that is the point because I would like the young lady that I spoke about in lines 1 and 2 to be thinking of me too, to the point that we find one another. Great question, thanks for sharing.


answered 15 Feb '13, 16:26

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I think there is a difference between (a) a dream which one dreams, almost prior to waking up; and (b) an out of body experience, which is not a dream at all.

In a dream, one is 'getting even' with his or her own insecurities, so as to create the balance required in ourselves. Thus, certain fears arise in our dreams and according to how we behave in the dream, the reflection of our state of being in relation to those fears can be seen. In such cases the dreams are actually telling you more about yourself and if you remember them, it means that you would like to actively work on them in your 'waking' state.

The out of body experience may feel like a dream and this is where encounters take place. In my opinion, it is here where we meet others in spirit for specific purposes (learning, closure, experience, etc).


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