thanks to you all and IQ i learned some really amazing tools that help me a lot with feeling good and pushing myself into the vortex.

but i always seem to have a stage every now and then where some techniques will not work and i feel desperate and powerless because i don't know what to do next.

after going through some of these phases i feel like i found the missing piece of the puzzle. whenever i feel like i have no control over my emotions i surrender completely and forgive myself. it seems to be the only way to work in these phases.

what do you think? how important are forgiving and surrendering? do you practice surrender on a daily basis? do you use specific techniques such as ho'oponopono which teach you to surrender and forgive all day every day?

asked 22 Oct '12, 08:04

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edited 22 Oct '12, 08:05

Yes forgiving and surrendering are ways of Accepting What Is, which is the key to feeling good. But they exist because we have Judged someone or something. The more we can let go of Judgement the less we have to forgive and surrender, and the less we have to suffer.


answered 23 Oct '12, 04:47

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thank you, that's very interesting. it makes sense to not judge. but otherwise imo you can't see good things and appreciate if you don't judge because nothing has meaning in itself. we give meaning by judging. so i think you mean don't judge in a negative way rather than don't judge at all?

(23 Oct '12, 06:22) releaser99

If we Trust God, if we Trust the LOA, then we should be letting go of everything that snares us, and keeps us from living worry-free! But, as you say, we have our human moments. We lie awake at night, being upset. Sometimes, we wrestle for a time with the way things are. Eventually, we have to surrender and forgive, or we become bitter and self-pitying. Have you ever met a bitter and angry person? They are not easy to be around! But folks who forgive, folks who surrender, sleep at night because they trust.

Forgiveness and Surrender are vital to a Healthy spiritual life. We all know that Jesus preached on forgiveness. Matthew 5:22-24: "But I say to you that everyone who is angry with his brother will be liable to judgment; whoever insults his brother will be liable to the council; and whoever says, ‘You fool!’ will be liable to the hell of fire. So if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there before the altar and go. First be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift."

"Why forgive?" you may ask, especially when you have really been wronged. We forgive because it is God's Will. But more than that, it is healthy mental hygiene! Why carry around the baggage of resentment and anger? What is the purpose of making ourselves feel like that?

Read my answer here for more on this...It doesn't pay to wrestle with the world! Forgiveness and Surrender are a measure of our Spiritual Health. The more we try to Let Go and Let God, the happier we will be.

In Peace and Love,



answered 22 Oct '12, 08:30

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thank you. like your answer especially the connection you made with surrender and trust. when you surrender you give up and just trust god/the universe.

i'm a person who always wants to improve, learn, take action and find a way to push myself through problems. so i think i have to learn especially to surrender and let go of wanting to do or change something. because this causes resistance and i can feel the difference when i surrender. it feels liberating.

(22 Oct '12, 08:53) releaser99

@releaser99- Me too...Your question came at a good reminded me why surrender is so important to being happy! Thanks! Jai

(22 Oct '12, 08:58) Jaianniah
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