Fear seems to be the root of all 'evil'. Every time I examine a situation that I perceive to be negative, unpleasant, illness, etc... it all seems to comes down to a fear of something. So is fear the root of all suffering? And would conquering all fear be the key to 'heaven' an end to suffering?
I will explain a little more for clarification. I don't mean just phobias, but even little twinges of fear. The fear or shyness that keeps one from making new friends. Specifically at work, I had a couple instances where something happened, I cleared the feelings about the situation and the people involved, but didn't address the fear of what might happen in the future. The next day, I got sick, both times. So it wasn't anger, or the other emotions I cleared around the situation, but fear for the future.
asked 20 Mar '12, 13:36
I would not necessarily say that fear is the cause of all suffering just like I wouldn't say that money is the root of all evil.
It's the energy that we put behind these words that give them power. Actually it is the Belief of fear that causes so much pain and not the fear itself. That's why the saying goes "the only thing to fear is fear itself" The point being that if you decide to put your power and energy into this illusion of fear, then you will very well manifest the belief that it exists inside of you.
We humans love to attach labels to things because it gives us a reason to look outside of ourselves and blame him or her or them, but it really only comes down to us and our core inner beliefs. We are an individual walking, talking universe in itself and we choose what beliefs and emotions we want to experience.
Fear is not the cause of all suffering. Our belief in an old and outdated way of thinking and feeling is the cause of our own personal suffering.
If there is anything to conquer it would be our negative habitual thought patterns. One you conquer those, the word "fear" will have no meaning whatsoever in your reality.
If there is any word we should be focusing on, I would choose the word Love.
answered 20 Mar '12, 14:29
I don't mean the word fear, I mean the feeling fear.
(20 Mar '12, 18:41) Fairy Princess
@Fairy Princess Yes, I meant the feeling of fear as well with my answer. For example, "The point being that if you decide to put your power and energy into this illusion of fear, then you will very well manifest the belief that it exists inside of you." When I said to manifest the belief that exists inside of you, that also coincides with the feeling inside of you.
(20 Mar '12, 19:38) Cory
We don't choose to feel fear. It something we must conscientiously eliminate. It is already there causing disease, pain, suffering. We learn it as infants from our parents and continue learning it until we become aware of it and cast it out.
(20 Mar '12, 20:04) Fairy Princess
@Fairy Princess It is my belief that we individually choose fear. We may even choose to come into a life of fear before we are born. The point is to work through it and as you said in your last comment, to become aware of it and decide if we want to believe in it or not. I use to have a fear of death but now the emotion with that thought is a lot less intense the more I learn about myself and my existence. We all have a choice of how we feel. The choice of how we feel is what creates our lives.
(20 Mar '12, 20:28) Cory
You said that you used to have a fear of death. Then you did something to release or cast out or eliminate that fear. I don't believe that you conscientiously wanted to hold on to that fear. When you realized the fear then you did something, even if it was years later. I am sure eliminating that fear has changed your life. That is what I am saying.
(21 Mar '12, 08:52) Fairy Princess
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This question was answered for me by the book Love is Letting Go of Fear.
It explores the concept that everything can be distilled down to people acting out of love or fear. And that once you start to view life with these two polar opposites in mind, a lot of things that were once hard to explain are now easily understood. I highly recommend it in your search!
answered 21 Mar '12, 02:53
Thank you withcurrent. I will look into that book. It sounds like exactly what I am talking about.
(21 Mar '12, 08:53) Fairy Princess
This might sound a bit strange at first, but fear can be your friend and source of a great joy. That is if your way of understanding fear is such. Fear lets you know there's something that you can have fun with. Our ego fears the fears it has created. Silly you, ego! It allow itself to be chained by its own creations. If you can observe your ego as a stranger, someone else, you do the thing your ego fears and laugh from the bottom of your heart about it.
Whoever did the thing that they were scared of knows this truth.
Try to do one thing that you are afraid of every day. The kind of excitement and joy that you experience after you're through with it is indescribable. It must be simply experienced.
Fear is in a way defining borders of your ego's comfort zone. And by doing what you fear, you step over them and expand. You grow and experience.
I can tell it's an awesome feeling and your smile never fades from your face as if you were high 24/7. People sometimes ask me, if I'm high on weed. 99.9% of the year I'm just high on life.
answered 21 Mar '12, 06:38
It sounds like you are talking about phobias, not just fear. I mean even little fears.
(21 Mar '12, 08:55) Fairy Princess
i agree with you calonlan fear should be use by you to learn more truth to stop your self from having fear. fear is just another stone and need to be dropped in is proper place.
(21 Mar '12, 11:17) white tiger
@Fairy Princess fears of phobias, they all stem from the reason of the same nature. Thus there is no fundamental difference, we only make them seemingly differ from each other on the surface as we categorize them differently. You approach the fundamental reason not the category which appears on the surface.
(22 Mar '12, 06:07) CalonLan
Yes, phobias are fears, but they are paralyzing fears. They keep people from leaving their homes, or going upstairs or off elevators, etc... On the other end, there are twinges of fear that we might not even notice consciously, but still affect our fight or flight response changing our physiology.
(22 Mar '12, 09:04) Fairy Princess
Also there are better ways to eliminate fears than by doing something your afraid of every day.
(22 Mar '12, 09:05) Fairy Princess
@Fairy Princess indeed there are. You can disassemble any fear by simply understanding it. Fears come from our believes. Our believes come from our definitions of things we know. Sometimes we do not even define things consciously. But accept these definitions subconsciously from our environment.
(22 Mar '12, 09:26) CalonLan
Say for example - fear of death. Is death to be afraid of? NO! It is our definition of death that scares us. "You do this and you when you die you will go to hell, and you should fear the hell..." Someone made up a terribly effective way to control people through this definition in early days. Death is what you make of it. Regardless of thousands ways of looking at it, it is the one you CHOOSE to believe that will be determinant whether you will FEAR it or welcome it with a smile when it comes.
(22 Mar '12, 09:32) CalonLan
for death just by itself, is just another experience.
(22 Mar '12, 09:34) CalonLan
@CalonLan that is my point, it is the fear that causes suffering.
(22 Mar '12, 22:42) Fairy Princess
@Fairy Princess, not the fear itself. Your definition of fear is. Fear itself is just another thought. Your definition of it is most probably of a negative nature.
(23 Mar '12, 03:44) CalonLan
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Relate everything to Love and God will be there. More Love is the answer, and if there is anything to blame, it's a lack of Love somewhere along the line. Thank You
answered 20 Mar '12, 19:02
Yes, I agree in that the opposite of fear is love, and God is love.
(20 Mar '12, 19:07) Fairy Princess
fear comes from your ignorance. because you fear you hate. and from your ego point of view you see it has outside cause. but when you will look inside your self you will know that the ignorance is you and you create those fear from your free will. so do not do what you hate or you become darkness. because this hate and judgement will destroy you. let those stone serve you once you will have solve all duality with that stone then you will drop it in its proper place. why you will drop it because it as nothing more to offer you. the more stone you drop the more your yoke will be easy.
Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. http://bible.cc/matthew/11-29.htm
For my yoke is easy and my burden is light."
This is love for God: to obey his commands. And his commands are not burdensome, http://bible.cc/1_john/5-3.htm
When Jesus spoke again to the people, he said, "I am the light of the world. Whoever follows me will never walk in darkness, but will have the light of life."
be the light that you can be. experience and enjoy.
answered 20 Mar '12, 15:02
white tiger, we may choose it but the free will is over-ridden by faulty or incomplete yet overpowering sensations (feelings). with the development of greater control of them by sharring decision making with intuition and love, fear may dissipate, decisions less cloudy and more pure to our destiny
(20 Mar '12, 21:25) fred
who as the free will of those though and emotion fred? is it not you.who is the faulty ,incomplete ,ignorant that seek to better him self, control by ego that seek to prove his own rightenous? is it not said to use your free will wisely? then who can you blame? i hope you can come to the realization of this then you can make better decisions less cloudy and more pure to your destiny. and will be the light that you can be. experience and enjoy.
(20 Mar '12, 21:56) white tiger
white tiger, have you learned to tame the serpent power. was it at your control from birth or was it a process of recognizing that you are more than your body, your feelings, your thoughts
(22 Mar '12, 22:03) fred
fred by serpent power i guess you are talking about kundalini. that is a very good question. i have never bother to try kundalini. i went directely to wall gazing (solving duality)dhyana samadhi God. but kundalini is energy that you make go up from muladhara or come down from sahasrara. like a tingling sensation. i guess it was always there i remember as a child enjoying moving that sensation up and down. but why that question fred?
(23 Mar '12, 03:35) white tiger
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Hi Fairy Princess, The name of your fear is anxiety. Anxiety can be caused by fear or fear can be caused by anxiety it makes no differance. If you deal with the anxiety the fear will leave or if you deal with the fear the anxiety will leave.
Somewhere along the line it is lack of self confidance and lack of self-love that is causing this. Make a conscious decision or choice in life that no matter what fear you feel you will be corageous enough to live life to the full and interact with people. Courage means taking action in spite of fear. If you do this a few times it will get easier and easier and you will be happier. Good luck.
answered 23 Mar '12, 03:58
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