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We make decisions with the information at the time. Is it okay to have regrets?

asked 18 Feb '10, 18:24

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I like your question,it helped me see a part of myself I've been avoiding.Thanks

(20 Feb '10, 06:05) Roy
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It is better to have tried something, and made mistakes along the way, than it is to have not tried at all.

Hopefully, when I get to the end of my life, there won't be any I wish I hads.

I try not to worry about "When I was younger, I wish I had..." That kind of thinking just keeps me out of the present moment.

However, if I did have a "Wish I had," it would have been to have known a little more about myself when I was younger. To have not worried so much about things that, in the end, did not really matter. To have been a little less afraid, and more willing to try things out; more willing to make mistakes, and learn from them.


answered 18 Feb '10, 18:49

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edited 18 Feb '10, 22:05

So you have no I wish I hads, or you just don't worry about them. Does "I wish I had..." mean it is a regret or simply a note-to-self to do something different next time an opportunity arises...

(18 Feb '10, 21:49) TheSevenMan

Alright, I'll bite. See my edit.

(18 Feb '10, 22:06) Vesuvius

At least your willing 'Now' and that's really all that matters:-)

(19 Feb '10, 00:20) Michaela

I'll give you that!

(19 Feb '10, 21:57) TheSevenMan
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Regrets are a bit meaningless in the world we live in where we can create what we want, when we want.

Why would you regret not having done something or doing something differently as there is always the possibility to change things and manifest the reality you want at any given time.


answered 18 Feb '10, 19:57

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I wish I had taken more risks.


answered 19 Feb '10, 20:32

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Don't we all! :)

(19 Feb '10, 21:59) TheSevenMan

It's never too late :)

(20 Feb '10, 05:16) Roy

I wish I had acted brave like John Wayne when I was wounded in Vietnam instead of crying like a baby for my mother.


answered 20 Feb '10, 04:04

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Nothing wrong with crying, Its good for the Soul.

(20 Feb '10, 05:18) Roy

Shute - I cried when someone bumped into my car. And I froze in fear once when I was climbing up a cliff face.. I thought of my mum too and that I would never see her again. God bless the protectors of the world! Soldiers and mothers.

(20 Feb '10, 06:25) Inactive User ♦♦

As you mentioned, Seven-Man, we act or think with the enlightenment we have at the time. We can always improve things. Regret, although probably most of us indulge in it once in awhile, is just a waste of time and emotion.


answered 18 Feb '10, 20:14

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Is regret therefore a normal emotion?

(18 Feb '10, 20:18) TheSevenMan

@TheSevenMan: There are no abnormal emotions, but some emotions can be more useful than others. People who are racked with guilt over things they do not control have normal emotions too, but I submit that these emotions do not serve them well.

(18 Feb '10, 21:01) Vesuvius

I think the older we get the more we realize that regrets are a waste of energy. I'll turn it around and say I wish I hadn't wasted so much time and energy holding on to things from the past - to keep those past,regretful incidents alive in our being requires a vital amount of our life force that we could be utilizing in our present - let them go, regrets are debilitating and do not empower us.


answered 19 Feb '10, 00:21

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I wish, I had completed my University Degree, but I can now encourage others who are facing that same challenge to problem solve, and to find a way to make it work for them. I have also, made other discoveries about my self based my regrets, and I have learned to take the Bull by the horn, and run with it, because you may not get a second chance at it!


answered 19 Feb '10, 00:34

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You may think this is silly.

My senior year of high school, I dropped Choir to take College Chemistry and College Biology. It was because I was planning to be a doctor- but more honestly, I did for the status.

As it turned out, I was blocked out of Northwestern by my parents, I ended up at a po-dunk Midwestern College, majored in drinking and drugging, and dropped out after eighteen months. The only thing I did well was sing, and I sang my heart out at that po-dunk college and enjoyed the heck out of it. It has taken years to realize that music must be part of my life in some way or other, or I am not complete.

Luckily, this is really my only big regret. I should add the caveat that taking the Chemistry did mean I never had to take a Chem class again...nor Calculus-thank God. (I am finishing my degree this year- hoorah!)

As regrets go, I guess I am very lucky, for this is my only real regret. Despite my failing marriage, which was inevitable, this seems to be the only thing that still bothers me. I missed out on Madrigals...."sigh".

Yes, it is okay to have regrets. How else do we learn about ourselves and what really matters???

Blessings and a Wink, Jai


answered 19 Feb '10, 02:49

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Not silly at all. You've taken some valuable lessons from your experiences and are wiser for it.

(19 Feb '10, 05:08) TheSevenMan

I wish I had.. talked to the one dead person I saw. I have see one 'ghost' but I was so shocked I didn't think to talk to him, I just prayed like crazy that he would go away. The rest of my visitations of those that passed over occur in the lucid dream state.

I wish I had the ability to communicate with people who have passed on. A joyous ability which would give hope to the hopeless.

I am a great fan of John Edwards and Liza Williams.. and it is a joy to see the change in people when a little message from someone they thought they had lost forever comes through.

I know death is just a change and it is a great comfort to me, a comfort that I would love to share with others.


answered 19 Feb '10, 04:11

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Lorraine, can you tell me the difference between a Ghost and a Spirit? You know we all possess these Unique Abilities.Was it someone you knew? Just curious. Love and Light

(20 Feb '10, 05:25) Roy

No-one I knew and dressed in current casual gear. V-neck T-Shirt with a collar. Ghosts (for me) are the etheric or astal body of the physical body that has died. Soul is a much more refined and is aenergised (?) by the Spirit of God. I think of devas, angels etc as spirits because they never descended to the physical level, the seventh plane of being. I super simplified that answer, you could fill a libraty with the details..but a good Roscicrucean book would give you a few useful diagrams to follow. Max Heindel's is good.

(20 Feb '10, 06:19) Inactive User ♦♦

My only true regret is my Awakening. It is the only moment in my Life that I really truly wish that I could have back to Re-Live.

My True Awakening to Spirit was a flash of memory.Something I knew I had all ready Experienced. It was like your worse nightmare in Living Color right in front of you, before it happens and you can't alter a second of "IT".

All I can say is that I Am So Sorry that those three seconds ever took place is this LIFE Experience.

I know This Life is a True Wonder and We Can All only do our best.

Love and Light


answered 20 Feb '10, 05:55

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edited 20 Feb '10, 06:00

No, absolutely NO regrets.

All of my experiences result in either appreciation or lessons learned which in turn leads to appreciation.

It's all good!

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answered 28 May '11, 17:43

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turn your i wish i had to: it would be nice that this happen for this person! as for regret there is none to have if you made the right choice!


answered 28 May '11, 16:42

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