So here is the deal. We were friends for like a year and then I moved to the other side of the country. I also had some emotional problems so long story short we haven't seen each other for more than 3 years now.

At first we were communicating on a regular basis (as friends) but then we just stopped (we didn't got in a fight or something like that). Some time later I realized I love her but because of my emotional problems at that time and because I found out she has a boyfriend I didn't tell her (maybe because I usually lose these "love" feelings after a month or two)

So now it got to the point I need to decide what I want to do with my life (I'm 19) and I'd really like to move and start a career in different country but she is the only thing that's keeping me here (because you CAN attract a specific person).

I know that I "don't want" her but the feelings which I think I would have if I would be with her and that these feelings I can get with another girl too I just can't seem to forget her and move on. So what should I do?

I hope you guys know what I'm trying to say. (I've never been able to express my thoughts clearly lol)

asked 30 Sep '12, 07:44

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edited 02 Oct '12, 20:51

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timmyy, over time you'll have fewer thoughts of her as thoughts of others gradually replace those of her

(01 Oct '12, 05:16) fred

It's not that easy. When I think I finally forget her then suddenly I dream about her. I guess even if I consciously dont think about her I do it unconsciously..

(01 Oct '12, 06:40) timmyy
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go get another one that one is all ready taken. and if she would have really want to be with you she would be with you right now, see it that way she made her choice what are you waiting for to make your choices? will you spent your life waiting for her? go and experience life and enjoy it.has for your feeling you will always love her,has you love your parent and friend and your pet that will not change. so let there be light,be the light that you can be,experience and enjoy.


answered 01 Oct '12, 07:44

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white tiger

I found these 7 points quite useful recently, especially the ones in bold, which make sense in the context of this community:

  1. Call your old friends up and ask what they are doing so you could hang out and do guy things.
  2. Start a hobby and get really good at it.
  3. Take down all her pictures and anything that reminds you of her
  4. Move your furniture around, buy fresh new bedding and paint a wall a new colour to reclaim your space as your space
  5. Round up all the Ex's belongings in your home and put them somewhere in a bag/box. Just keep them out of sight.
  6. Don't worry about getting it to her, you'll only make it an excuse to see her otherwise,
  7. It might seem impossible at first, but try flirting with other girls, even if you don't like them. Eventually you'll find one you like. (or realise the one you didn't like is in fact great!)

  8. Work out, it may help the pain go away.

From here.


answered 01 Oct '12, 08:15

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