I always have had trouble with truly feeling forgiven.

I think it stems from my youth, when my errors were constantly brought up and rehashed ad naseum. But no matter why, I would dearly love to learn the trick of self-forgiveness. Any help would be appreciated.

Blessings, Jai

P.S. Please try not to edit my tags. I think that they are good ones.

asked 28 Jun '10, 03:10

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I empathize with you Jai because I, too, have found self forgiveness one of the hardest things to do. I do know that until you can really forgive yourself it is hard to move on.

I found it much easier to forgive others and even though I had not committed any horrendous crime, forgiveness for myself did not come easy. It was easy to forgive those adults who I thought had wronged me when I realized that they were doing the best they could with what they knew. I used this same premise when looking to forgive myself because I realized those past mistakes came from past conditioning and until I could shine a light on this conditioning or bring it into my current state of awareness, then I really couldn't have done any differently in the circumstances.

We can only ever act from our current state of awareness and our actions will always reflect where that state of awareness is at. The more we learn and grow on this journey, the more aware we become.

I have found it helpful to look at those past mistakes and realize that I wouldn't be where I am today without them. Accept them for what they are - learning tools on your journey, look at what they taught you and then let them go.

If it helps, ask God or your Higher Self for forgiveness although you really don't have to ask, you're already forgiven - just affirm so, for however long it takes for you to accept it. No matter what has happened know that you're a beautiful person deserving of Love and forgiveness.


answered 28 Jun '10, 13:19

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As usual, a great answer, Michaela! Thanks so much! Many blessings, Jai

(29 Jun '10, 00:09) Jaianniah

You're very welcome Jai :-)

(29 Jun '10, 14:14) Michaela

I posted a bad question last night, when I was really hurt, and remembered your answer to my question about self-forgiveness...thanks once more for such a wise piece of writing!>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

(24 Aug '11, 12:38) Jaianniah

There's no such thing as a bad question Jai... we all make mistakes - it's called being human :)

(24 Aug '11, 18:53) Michaela
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You've mentioned a few times on this site about your beautiful experience with an angel. I can't remember the exact details of the experience you mentioned but I'm sure you would have noticed from it that there was no judgement involved with such a genuine non-physical encounter. It would have been an experience of pure love and acceptance.

In fact, you will find this to be true of all genuine non-physical interactions...

Non-physical never judges

Why is this important?

It's important because...

You cannot be forgiven if you haven't been judged

So, if non-physical doesn't judge and so doesn't want your forgiveness, then who does want it?

The only judges that can ever exist are actually yourself, or other people - either directly, or through their convincing of you that you have transgressed some man-made rule or law.

So, ask yourself now, who's opinion do you value more in your life? ...the opinion of moody and inconsistent humans (perhaps even including yourself), who often exist in disconnected states like fear, depression, and hatred, or the opinion of divine consciousness which always pours forth stability, pure love, understanding and acceptance?

I don't think you would be reading this website over any extended period of time if you didn't consider the "opinion" of divine consciousness to be more important.

So why allow the divinity within yourself to be condemned by man-made rules?

Perhaps it's time for you to be a little kinder to yourself and allow yourself to be guided by a higher power than the petty, arbitrary and inconsistent rules of man to which you may have given undue importance in your life up to now?

One final thought...people often think that forgiving and asking forgiveness is about being kind to other people.

But the true spiritual meaning of forgiving and asking forgiveness is actually to be kind to yourself.

Something to think about, maybe?


answered 28 Jun '10, 13:21

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You make a very valid point when you say " you cannot be forgiven if you haven't been judged" - perfectly true from a Divine perspective. However, from our human perspective we do sometimes judge ourselves and this is why 'forgiveness' or 'letting go' ( which are really the same thing) play an important role. Sometimes we need to 'forgive' or 'let go' to be able to reach that point where we can see things from that Divine Perspective. Isn't the 'Focus Blocks' process a way of 'letting go' and perceiving things from a higher perspective ? Possibly a 'forgiveness' process?

(29 Jun '10, 14:25) Michaela

@Michaela - Even though I am tempted to write Use Focus Blocks! for many answers, I do manage to restrain myself a bit to avoid boring everyone on the website to tears :) But, yes, you are quite right. Focus Blocks would work well for something like this, among other things. Ultimately, every issue we have as humans comes down, in my view, to a limiting belief somewhere. Believing you need forgiveness is a limiting belief and Focus Blocks/Wheels are the best limiting belief eliminators I know. Thanks for mentioning it

(29 Jun '10, 17:20) Stingray

thank you yet again stingray , your answer is very helpful

(14 Jan '11, 11:11) blubird two
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Ho'oponopono comes to mind for me.

These are said repeatedly to yourself or yourself as that child self.

I Love You, I Am Sorry, Please Forgive Me, I Forgive You, Thank You

This would probably work even more inviting Jesus, The Holy Father and the Holy Spirit to be with you during this time.


answered 28 Jun '10, 07:54

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Wade Casaldi

edited 28 Jun '10, 20:47


(28 Jun '10, 09:49) ursixx

Very good link Ursixx! + 1 for making my answer even better! :-)


(28 Jun '10, 20:48) Wade Casaldi

Thank you, Wade...I always forget the simple answers! Love, Jai

(29 Jun '10, 00:10) Jaianniah

i love you , thanks for your efficient ways wade

(14 Jan '11, 11:15) blubird two

I am happy to be of help

(15 Jan '11, 02:09) Wade Casaldi
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With regard to letting go of any unwanted emotions, ALLOWING the feeling will be enough to dissolve it. If you are afraid to face your feelings then call upon the angels to support and guide you. Self forgiveness is a biggie, so it's great that you've arrived at this point of recognition! Your life will change a lot as a result, you will stop attracting punishment and restriction for a start!

P.S. Youtube and the internet is full of various processes for handling and releasing emotions. Search> Bashar,Brad Yates EFT, Eckhart Tolle pain body, Jeshua.net


answered 25 Oct '11, 01:55

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edited 25 Oct '11, 02:02

Welcome Sharon....I can already tell that you are going to be a great addition to the IQ family!>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

(25 Oct '11, 11:00) Jaianniah
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